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My self-summary
Just the other day while sipping my latte in a local cafe, I overheard a man say “I'd like to find a heart, mind, and soul connection where we cherish our moments together, but also appreciate the spaces in-between.” Sounds lovely to me. How about you? So here I am looking for a romantic friend, for starters, a man who wants to play and explore with me, travel to places here and there, be foolish and smart, and sometimes, well, just hang out with me.

I’m curious about most everything—people’s stories, politics, the news of the day—youthful, sensual, colorful, visual, offbeat, sometimes brave n' bold, an evolved soul, so I've been told. Anyway, I try to be emotionally present and tune in to nuances in nature, language, the rhythms of the body, the heart.

After spending 25+ years as an editor/writer for a Berkeley-based public policy consulting firm, I'm now self-employed (and loving it!), focusing on issues related to postsecondary education and the U.S. workforce, or what’s left of it.;) No “job” has been as joyful, and challenging, though, as raising my three sons (now fully launched), sometimes solo.

Among other pleasures, I enjoy film, reading/writing fiction (yay, poet-a-tree!), exploring the Bay Area’s peaks and valleys, political satire, CAL Performances, Berkeley Rep. I love New York always—not just in June—jazz, Broadway shows, a Gershwin tune. I’m drawn to the north coast when the rain is hard, the ocean, wild, crossing the International Date Line (not to be confused with international dating), discovering distant lands, cultures, treasures.

Strike a familiar chord? If so, I'd love to hear from you. . . .
What I’m doing with my life
This question calls to mind the song lyrics that go something like this: "What are you doing the rest of your life? North and South and East and West of your life . . ." I especially like the Chris Botti version--sultry, dreamy.

International travel is a priority for me, especially to far-flung, exotic spots, sometimes whose names I can't pronounce. In recent years, I've traveled to Peru/Machu Picchu, Costa Rica, Thailand, China, Dubai, and twice to India. Last year I took a trip to Prague and Budapest, stopping at the quaint villages, medieval castles, Roman ruins along the way. This year, Vietnam. My travel wish list is long: from Australia to Zimbabwe. Want to join me?
I’m really good at
. . . so I've been told: Writing (nonfiction and fiction, especially poetry), creative problem solving, listening, observing, offering support when asked, loving, intuiting, incurable romanticizing, procrastinating, going deep rather than "small talking." I'm an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality scale if that means anything to you.
The first things people usually notice about me
My light shines bright.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too many to list here. I rarely watch tv, except some shows on hbo and msnbc. I mostly read poetry (and write it, too), short stories, and literary fiction. I read and write nonfiction (supposedly) every day in my work.
Six things I could never do without
New question:
"The six things I would rather not do without" (not necessarily in priority order):

My family of creation vs. family of origin
Worldwide peace ("Imagine"!)
A roof over my head or a sturdy tent
Ability and wherewithal to discover new cultures and locales
Happiness, rather than the pursuit thereof

And some "creature comforts" I'd rather not do without such as:

Poetry, literary fiction, Netflix, and theaters that show artsy/indie flicks
The fine art of haiku
Access to the Internet and social media (Facebook, Twitter--to spread the good word around the world)
Paper, pens, pencils, & post-its
Music (from A capella to Zydeco) and the lovely sound of silence
The rambling creek in my backyard, where the shorebirds hang out, and my frequent walks near there

Just noticed I'm supposed to list six things here. Well, I guess that reveals my resistance to following instructions.:)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Lately I've been preoccupied with the "meaning of life," and here's my conclusion:
The meaning of life is life. I think I am; therefore I think I am.
On a typical Friday night I am
As Lady Gaga once said, among other things, "I'm obsessively opposed to the typical."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm willing to admit that I haven't revealed anything "private" on my profile, except this:
Pheromones rule. Surprise me!
You should message me if
. . . you have a love of language, lively mind, offbeat sense of humor, willingness to cross bridges (figuratively, too), and desire to follow your own soul’s compass, and no one else’s. You tend to be introspective, with lots of “there” there. You love to travel, to learn about other cultures, to get to know people whose lives, attitudes, looks are unlike yours. You are still awed by the many sounds, shades, and colors of it all . . . and want to share those pleasures with another. And, like me, you are kind. You are emotionally generous.

If you'd rather read Raymond Carver's okcupid profile, here's the version edited by Gordon Lish:
The two of us