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My self-summary
*i want to note this right away: lesbian. LEZ. BE. AN. that means that if you have a penis that is not dishwasher-safe, i'm not interested in dating or sleeping with you, so don't bother to message me unless you're looking for awesome new lezzie friends.*

idealist seeks collaborators for subverting the establishment, bar stool philosophizing, creative endeavors, adventure, and general low-key mayhem.

my personality can probably best be described as what would happen if 1) a 13-year old boy who woke up one morning inside a busty woman's body, 2) a snarky and cynical old queen past his glory days, 3) your anti-government survivalist uncle, and 4) a young dorthy day all got together and had a baby. i recognize that reading people's profiles can be a lot like reading the ingredients on a box of processed food and trying to imagine what it tastes like; nevertheless i'll do my best.

i'm an introvert that plays the part of extrovert well (INFP, if it matters). friendly and easy to talk to. unafraid of risk. literate. often mistaken for younger than i am. largely incapable of small talk. craves authentic human connection and intellectual stimulation (and sometimes, pizza).

i'm sensitive to the cruelty and suffering in the world. awed by the beauty and humor occasionally demonstrated by humans. a big soft, wet, gooey heart, but i won't show it right away. striving and wondering if i'll make it. am i a lion disguised as a mouse, or a mouse disguised as a lion? is enough ever enough?

i'm constantly in a state of trying on new things, and have my fingers in many pies. some of my previous incarnations have included: skateboarder, tomboy, riot grrrl, goth, druggie, long term hitchhiker, lumberjack, activist, spoken word-er (?), athlete, burner )'( , sexpot, health nut, social worker, spiritual seeker, woo woo new ager, martial artist, atheist, and a few things i can't mention online. we have a lot to talk about.

i thrive on genuine communication about shit that matters; it is the air i breathe. the older i get, the more apparent it becomes to me that conversation is my religion.
"when two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, god is the electricity that surges between them." -martin buber
What I’m doing with my life
working nights in a gay bar while i prepare to enter a grad program for social work in fall 2016. exercising, playing sports, learning woodworking, learning to play ridiculous 90's r&b hits on ukulele. occasionally cranking out copy for an online queer rag. playing with my 10 week old blue nose pit puppy. trying to meet wonderful people like you.

i'm more about this site for new friendships as i'm spending a lot of time working on myself and prepping for school. i was a somewhat serious athlete throughout my twenties (personal trainer, marathoner, etc) and used to be able to eat and drink as much as i wanted and just exercise to stay super lean, which i've found doesn't work so well in my thirties (goddamn you, delicious alcohol!). so learning about nutrition for the first time and trying to find that sweet spot that satisfies both my epicurean nature and my need to be able to outrun an erupting volcano or swiftly bash aside a horde of zombies. so maybe no casual dating because all of the aforementioned (plus school stuff, work, and hobbies) is time consuming. that said, i could probably make time for the right person.

likes: kung fu flicks, puppies, a good piece of garlic bread, puns(!), sunrises, backyard fires, stand-up comedy, warm mud between my toes, bubble baths, endorphins, sharing a laugh with strangers, morning sex, zombie movies, waffle cones, pink monster trucks.

dislikes: too-cool-for-school people, pickles, apathy, rules, "authority", evangelists, a punch in the face, callousness, endangered species poaching, class warfare, aggressive spiders, shitty drivers, shitty roommates, dog shit on the sidewalk.
I’m really good at
writing. choosing the slowest line in any retail establishment. steering a car with my knees. making others feel comfortable. wrestling dogs. saying it like it is. processing your shit. meeting people. sneezing several times in a row. not judging others (you would be surprised). tending to people who have been overlooked. kissing. communicating fully yet kindly. laughing at inappropriate times. dancing to phat beats. being good to others. defying propriety. not getting offended. dipping my hair into whatever i'm eating. being your wingman. finding the word you're looking for. cooking dope meals. finding the shoes i want cheaper online. coming up with the perfect retort 4 seconds too late to work it into the conversation. handling my anger, and yours too. massage. being present. getting distracted. communicating with the insane. looking extra fly when i wanna.

