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My self-summary
Optimism is kinda stupid but I can't help myself

"...I think that I am a reflection, like the moon on water. When you see me, and I try to be a good man, you see yourself..."
-- Kundun

Wed Nov 2 10:50:17 EDT 2016

I'm looking for friends -- I am unboxable. Save yourself the exasperation and don't try.

I have been a relationship anarchist (RA) in open/poly relationships my whole life. I am open to casually dating -- but I am not actually looking for anything but friendships, networking, and support with other RA/poly (or likeminded/interested) people.

I like to flirt. I live with a partner (I met her on OKC), which might be disappointing if you are seeking a monogamous primary relationship. I'm not anyone's one-and-only. I orbit Rockinbrat, lovetolive1908 and Gemi9.

The good news is that I am not looking to trick you into jumping into bed either. I'm not a player looking for a hookup. Just the facts.

I am quite dominant and I live intentionally. I'm responsible about the relationships I start and how I conduct myself in them. I'm not interested in biting off more than I can chew, nor in 'having' as many women as I could 'trick' into my bed. Those are games for shallow, insecure people. There is nothing I want except the opportunity to connect with people in some meaningful way that leaves us both better off for the shared time. So perhaps something else will happen, but I'm not looking for (or expecting) any more than a couple of good (intimate) friendships with open-minded women (or couples) who enjoy face to face interaction.

I enjoy the unabridged, unexpurgated, masks dropped & defenses down communication which happens with compatible companions and intimate friends. I'm interested in friends who are far enough along in their journeys that they can walk their own path, and realize what is important to them and why. Friends who are wise and absorb their wisdom from their experiences, no matter good or bad. They're happy and understand where that happiness comes from; and like themselves even when they wish they had had done something differently. Because that is my wavelength. Life is experiments and learning lessons.

Perhaps that rubs you the wrong way, but it IS the most honest thing I could say: Some peoples' key's fit your locks, and that's all there is to it.

I think it is important to understand that when you are involved with ANYONE, knowing them will change you a bit. If you are afraid of that or resist it, it will not be as much fun as it will if you can be open to it. So being open to new things and ways of being is very important for all of us: If we only sought out what we already knew we would miss much.

When I end up in serious relationships, they've started as good friendships. If we're meant to meet -- we will. I have faith and I don't believe there is any way we can screw that up, but let's not put the cart before the horse. I think people force life sometimes. I'm interested in following the energies where they lead, not where they don't.

I'm a creative introvert. I am passionately opinionated, and love a good discussion. I enjoy photography, all types. I have been taking pictures since I was 9 years old. I prefer photographing people in artistic settings. The human figure is wonderfully calming.

I also make music, sound effects, and narrations for commercials and videos. Sometimes the most fun I have is making spoof commercials ;-)

I meditate, sometimes while I am doing housework, sometimes just sitting. I'm an agnostic Taoist and Zen Buddhist. I also practice energy work and Tantra. I'm mindful. I see the connections, the bigger picture, the small details. I notice. At the same time, I can forget all and see it new, like never before. I'm a TCK, and it's shaped who I am and how I act. I went to graduate school for psychology. I love coffee. I care about world affairs. I read. I write sometimes, even music. I am a veteran: Go Navy Beat Army. If you are a Trump voter, we will not get along. Period.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a parent raising a special needs boy and guiding a young adult in college; the two of them are the primary focus of my life. This is the most important work I am doing. Family is very important to me, and entire weekends can be taken up with multi-state road trips visiting them.

My children, my birth family, and other life responsibilities like my job(s) are all factors in terms of the amount of free time I have available for other things, like meeting you for dinner.

I'm employed full-time in the creative, and science/engineering fields.
I’m really good at
improvisational spontaneity; cooking; etc
The first things people usually notice about me
The voice or the eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read fiction. I am always learning something, so lots of interesting things on a variety of topics. For pleasure lately I read Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche; and Pema Chodron.

Lots of movies.

I don't watch TV, and I am much happier since I stopped.

I have really broad musical tastes.

Riviera Radio from Monaco is a great place to leave your computer tuned in.

I'm love to cook and I am pretty good at it. I am a meat-eater who enjoys Vegetarian food, and American food, Italian food, Chinese food, Thai food, Afghani food, Greek food, Indian food, Middle Eastern food, and more. I'm diabetic so I experiment with foods that are diabetic-friendly.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How, to some people you are opaque; To others you are transparent. It isn't something you do, so much as something you are in particular combinations, with others.
With grateful thanks for Admiral Grace Murray Hopper: How '...the most dangerous phrase in the language is, "We've always done it this way."'
In order to dissolve something, you have to feel it. You hold it in, or you let it pass through you. If it is to pass through you, you need to feel it for it to pass through.

Feeling the Divinity of your life is nothing more or less than being completely open and letting all of it pass through you. There is no other Divinity than this.
On a typical Friday night I am
wondering how the week is over already, or playing with my son, or napping, or at Rocky Horror at the NARO. Suggest something?
You should message me if
Telegram: @MrDoe2U

"Ur lifestyle is against my beliefs," or anything similar to that. You need kinder beliefs. The ones you hold currently kinda suck. Also, proper spelling and grammar, please.

...You need a real friend who has a low bullshit threshold.

...You're looking for an open-minded friend and enjoy discussions on a range of topics.
...You are interested in group meditation on the beach

I'm also looking for friends who might be willing to/could become more. If you need an exclusive relationship I AM NOT YOUR GUY.

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