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My self-summary
Optimism is kinda stupid but I can't help myself

"...I think that I am a reflection, like the moon on water. When you see me, and I try to be a good man, you see yourself..."
-- Kundun

Fri Jun 2 14:54:04 EDT 2017

I'm looking for friends -- I am unboxable. Save yourself the exasperation and don't try.

This profile is long, but It's a truthful statement of who can expect me to be.

I have been a polyamorous relationship anarchist (RA) in open relationships since age twelve. I am open to casual dating -- but I am not actually looking for anything but friendships, networking, and support with other RA/poly (or likeminded/interested) people. I am demisexual, if that matters. I am switchy. If you do not understand, I am not the one for you.

I'm interested in friends who are far enough along in their journeys that they can walk their own path, and realize what is important to them and why. Friends who are wise and absorb their wisdom from their experiences, no matter good or bad. They're happy and understand where that happiness comes from; They like themselves even when the feel they fell short and wish they had had done something differently. Because that is my wavelength. Life is experiments, and learning lessons.

The good news is that I'm really not trying to trick you into just jumping into bed either. You're not a Pokestop & I'm not trying to catch 'em all. Just the facts...

I think it is important to understand that when you are involved with ANYONE, knowing them will change you a bit, which can be scary. Being open to new things and ways of being is very important for all of us: If we only sought out what we already knew we would miss much.

When I end up in serious relationships, they've started as good friendships (because, demisexuality). If we're meant to meet -- we will. I have faith and I don't believe there is any way we can screw that up, but let's not put the cart before the horse. I think people force life sometimes. I'm interested in following the energies where they lead, not where they don't.

I flirt like it's breathing. I love to kiss. I live with a partner (we met on OKC), and I orbit others: Rockinbrat and others -- which might be disappointing if you are seeking a monogamous primary relationship. I'm not anyone's one-and-only. Not sorry. Perhaps that rubs you the wrong way, but it IS the most honest thing I could say: Some peoples' key's fit your locks, and that's all there is to it.

I live intentionally. I'm responsible about the relationships I start and how I conduct myself in them. I want opportunities to connect with people in meaningful ways that leave us both better off for the shared time. If we get to know each other perhaps something more will happen, but I'm not looking for (or expecting) any more than (intimate) friendships with open-minded women (or couples, or men) who enjoy face to face interaction. I have references.

I'm a creative introvert. I am passionately opinionated, and love a good discussion. Politically I am fairly compassionate-liberal. If you are openminded-conservative we might get along, but if you are a rabid liberal hater who is overjoyed that the main effect of Trump so far has been liberal tears you can just go fuck right off. I fought in our country's armed forces so people like you could live peacefully, but your ideas are offensive to me. Period.

I work professionally in aerospace IT. I'm committed to science. I FACT-CHECK things, seeking support for them in research. I also have performed original research, and I have a background in (among other things) data analysis and writing research reports.

This means that while I am very open-minded when it comes to ideas, there is a standard of evidence which I use to evaluate their veracity and effectiveness. I am also committed to pointing out sloppy thinking when it leads to dangerous consequences.

I enjoy photography, all types. I have been taking pictures since I was 9 years old. I Love cooking from scratch. I also make music, sound design/effects, and narrations for commercials and videos.

I practice Zen meditation, sometimes while I am doing housework, sometimes just sitting. I'm an agnostic Buddhist/Taoist. I'm a TCK, and it's shaped who I am and how I act. I love coffee. I care about world affairs. I read. I write sometimes, even music. I am a veteran: Go Navy Beat Army. I'm interested in preparedness generally. I've recently completed CERT training in the city where I live, and interested in getting more involved. If we aren't here for each other, who will be?
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a parent raising a special needs boy and guiding a young woman in college; the two of them are the primary focus of my life. This is the most important work I am doing. Family (broadly defined) matters to me, and entire weekends can be taken up with multi-state road trips visiting them. My children, my birth family, my friend family, and other life responsibilities like my job(s) are all factors which determine the amount of free time I have available for other things, like meeting you for dinner.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read fiction. I am always seeking to learn something, and that means anything interesting on a variety of topics.

Lots of favorite movies.

I don't watch TV, and very happy that way.

I have really broad musical tastes. Riviera Radio from Monaco is a great place to leave your computer tuned in.

I am a cook; a meat-eater who enjoys Vegetarian cooking (and lots of ethnic cuisines).
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How, to some people you are opaque; To others you are transparent. It isn't something you do, so much as something you are in particular combinations, with others.
...If you could observe an object at zero K, would it be invisible because its molecular motion had stopped...?
With grateful thanks for Admiral Grace Murray Hopper: How '...the most dangerous phrase in the language is, "We've always done it this way."'
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends; or kids; or traveling; or napping... Suggest something?
You should message me if
Telegram: @MrDoe2U

If you need an exclusive relationship I AM NOT YOUR GUY.

"Ur lifestyle is against my beliefs," or anything similar to that. You need kinder beliefs. The ones you hold currently kinda suck. Also, proper spelling and grammar, please.

...You need a real friend who has a low bullshit threshold.

...You are demisexual

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