57Elkridge, United States
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My self-summary
Intelligent, kind, passionate writer/editor, hiker, sometime actor/singer/photographer, emerging from a 10-year caregiving gig and various other painful experiences, seeks joy.
What I’m doing with my life
Not enough, truthfully. I hope to change that as I continue to grow into my best self. My job as a technical writer has been demanding and largely thankless, but allowed me the flexibility to work from home some days, where I was best able to care for my mom and my senior dog. I'm between jobs at the moment and looking for a similar gig. I have recently begun to meditate, with great expectations for changing my thought patterns (those I don't want, anyway) and my life.
I’m really good at
Communicating, keeping my word, teaching, learning, details, planning, organizing, pleasant surprises... and I make a mean egg curry.
The first things people usually notice about me
My androgyny, hair, eyes, firm handshake, smile, intellect, sense of humor (so I'm told), and definitely my dog when she was with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Margaret Atwood, Ray Bradbury, Octavia Butler, Alain de Botton, Charles Dickens, Robert Heinlein, Ernest Hemingway, Shirley Jackson, Karl Jung (esp. his autobiography), Madeleine L'Engle, Jack London, Herman Melville, Edgar Allan Poe, Anne Rice, Joanna Russ, David Sedaris, Alice Sebold, Robert L. Stevenson, Henry David Thoreau...

Movies: Alien quadrilogy, Bram Stoker's Dracula, Dark Shadows, The Hunger, Moon, Sweeney Todd, This is Spinal Tap, The Trip to Bountiful, anything directed by Guest or Hitchcock or Mamet or von Trier or featuring Kathy Bates, Willem Dafoe, Catherine Deneuve, Johnny Depp, Jodie Foster, Charlotte Gainsbourg, Katharine Hepburn, Anthony Hopkins, John Hurt, Jack Nicholson, Gary Oldman, Geraldine Page, Chistina Ricci, Susan Sarandon, Chloë Sevigny, Meryl Streep, Sigourney Weaver, William H. Macy... Documentaries. Thoughtful horror & sci-fi. Classics. B and cult films.

Shows: Don't do much TV, but try to catch SNL and the occasional NatGeo wildlife film or PBS special when I can. Enjoy/ed American Horror Story, Being Human, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Mad Men, Orphan Black, Pit Bulls and Parolees, The Tudors, The Young Pope. Avid NPR listener/supporter.

Music: Medieval/Renaissance/Baroque, Great American Songbook, 60s/70s, folk (American, English, Celtic), singer-songwriter, close/dense harmony, "difficult music," otherworldly rock, New Wave, Goth, dance, electronica, ambient, trance. Sample artists: Tori Amos, Laurie Anderson, B-52s, Babybird, J.S. Bach, Beatles, Belle and Sebastian, Björk, Bleachers, Blondie, David Bowie, Jeff Buckley, Kate Bush, David Byrne, Johnny Cash, Cocteau Twins, Dean & Britta, Death Cab for Cutie, Iris Dement, DJ Spooky, Dufay, Florence and the Machine, Peter Gabriel, Girlyman, God Is An Astronaut, Grimes, Josephine Foster, Girlyman, Tylan Greenstein, Jeff Hanson, Robyn Hitchcock, Lady Gaga, Ladytron, Longhouse, Mamas and Papas, Aimee Mann, Massive Attack, Nellie McKay, Stephin Merritt, Joni Mitchell, Meredith Monk, Morrissey, Mors Syphilitica, Ockeghem, Nirvana, Agnes Obel, Michael Penn, Pixies, Poozies, Radiohead, Rasputina, Lou Reed, Roches, Frankie Rose, Roxy Music, Pete Seeger, Regina Spektor, Simon & Garfunkel, Patti Smith, St. Vincent, Stars, Stereolab, Storyhill, Swans, Tallis, Tear Garden, They Might Be Giants, Tycho, Anna von Hausswolff, Rufus Wainwright, Gillian Welch, Lucinda Williams, Neil Young...

Food: (New) Mexican, Indian, Ethiopian, tapas, nuts, heirloom tomatoes, kale and greens in general, apples, citrus, olives, fungi, local/organic foods, sustainable/wild game/fish, bread, and cheese (probably the final frontier on my journey toward veganism). Wine, beer, gin, single-malt scotch, tequila, coffee, tea.
Six things I could never do without
Tough one, as I have had to do without much from time to time. In a perfect world, I suppose these would be: belief in a higher power, love, passion (sexual and otherwise), good food and drink, my health, my mind (not to overthink this). I wouldn't want to do without NPR, but that would be seven things...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
things in general. I do think often about God, the past, the future, other life forms, the spirit/spiritual world, my job, my relationships, my dog, love and its vagaries/rewards, the planet.
On a typical Friday night I am
glad the work week is over (usually), hopefully enjoying a pizza at some point, listening to music (or maybe a podcast of the Diane Rehm Show) or watching an episode of some obscure TV series I've missed or an on-demand movie. Out if I get dragged there.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am not genetically male, though I live as male and am most often perceived that way. I'm a female-to-male (FTM) transgender person not considering surgery, mostly for health reasons. This isn't exactly a private matter, though.
You should message me if
you don't subscribe to the binary gender system (and don't require that your partner be 100% anatomically male); have integrity; are mentally and emotionally available, sensual, curious about life; enjoy language and music; and are on a genuine quest for "the marriage of true minds..." New friends and activity partners are also most welcome.
The two of us