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My self-summary
Optimism is kinda stupid but I can't help myself

"...I think that I am a reflection, like the moon on water. When you see me, and I try to be a good man, you see yourself..."
-- Kundun

Tue May 9 12:25:57 EDT 2017

I'm looking for friends -- I am unboxable. Save yourself the exasperation and don't try.

I have been a relationship anarchist (RA) in open/poly relationships my whole life. I am open to casually dating -- but I am not actually looking for anything but friendships, networking, and support with other RA/poly (or likeminded/interested) people. I am demisexual, if that matters. I am a switchy dom daddy. If you do not understand what that means, I am not the one for you.

I flirt like it's breathing. I love to kiss. I live with a partner (we met on OKC), and I orbit others: Rockinbrat, lovetolive1908, some others -- which might be disappointing if you are seeking a monogamous primary relationship. I'm not anyone's one-and-only. Not sorry.

The good news is that I won't just trick you into jumping into bed either. You're not a Pokestop & I'm not trying to catch 'em all. Just the facts...

I live intentionally. I'm responsible about the relationships I start and how I conduct myself in them. I want opportunities to connect with people in meaningful ways that leave us both better off for the shared time. If we get to know each other perhaps something more will happen, but I'm not looking for (or expecting) any more than a couple of good (intimate) friendships with open-minded women (or couples) who enjoy face to face interaction. I have references.

I enjoy the masks dropped & defenses down communication which happens with compatible companions and intimate friends. I'm interested in friends who are far enough along in their journeys that they can walk their own path, and realize what is important to them and why. Friends who are wise and absorb their wisdom from their experiences, no matter good or bad. They're happy and understand where that happiness comes from; and like themselves even when they wish they had had done something differently. Because that is my wavelength. Life is experiments, and learning lessons.

Perhaps that rubs you the wrong way, but it IS the most honest thing I could say: Some peoples' key's fit your locks, and that's all there is to it.

I think it is important to understand that when you are involved with ANYONE, knowing them will change you a bit, which can be scary. Being open to new things and ways of being is very important for all of us: If we only sought out what we already knew we would miss much.

When I end up in serious relationships, they've started as good friendships (because, demisexuality). If we're meant to meet -- we will. I have faith and I don't believe there is any way we can screw that up, but let's not put the cart before the horse. I think people force life sometimes. I'm interested in following the energies where they lead, not where they don't.

I'm a creative introvert. I am passionately opinionated, and love a good discussion. I enjoy photography, all types. I have been taking pictures since I was 9 years old. I prefer photographing people in artistic settings. The human figure is wonderfully calming. I also make music, sound design/effects, and narrations for commercials and videos. I work professionally in aerospace IT.

I meditate, sometimes while I am doing housework, sometimes just sitting. I'm an agnostic Taoist and Zen Buddhist. I'm mindful. I see the connections, the bigger picture, the small details. I notice. At the same time, I can forget all and see it new, like never before. I'm also kinky (and on FL). I'm a TCK, and it's shaped who I am and how I act. I went to graduate school for psychology. I love coffee. I care about world affairs. I read. I write sometimes, even music. I am a veteran: Go Navy Beat Army.

If you are a conservative or a Trump voter, we will not get along. Period.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a parent raising a special needs boy and guiding a young woman in college; the two of them are the primary focus of my life. This is the most important work I am doing. Family (broadly defined) matters to me, and entire weekends can be taken up with multi-state road trips visiting them. My children, my birth family, my friend family, and other life responsibilities like my job(s) are all factors which determine the amount of free time I have available for other things, like meeting you for dinner.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read fiction. I am always seeking to learn something, and that means anything interesting on a variety of topics.

Lots of favorite movies.

I don't watch TV, and very happy that way.

I have really broad musical tastes. Riviera Radio from Monaco is a great place to leave your computer tuned in.

I am a cook; a meat-eater who enjoys Vegetarian cooking (and lots of ethnic cuisines).
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How, to some people you are opaque; To others you are transparent. It isn't something you do, so much as something you are in particular combinations, with others.
...If you could observe an object at zero K, would it be invisible because its molecular motion had stopped...?
With grateful thanks for Admiral Grace Murray Hopper: How '...the most dangerous phrase in the language is, "We've always done it this way."'
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends; or kids; or traveling; or napping... Suggest something?
You should message me if
Telegram: @MrDoe2U

If you need an exclusive relationship I AM NOT YOUR GUY.

"Ur lifestyle is against my beliefs," or anything similar to that. You need kinder beliefs. The ones you hold currently kinda suck. Also, proper spelling and grammar, please.

...You need a real friend who has a low bullshit threshold.

...You are demisexual

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The two of us