i'm really bad at:
math. dealing with bureaucracies. spelling "bureaucracy" (i have to look it up every damn time). juggling. keeping my big mouth shut at critical moments. keeping plants alive. smiling on cue for the camera. being patient with automated phone systems. remembering names. remembering MLA formatting. remembering your birthday. giving a shit about pop culture.
The first things people usually notice about me
i hold nothing back. what's the point of speaking at all if you're not going to be completely honest?

on a side note, a boy i once dated said i was "like a fucking unicorn," shaking his head in awe. i think what he was referring to was my intriguing mix of feminine and masculine qualities... i am the type of lass who loves to sew, cook, play dress-up, care-take others, and has a hearty feminine lust for sensual pleasures, and at the same time i will drink you under the table, throw a football around, chop cord wood, and back you up in a bar fight. i guess the word for that these days is "non-binary." i like it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books! i'm a nerd, and i used to read a lot of them. lately my attention span has shrunk to about the length of articles.

tv- currently watching the walking dead, american horror story, and the leftovers. some all-time favorites are orange is the new black, sons of anarchy, true blood, heroes, the office, family guy, the daily show, lie to me, strangers with candy, archer... you get where i'm coming from.

movies- what can i say? i watch a lot but it's hard to thrill me. old ones are best for story writing and character development. i quickly tire of trite dialogue, explosions, CGI, and special effects.

music- i like almost everything (no heavy metal, christian, or contemporary country, thank you very much).
i'm a little obsessed with philip glass. someday i hope to marry a woman who plays the piano. i could forgive a multitude of sins in exchange for a little musical talent.

food- i eat. lately, a lot of sushi and pizza. i'm also a helluva cook. if i like you, you'll see.
The six things I could never do without
alone time. social time. music of all types. books. nature. healthy food. my vixskin outlaw. that's seven, but i'm a rebel, baby.

(runners up: the interwebs, my sense of humor, my homies).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how do we just get humans to treat each other decently? that's the kazillion dollar question, right... the one that would solve all the world's problems.
the collapsing dollar, the future of the united states, what i'm going to eat for lunch, the creative process, women, social justice, how i can best be of service, money, DIY stuff, what i should've said instead of what i actually said, police brutality, the world bankers, boobs, my next tattoos, human motivation, how drag queens do their makeup so much better than i do, the nature of reality, the nature of evil, science, god, sex, what i should be doing instead of this.

(or should that have read "sex-- what i should be doing instead of this"?)
On a typical Friday night I am
working. boo.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i have little concept of personal privacy.

unless you're the nsa.
if you're the nsa, piss off!
You should message me if
what i want:
1) friends!! you should message me if we're over 70% match to one another. here's what i've learned in my several years on okc: regardless of if there turns out to be sexual chemistry, if you meet in person someone who's over 85 or 90 percent match, you have an instant rapport and an awesome new friend. and who doesn't want more awesome friends?
**LESBIANS AND STRAIGHT MEN: PLEASE. i'm surrounded by gay men who have no appreciation for motorcycles or a gorgeous apple-bottom and i need more of you in my life.
(note also: i moved here almost a year ago from portland. is it just me, or does atlanta seem to be teeming with superficially friendly, flakey, cliquey people? call me a romantic, but i'm chiefly interested in cultivating the types of hardcore friend-crushes that manifest as talking over wine for hours on the porch, random urban or travel adventures, and texting each other funny shit at 2 am just because.)

2) sexy connections...?
i've dated a lot, and honestly, at this point i'm looking more to "court" than to "date", although i wouldn't turn away a meaningful casual relationship if one found me. however, i am very picky (at this point i just know what works with me and what doesn't) and also busy.
*note: i'm monogam-ish... i only do open relationships, because life is short and connecting with people is fun. but when i find someone i like i am (mostly) satisfied with them.

be forewarned... poor grammar and spelling are anathema to me! (hiss!!!) if you don't know the difference between their, they're and there, stay away!