In my "Personality" tab, it says I'm "Less Old-Fashioned". I guess that's true in a lot of ways, because if you live a life of straight and narrow, I must appear as some crazy wild thing. BUT amongst my priorities in life are things like taking care of my family and being a loyal friend.
I am pansexual. I am married. I am a polyamorist. I am kinky. I'm pretty pleased with my cisfemininity (so long as "femininity" includes wearing hightops, rolled-up jeans and men's shirts more often than not- and I think it does!), but don't really subscribe to a binary view of sexuality and gender. So if you need one word to try and describe me, I'd pick QUEER.
(Normally I don't like to define myself or others on the basis of with whom I/they have sex, but since this is a dating site, I will open with that information in order to clear away confusion. Honestly and communication are all important!)
That said, I'm open to pen-palling with people of similar interests. Or making friends in my new city/country. I'm interested in a person (or people) who can fill in some gaps in my sex and social life (whilst at the same time being mindful of not getting into a pokemon/objectifying mode). My husband is more than OK with me dating and telling him all about it. I'm not looking for a replacement primary. (And actually, I'm starting to question the whole "primary" system within polyamory, but that's another conversation.)
My faith is important to me. I don't worry particularly about yours or your lack thereof, so long as you don't hate on mine, and are overall respectful of others'. I'm on the Sufi path, which makes me a Muslim. I'm VERY progressive (see bi, poly, and perforinked, below). I try to meditate every day, and am learning to appreciate My Beloved's presence in every person, thing, and moment. I don't talk about it much, but will if asked. I dislike extremists and hypocrites of all colours and sizes: that goes for Muslims, Christians and Atheists alike.
I'm perforinked: tattooed, pierced, scarred and branded. Body art is an expression of one's self, and piercings in the right places are fun. And I've got lots of fun piercings. I believe that they're a wonderful expression of a personality, and feel as though I'm concealing a part of myself if my ink is covered.
I love doing crafty things like Ukrainian egg decorating and henna. I love teaching (I have taught Irish dance and either side of the Atlantic and English in Germany, and directed a musical in Lisbon) because it lets me grow almost as much as my students. I love board games, card games, computer games and especially role-playing games.
I'm political in that I can't tolerate intolerance, won't stand for injustice. I'm a feminist. And if you have to box my political beliefs, I'm an anarcho-socialist (or thereabouts).
I savour life. New experiences are wonderful, but old ones can be just as amazing. I find joy and beauty and marvel in the big and small.
I love to travel, and even more; love returning home. After being born and raised in Canada, I lived in Portugal for two years, Germany for two years, Maritime Canada for a year, and am now living in America for the first time. I've moved five times in the past six years, and enjoy all the planning and unpacking, and the challenge of creating a new home. It's like theatre: you create something wonderful, and then strike the set and move on to the next project.
I'm ridiculously sociable. I love learning about other people and their stories, traditions, cultures. It confounds my husband how I'll start up a conversation with someone at random, for example in the line at a grocery store. I make friends fairly easily.
My heart has been sorely wounded in the past, but I'm not ashamed of my emotional scars; they help define me, and are a reminder of how far I've come, what I've survived. Besides, scars can be sexy.
Right now I'm playing hausfrau (and it's not just about cooking and cleaning, it's about providing a nurturing environment for my family) and loving it. I live with my husband of 3 years and our 2 year old cat. My youngest daughter just moved out, so I'm now adjusting to empty nesting.
I want to work because I want to be able to travel and have more financial freedom. But if someone would just give me money to stay at home, I would be totally OK with that. I can always find something to do, and love volunteering. I don't need work to find fulfillment.
I'm about to leave Europe and move to Canada.
I love new experiences, and savouring every moment, and am pleased to report I am doing so! I also love documenting my life, and am a compulsive photographer and blogger.
My smile: my exuberance and self-assurance.
Persian Love Poetry (Rumi, Omar Khayyam, Hafiz, etc), Science Fiction (Cyberpunk, classics like Asimov/Heinlein, Banks, MacCleod, Sterling, Neal Stephenson, etc), Cookbooks (vegetarian/vegan, local foods), Fantasy (GRR Martin, Robin Hobb, Tolkien, Anthony), Role-playing Games, Non-Fiction (I'm always looking to expand my mind: science, philosophy, history, etc), Totalitarian literature (We, 1984, A Clockwork Orange, A Handmaid's Tale, etc), Comics (Sandman, Beautiful Stories for Ugly Children, webcomics, Lobo, Hellraiser, Alien Vs. Predator, Angel Claw, etc)
Jodorowsky, The Hunger, RHPS, Superstar, Lord of The Rings, Blade Runner, Monty Python, A Clockwork Orange
Doctor Who/Torchwood, Big Bang Theory, Game of Thrones, True Blood, Glee (though I hate myself for it), Fringe, Castle, Firefly, So You Think You Can Dance, Utopia, Misfits, Competitive Cooking Shows, and cooking shows
Irish trad, Goth, 70's/80's Punk, Industrial, Sufi, Classical, Good techno/psy-trance (something I can get lost in), 80's "alternative"/retro
Garlic butter and anything you can put it on (lobster, pasta, artichokes, etc), Crème brulée, Sushi, Aged cheddar. Anything (without pork) cooked with care.
I enjoy the challenge of transforming traditional foods into vegan and/or vegetarian versions.
Listening to great music.
No matter what, I'm loving life.
I tend to dress fairly "butch", but wear lacy bras.
... you can communicate in English and/or French and/or German
As much as it has been a turn on in the past, for safety sake mostly (and for my husband's comfort level) I'm not thrilled at the idea of just sex. I'm more of a "friends with benefits" kind of person. I'd like to be able to enjoy a good meal, conversation and evening with someone before hitting the sheets, or a day/weekend trip to a fun location where we can learn things together and take lots of goofy photos. All in all, I'm happy to meet new people, learn about their stories, get to know the world one person at a time, so even if the physical chemistry isn't happening, I'm happy to have made a new friend.
Fair Warning: I'm not looking for someone to marry or anything like that. I'm moving to Eastern Canada in August.