57 Germantown, United States
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My self-summary
Polyamorous marriage; either wife or I can close the relationship as we are primary to each other. We believe that love is infinite and can be expressed in any way appropriate, especially sexually. This doesn't mean we rule out polysexuality in favor of polyamory – we don't! However, emotional connection honestly makes way better sex.
What I’m doing with my life
Filling this out, but do you really care about the refi on my house, my hunt for a new ax (musician) or the iPhone app I'm writing?
I’m really good at
The first things people usually notice about me
Not at all slim, but working out hard daily and winning the battle. Other things noticeable include glasses (several pair), goatee, grin, wit, and honestly giving a damn about people and doing what's right. Someone pointed me out as a Heinlein character: "a knight sans peur et sans reproche."

Now a trait snapshot, from
expressive, open, self revealing, loves large parties, social, outgoing, does not like social isolation, assertive, social chameleon, positive, always busy, likes to fit in, likes to stand out, enjoys leadership, brutally honest, trusting, optimistic, desires attention, dominant, aggressive, attachment prone, wants to be understood, realistic
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Omnivore and informally trained chef & sommeliér who loved The Name of the Rose as a book, grumbled about the movie and was finally pleased that someone got Tolkien right on the big screen.
Best restaurant in Memphis: Deli Mexicana!
Also a libravore....
The six things I could never do without
Wife, 'cello, Mac, [iPhone], 'net and love in variable order after wife. :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
||: Tech | Music | Sex | World :||
On a typical Friday night I am
Working with the menagerie at home, redoing the house so I can have guests over by 2012, practicing, gaming with wife online...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been living BDSM as a lifestyle for decades.... It's not a requirement for me, but merely a skillset... and a philia. One doesn't always want habeñeros on one's food, right?
You should message me if
You want to enjoy yourself, be enjoyed, relax and want to come back for more. It's not just about hooking up - it's about enrichment of life and the pursuit of happiness.
That could mean a custom molé dry rub pork loin or... did someone order "loins"?