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My self-summary
I moved to Houston in 2015 to work on a fucking moon lander! So excited to be here! Be my friend.

Once I got kicked out of Home Depot. They accused me of being a spy from Lowe's. So, there's that.

ENTP, but I think it matters (almost) less than astrology. Speaking of astrology: due to precession, the Zodiac today is something like 22 degrees off of what it used to be. That means there's about a fifty-fifty chance your sign isn't really your sign. That tends to freak out a lot of the people I date; in other words, don't be too discouraged by this paragraph if you're really into astrology. Just please also believe in evolution and gravity and vaccines and stuff.

This is what I want to be like when I'm old.

I'm from the DC area, but have lived in Appalachia (5 years and 1.5 years respectively), Austin (7 years), Moscow (1 month), and Oxford (1 month). These days I think of home as: Houston, where I live and work; Austin, where my house is; and DC, where my family lives.

I have three moms. All of them live in Northern Virginia (DC metro area), as does my younger sister. All four of my parents eat holiday dinners together, which makes us pretty much the least dysfunctional divorced family ever.

Until recently, I had a number of chickens. They have gone to live on a farm (not a euphemism). Their names are all puns: T. Boone Peckens, Cluck Norris, Buffy Orpington the Vampire Slayer (deceased), Alot of Chickens, Captain Peckhard, Eggenvector (deceased), Hen Solo, and Ernestine Heningway (who turned out to be a rooster but is nevertheless named Ernestine). I miss them all very much.

Until recently, I lived in a co-op (not a coop; that was the chickens). I'm interested in starting an intentional community-slash-incubator which is not a co-op. (Edit: Cancel that. I'm done with co-ops for a while. They're fucking exhausting.)

Finally, know that I am related to Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledore by marriage (not my marriage!). It's true! Ask me sometime. (Update: I took real-life Dumbledore's grandson and his wife, my cousin, out for Texas barbecue a while back. They said it tasted magical.)
What I’m doing with my life
I want us to be a multi-planetary species. I think if we don't change something soon, we're going to destroy ourselves. Moreover, statistically, the lack of other communicative intelligent life out there suggests we face a major bottleneck in the next few centuries.

In short, I want to work on putting people on Mars.

My Ph.D. is in molecular biology, but I write navigation software for spacecraft. I also study remote sensing for asteroid and lunar mining.

In the future, I hope to work as one of the following:
- Engineer at SpaceX
- Time traveler
- Starship captain
- Current job is also pretty awesome

The key piece of information here is that I would drop everything for a real, true adventure — to discover a new world. But there are so few unexplored places left to us on earth. So, left without the preferred option, I work to discover more about the world around us.

I work for progressive social change in my free time. In all honesty, I kick ass at it — but it breaks my heart that we still have to fight for some of these things. So I doubt it'll ever be a career.

I spend a lot of time swing dancing (lindy hop and balboa mostly). I am not these people, but still try hard. I tried to learn collegiate shag and kind of gave up for a little while.

Since moving to Houston, new interests include flamenco (dancing) and circus arts.
I’m really good at
Who has a delightful reading voice?

The first things people usually notice about me
I am not a robot
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Here's a list, nowhere near complete [link].

Recent favorites include nearly everything by Neal Stephenson (except Reamde). If you haven't read Seveneves or Anathem and you like well-researched, physically accurate speculative fiction, you're missing out. Key quote from Anathem: '"Our opponent is an alien starship packed with atomic bombs," I said. "We have a protractor."' Stephenson is one of those rare authors who gives us forward-thinking engineers new ideas and visions of a reasonably good future instead of just more apocalypse and post-apocalypse (as much as I love a good zombie flick).

I recently learned that Isaac Asimov followed a very similar career path to my own, and so I've been reading all of his books (did you know he invented the word "robot?"). It's interesting seeing the evolution of his views about women and gender roles over several decades.

Outside of science fiction, I love magical realism — especially Bulgakov's Master and Margarita, and Zafón's Shadow of the Wind. My goal is to read these in their original languages (update: my sister bought me La sombra del viento, so now I can accomplish one of these goals!).

I had a list here, but decided it's better to converse about these things than to simply list them. I don't particularly enjoy horror films, but I'm not opposed to psychological thrillers. I love classics (e.g., Casablanca), and especially stuff with Jimmy Stewart.

I loved The Force Awakens not because of its flawless plotting, but because of its amazingly strong female main character.

Anything Joss Whedon, Firefly, Treme, The Wire, Battlestar Galactica (reboot), Mad Men, Game of Thrones, Community, Marco Polo, Hell on Wheels, Orange Is the New Black, Sense 8, Daredevil. I'm rarely up to date on anything, as I rely on Hulu, torrents, and Netflix for most of these shows.

