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My self-summary
I recently had a massive shift regarding my self-view and how I view the world. I feel as though I have stepped up a rung on the evolutionary ladder. My eyes are wide open for the first time in my life. I have managed to conquer the chronic pain that I've been hindered by in so many ways over the last 20 years. I feel true peace for the first time in my life, and it is amazing. I feel centered and calm, and very much alive in the moment. It is exhilarating and I am most definitely enjoying it. The baggage that has blocked the path to having a long, productive and satisfying life is gone. The world is so beautiful to me now, full of promise and potential. And I plan on making the most of the rest of my life. I hope that I am able to find someone with the same mindset. That is a must have for me. If my potential partner also happens to be cute, well, that's just the icing on the cake.

I am a big Stephen King fan; as a writer, I look to him as my mentor and my inspiration. James Patterson, John Grisham, Tom Clancy, Dean Koontz, Clive Cussler, Steve Martini, Anne McCaffrey, and John Sandford are just a few of my many other favorites. I read a little of everything, though mystery and imaginative stories are my favorites.

I am a writer, and have two novels about half completed, a third started and another one laid out and waiting for me to get to them. I also have several short stories and two novellas. While my goal was to become published by age 50, I'm writing at a slower pace than I'd like and it'll be more like 51 at this point. But that is fine. Where I am now as a person can only enhance the quality of my writing.

I’d be very pleased to share my stories with you; that IS what they are for, after all, and they will give you a good sense of who I am as a person.

I like a good story, regardless of genre, though I am most partial to those that fall outside the realm of my experience.

I watch a lot of Netflix, catching up on all the stuff that I missed while I was married. Some favorites are “Buffy the Vampire Slayer,” "Bones," "The Dresden Files," “Lost” the new “Battlestar Galactica”—the second best show that I’ve ever seen on TV; “Heroes”, which I liked but was spotty at best. I enjoy the CSI type shows very much as well, especially NCIS.

I also am a big fan of shows from the BBC. Period pieces, classics, comedies, etc. Recently encountered and fell in love with "Sherlock." It's excellent. "Being Human" is another favorite.

I also am a Janeite, especially enjoyed "Pride and Prejudice," "Emma," "Sense and Sensibility," "Persuasion" and "Mansfield Park."

I may as well admit that I am a nerd. I love Sci-Fi, some fantasy, especially LOTR and Dragonriders of Pern...9th Pass in particular. I collect figures related to these genres and prefer to look at them as miniatures, lol. No, I do NOT play with them. They are for display only. I have played D&D, attend SF conventions (though not in some time) I've met Walter Koenig and Majel Barret Roddenberry and saw Gene speak in Cleveland in 1979. (AWESOME!) I've met Alan Dean Foster and got his autograph on a piece of my artwork related to one of his stories. I adore "Firefly" and "Serenity," steampunk--which is in most instances a fancy name for Victorian era SF and fantasy--and much more. I love Japanese animation as well, especially "Macross/Robotech." (Yeah, I know--not the same thing.) I like "The Walking Dead;" I like the first season the best, although the last episodes of season 3 were pretty good, too. I am particulalrly fond of post-apocalyptic stories.

I feel that I am intelligent, and have a goofy sense of humor, running from dry to Monty Pythonesque.

I also like to travel. I was in the Navy for 5 years and have been to: Spain, France, Italy, Yugoslavia, Greece, Israel, Egypt and Tunisia in the Mediterranean. To Diego Garcia and Singapore in the Indian Ocean. I have been to St. Thomas and Nassau in the Caribbean. I've been to Rome, Pompeii, Paris, Pisa, Cannes, Marseilles, Toulon, Alexandria, Cairo, Giza, Dubrovnik, Tel Aviv, Barcelona and Athens to name a few.

My favorite place is any place that there is water—that was why I joined the Navy!

I love music, especially most music from the 80's, very little current music (And I use that term loosely) with the exceptions of Abney Park and FalloutBoy. I do like a little country, primarily Lady Antebellum, The Civil Wars, The Lost Trailers and a few others.

I love art, and, though I haven’t done any of it in some time, I draw, am a good photographer—Navy trained—recently got back into building models (Though I am not content to build them as is, they always have to be as original or heavily modified as possible), and my favorite art is the type that is extremely realistic—as close to life as possible. I love to cook, and am pretty good at it. People watching can definitely be entertaining and endlessly fascinating.

I do not watch or participate in sports of any kind, so any potential partner will not be a sports widow, lol.

Oh, and I’m really, really good with computers and am also very good with remodeling, home improvement and gardening. I LOVE water gardens!

If you and I are compatible, you should know that you will have my full attention. I have no contact of any kind with any of my family, so no drama or ties outside the relationship. Just me and you.

