mrdoe2u
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My self-summary
Optimism is kinda stupid but I can't help myself

"...I think that I am a reflection, like the moon on water. When you see me, and I try to be a good man, you see yourself..."
-- Kundun

Wed Mar 15 13:47:13 EDT 2017

I'm looking for friends -- I am unboxable. Save yourself the exasperation and don't try.

I have been a relationship anarchist (RA) in open/poly relationships my whole life. I am open to casually dating -- but I am not actually looking for anything but friendships, networking, and support with other RA/poly (or likeminded/interested) people. I am demisexual, if that matters.

I like to flirt. I do love to kiss. I live with a partner (I met her here on OKC), and I orbit Rockinbrat, lovetolive1908 and Gemi9 and some others -- which might be disappointing if you are seeking a monogamous primary relationship. I'm not anyone's one-and-only.

The good news is that I am not looking to trick you into jumping into bed either. I'm not a player looking for a hookup. I don't play Pokemon Go. I'm not trying to catch 'em all. Not interested in biting off more than I can chew, or in 'having' as many women as I could 'trick' into the sack. Just the facts...

I live intentionally. I'm responsible about the relationships I start and how I conduct myself in them. I want opportunities to connect with people in meaningful ways that leave us both better off for the shared time. If we get to know each other perhaps something more will happen, but I'm not looking for (or expecting) any more than a couple of good (intimate) friendships with open-minded women (or couples) who enjoy face to face interaction. I have references.

I enjoy the masks dropped & defenses down communication which happens with compatible companions and intimate friends. I'm interested in friends who are far enough along in their journeys that they can walk their own path, and realize what is important to them and why. Friends who are wise and absorb their wisdom from their experiences, no matter good or bad. They're happy and understand where that happiness comes from; and like themselves even when they wish they had had done something differently. Because that is my wavelength. Life is experiments, and learning lessons.

Perhaps that rubs you the wrong way, but it IS the most honest thing I could say: Some peoples' key's fit your locks, and that's all there is to it.

I think it is important to understand that when you are involved with ANYONE, knowing them will change you a bit, which can be scary. Being open to new things and ways of being is very important for all of us: If we only sought out what we already knew we would miss much.

When I end up in serious relationships, they've started as good friendships (because, demisexuality). If we're meant to meet -- we will. I have faith and I don't believe there is any way we can screw that up, but let's not put the cart before the horse. I think people force life sometimes. I'm interested in following the energies where they lead, not where they don't.

I'm a creative introvert. I am passionately opinionated, and love a good discussion. I am a switchy dom. I enjoy photography, all types. I have been taking pictures since I was 9 years old. I prefer photographing people in artistic settings. The human figure is wonderfully calming. I also make music, sound design/effects, and narrations for commercials and videos. I work professionally in aerospace IT.

I meditate, sometimes while I am doing housework, sometimes just sitting. I'm an agnostic Taoist and Zen Buddhist. I'm mindful. I see the connections, the bigger picture, the small details. I notice. At the same time, I can forget all and see it new, like never before. I'm also kinky (and on FL). I'm a TCK, and it's shaped who I am and how I act. I went to graduate school for psychology. I love coffee. I care about world affairs. I read. I write sometimes, even music. I am a veteran: Go Navy Beat Army.

If you are a Trump voter, we will not get along. Period.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a parent raising a special needs boy and guiding a young adult in college; the two of them are the primary focus of my life. This is the most important work I am doing. Family (broadly defined) is very important to me, and entire weekends can be taken up with multi-state road trips visiting them. My children, my birth family, my friend family, and other life responsibilities like my job(s) are all factors in terms of the amount of free time I have available for other things, like meeting you for dinner.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read fiction. I am always learning something, so lots of interesting things on a variety of topics.

Lots of movies.

I don't watch TV, and very happy that way.

I have really broad musical tastes. Riviera Radio from Monaco is a great place to leave your computer tuned in.

I am a cook; a meat-eater who enjoys Vegetarian cooking, and a broad range of ethnic cuisine.
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How, to some people you are opaque; To others you are transparent. It isn't something you do, so much as something you are in particular combinations, with others.
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...If you could observe an object at zero K, would it be invisible because its molecular motion had stopped...?
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With grateful thanks for Admiral Grace Murray Hopper: How '...the most dangerous phrase in the language is, "We've always done it this way."'
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends; or kids; or traveling; or napping... Suggest something?
You should message me if
Telegram: @MrDoe2U

If you need an exclusive relationship I AM NOT YOUR GUY.

PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF YOU'RE GOING TO SAY
"Ur lifestyle is against my beliefs," or anything similar to that. You need kinder beliefs. The ones you hold currently kinda suck. Also, proper spelling and grammar, please.

BY ALL MEANS MESSAGE ME IF:
...You need a real friend who has a low bullshit threshold.

...You are demisexual

OR IF:
You dig any of these:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hgwKQl3n0Cc
OR
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201407/seven-forms-non-monogamy
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