There's a special place in my heart for Jessica Jones, too — a show which turns the Bechdel test on its head. Honestly, it's my favorite thing from 2015.

A pox on the okcupid girl who got me hooked on the Eleventh Doctor and then dropped off the face of the earth. Not cool, random Internet person.

Queen (mostly for Freddie Mercury), Arcade Fire, Grimes, etc. I'm loving the Deer Tick radio station on Spotify.

I also adore musicals. Rent and Fiddler on the Roof are two of my favorites. I'm a sucker for Disney movie musicals.

I enjoy just about anything with a swing beat and a melody. I visited New Orleans for the French Quarter Festival a while back and basically fell in love with traditional jazz. I highly recommend such bands as Meschiya Lake and the Little Big Horns, Tuba Skinny, Smoking Time Jazz Club, Bumper Jacksons, East Side Dandies, Aunt Ruby's Sweet Jazz Babies, and Jonathan Doyle anything at all. Got to be able to move to it, or I get bored fast.

I haven't eaten gluten in twelve years, and dairy in seventeen. I'm probably Celiac. I get really, really sick when I eat either one, and it's not a fad diet. I get sad when people simply choose not to eat gluten, because WHY WOULD YOU CHOOSE THAT.

I love to cook and I love to eat out.

Prairie Home Companion and Radiolab both make me very happy. Serial is fascinating.

My favorite character is the ampersand. Sometimes I'm tempted to pronounce it "et" instead of "and." (If you know what I'm talking about here, you get major points.)
The six things I could never do without
I used to have a joke here. Everyone has a joke here.

Instead, serious list:
- dancing, because it saves me;
- work-outs, because endorphins;
- the flexibility to study / learn a new subject every few months; and
- friends and family;
- living in a place I love (because I've experienced the alternative);
- a job I love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- The Golden Path, the Fermi Paradox, and the Great Silence
- Changing educational paradigms
- Narrative, credibility, emotion, and personal connection in political communication (and occasionally also in science communication)
- Design and visual explanations
- What class I should sit in on next, or take online next (so far: political communication, interpersonal communication, intro to finance, Mandarin Chinese)
- oktrends and related statistical stuff (let's be honest, oktrends is the real reason I'm on here; where the hell did it go?)
- Feminism
- Whether things are really ironic, or just contrary to expectation
- Privilege and where it comes from and how to live a more ethical life with an understanding of the fortunes with which I have been endowed for no particular reason
- What makes things appropriative (for example, are Mardi Gras Indians an appropriative cultural tradition? Or is it something else other than appropriation, perhaps assimilation, if you don't have privilege at the time you borrowed it?)

Lately, attachment styles and also love languages. If you aren't familiar, google it. Definitely much more useful (for me) than the Meyers-Briggs voodoo. I generally feel love, in order from most to least, (1) physical touch, (2) words of affirmation, (3) quality time, and distant from those, (4) acts of service and (5) gifts. I give love in about the same order, but probably with somewhat greater emphasis on both #4 and #5.
On a typical Friday night I am
I prefer atypical Friday nights. But lately, I've been taking aerials classes at Cirque La Vie, and those are hella addictive.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This one time, a girl on okcupid had written in this section that she picked her nose. I thought her nose was very pretty, so I wrote to her: "I select your nose too!"

Alas, I never heard back.
You should message me if
First of all, you'll probably have to message me first. My new year's resolution is no more online dating. When I make an effort, people treat me like crap, so I'm going to give fewer fucks from now on.

If you need a reference, my former flatmate of two years (BikeInABox) can tell you that I am almost certainly not a creepy mcstalkerton.

You should message me if:
- you like my style and you think I'm attractive.
- you like hippie magic but still plan on vaccinating your kids and don't throw around the word "toxins" like it's popcorn at a midnight Rocky Horror showing.
- you pride yourself on your rocking body and the activities that you undertake to maintain it.
- you're a Renaissance Person, a polymath, a savant, a smarty-McSmartypants, very well read, or just really into learning new things. I find intelligence and drive/ambition to be extremely attractive. This can come in many forms. I prefer people whose interests are somewhat unfamiliar to me. Nerds win.
- you are not passive-aggressive.
- you want children some day.
- you don't smoke, or you plan on not doing it around me. I can't stand it, and too many people in my family have had cancer.

Most importantly, I tend to be attracted to people who prioritize self-improvement, career, and pursuit of knowledge ahead of finding Prince Charming.

You should not message me if:
- you're really into handguns. I've had enough bad experiences with those as it is.
- you're not okay with me living in a co-op. Yes, I have fifteen housemates. I love being around people.
- you're not okay with it that I drive a dented-up '97 Camry (because it's cheap and never breaks down). My next car will be a Tesla Model 3 (I preordered!), but until then you're just going to have to trust.