I believe people until they give me reason not to. As for the past, we all have one, and for a lot of us they can be pretty bad—myself included—but I am able to talk about it and be okay with it if the person I’m talking to is okay with it, too. I don’t expect people to share theirs if it makes them too unhappy to do so. Moving forward is always best, but often quite hard to do.
What I’m doing with my life
Finally coming to understand and accept who I am as a human being. What a long, rough trip that has been. The world, for me, is a very different place now. Previously, it was full of pain, fear and regret. Now, it is a place of wonder and hope, as well as vast potential, and I love it.
I’m really good at

Being creative in many mediums.

Caring about others and being accepting of people's differences.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I am a good communicator and open/friendly to new people and experiences.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite book: "The Stand"
Favorite movie: "The Green Mile"
Favorite TV show: "Babylon 5"
Favorite band: Currently Abney Park, recently re-discovered the Michael Stanley Band, Joe Walsh and Steely Dan!
Favorite food: Chinese
Six things I could never do without
My mind
My dogs
My vision
The beauty in the world
Compassionate people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My stories.

Why humanity seems hell-bent on destruction, when it has the potential to become something great.
On a typical Friday night I am
Alone and wishing that I had someone to hang out with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am empathetic, warm, and genuinely interested in helping and emotionally bonding with people, but I used to become easily drained from overdoing for others.

My need to understand myself and others creates strong, close relationships.

I am a very emotional person and feel things quite deeply, but usually keep it in check/under wraps. I am also very analytical, and always try not to react irrationally to things because I'm all too aware how irrational the world truly is.

I have some fear of embarrassing myself in public, so I tend to be reserved unless I’m with someone that I’m comfortable with and feel that I can act naturally, though I'm getting much better at it.

I love spending time with interesting, intelligent people, and love to have great conversations on many varied subjects.
I do have some loner tendencies—I was previously more of an observer than a participator—and will sometimes need time by myself to recharge.

I am definitely more resistant than I should be to put myself in situations where I know I will feel uncomfortable, but that is a work in progress.

I set high standards for my own behavior, and can be horribly judgmental towards myself. (No one judges me as harshly for failing at something as I do myself, although I have been much better about that as of late.)

I not overly fond of talking on the phone, but if I am comfortable with someone, I can literally talk for hours at a time.

I'm something of an English language elitist, and I am greatly annoyed with those who don't understand the difference between “your” and “you're;” “there,” “they’re,” and “their;” "its" and “it’s.”

I try always to be honest. I will avoid saying things if I feel they will hurt other’s feelings, but I will speak up in those situations if pressed to do so. (Do these jeans make my butt look big? type of situations, for example.)

I always try to be kind, patient, and to show compassion to others.

I know that life is hard and that we all have our personal demons to fight, and try to take that in to account at all times.

I am a man with strong opinions/convictions—such as LGBT rights and equality issues—and have no problems with honest communication, but I will always honor your opinion and views if you do the same for me. You get back what you give.

Those who strongly avoid confrontation of any type may not handle me well, as I do express myself, especially on social issues, with some vigor.

Once we establish a friendship, I will care about you wholeheartedly, and will always be there for you when you need me. I am optimistic and naive enough to expect that you will do the same.

Speaking of being naïve, I am an odd mix of cynicism and naiveté. I have no idea how that works, but it’s true.
You should message me if
You have had a full-on spiritual awakening and are wide-awake. This is a must. Otherwise, it would be like dating a teenager, and, as I am 52 years old, that would not be appropriate, however much fun it might be (I love the energy of the age group; I am not a lech, thank you very much).

You would be able to stand being around a high-energy person. I am so full of positive energy just now, and feel like at any time I might just burst. You would have to be understanding of this and patient with me until it settles to a more middle of the road level. Currently, I feel as though my nervous system is practically humming.

You are a humble intellectual, a good conversationalist, or quirky…in a good way, lol.

You despise reality TV & all forms of celebrity worship.

You are a nerd, a geek or a dork. I find these types adorable. (I include myself in this group. Based on testing, I’m Tri-Lamb material.)

You like music, but not the crap on the radio, especially current pop. :P

You like to go for walks and love the water…any water.

You believe in equality and social justice.

You are bookish and love to learn new things.

You can speak the truth, but with tact, and look for the same in your partner and friends.

You find brainy people to be fraking sexy. I'm definitely a sapiosexual.

You know what Firefly is and love it.

YOU ARE A READER. Non-readers need not apply.

YOU HAVE HOBBIES AND INTERESTS. How can someone have no interests? I’ve come across several—scary. What do they do with themselves? Seriously? Anyone? Anyone?
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