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My self-summary
Connecting with someone's heart is the most human of experiences, and I seek to fully explore and nurture my humanity through doing exactly that. The form is not important. I seek beauty in people, of all kinds. I do not do dating sites and I am not inclined to profiling myself. I often find it can be a very ego-feeding activity, feeding latent narcisistic tendencies perhaps. That being said, this is a long profile, so if you are not up to it, I don't blame you. If you are willing and take the time to read it, I will be grateful, whether you contact me or not.

I am on a journey of self-discovery after two life changing experiences in one year confronted me with mortality face to face. I have come to, or at least I am beginning to belive in some degree of synchronicity of how life unfolds.
What I’m doing with my life
I am pursuing many dreams and walking a rich path. Living life cherishing each and every moment, all we really have. Nurturing connections in all possible ways, my circle of love includes many people from many walks of life.

I thrive in tolerant, accepting and loving environments where arts, music, dance, love and community are central. I am resuming my passion for music making, I collect and play different instruments, and I am now learning the bass guitar (Golden Slumbers is my favorite now, since I dedicate it to my beloved sister now in the ICU). I love people, their stories, and connecting with what makes the hearts soar, their inner goodness and wisdom.

I strive to have strong, unique and deep connection with people, from the inside out or the outside in, in whichever way the dance of life flows. I like to stay away from boxes, labels, loaded words, and limiting stories about who we are together. I enjoy contact improvisation dancing, poetry, music and the whole range of beauty that life as evolving human beings offers. I am open to possibilities and enjoy the vitality that awareness, freedom, kindness and honesty brings to a connection with someone, as it unfolds.

I am also the father of a 19 year old young woman who is the apple of my eye. I love discovering her more and more as she reveals herself as the person she wants to be in the world. She is away in school and I miss her and use any opportunity to spend time with her. Her mother and I split up over a year ago and we have an increasingly amicable relationship.

I am involved in an loving intentional relationship and moving in with a woman who understands, loves and embraces who I truly am, with my need to seek and maintain interconnectedness among my fellow humans and non-human who form my circle of love. She is a spiritual comrade along our paths, we have a tantric relationship and I delight and fall in love with every moment that we put into each other with intention and discovery. I fall in love easily and she understands that.

Keeping multiple romances is not within the range of my possibilities right now. I have lots of room in my heart for loving, cuddling friends with whom I dance and make music, or simply cuddle and open up. Sexual experimentation from a place of sharing our love, available energy and fun might be the way to go for us eventually, checking in with each other to make sure we are on a similar learning curve and comfort zone. Right now we are simply putting out energy in our new life together and the intensity of discovering each other moment to moment. That takes energy, time and dedication, so we tend to be the focus on each other a lot of our time.
I’m really good at
Connecting, laughing, cuddling, cuddling, and cuddling, and...did I say cuddling? laughing, playing, being emotional, jamming, crying and laughing my ass off with life affirming experiences, flowing. I cherish being a Dad of now an 19 year old young woman, and shared that with my now ex and I guess can take some of the credit. Showing up for life is important.

I like to keep growing in all areas of life that matter to me, and this area matters to me. Exploring, connecting, going with the flow, cooking tasty and creative veg meals. Like to really discover people for who they are inside and listen to their stories. Having connected, long and engaged emotional, artistic, philosophical, political and spiritual discussions, and appreciating the most ordinary of moments.
The first things people usually notice about me
In the order I most hear about it: my accent, my smile and often corky humor. My eyes, my ability to listen, my kindness and sincerity, my musical and dancing persona, my love for living creatures and nature.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Poetry, Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Chris Hitchens, Tolkien, Khalil Gibran, Kissing the Sunshine Pig, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, the Kite Runner (cry each time I think about it), Pablo Neruda, Walt Whitman, T. S. Elliot, Robert Foster and Leonard Cohen's poetry. Isabel Allende, Garcia Marquez...mmmh, so much more I cannot remember.

Movies: Happy Feet, Up, Toy Story (I love Pixar and good animations with humour and humanity in it). Delicatessen, Amelie, Francois Truffaut (spelling may be wrong), French film, oldies, Local Hero, Pricilla Queen of the Desert, Departures, Billy Elliot, Lord of the Rings, Everything Illuminated, The Station Agent, Pedro Almodovar, Manon of the Springs, Jean de Florette, Y tu Mama Tambien, Sex and Lucia, All about my mother, Volver, and so, so many more. I love film. Will Farrell makes me laugh even when he is being serious. I identify with his wackiness.

Shows: Bored to Death, Game of Trhones, Dr. Who, Pillars of the Earth, Seinfeld re-runs. Not a TV guy. I am a late convert to Game of Thrones, Fringe, and Boardwalk Empire. Some of these shows kick ass and scare me at the same time.

Music: David Bowie, Marc Almond, Talking Heads, Francoise Hardy, old Sinatra, Tony Benet, Ella Fitzgerald, The Beatles, Schubert, Chopin, Liszt, Ravel, Debussy, Bach, Vivaldi, Mozart, Monteverdi, Handel, The Stones, Crosby, Still and Young, Leonard Cohen, Middle Eastern, East African, Flamenco. The Doors (would have slept or at least cuddled with Jim Morrison), Led Zeppelin (yes, I would sleep with Robert Plant, even now), James Brown, Johnny Cash, Joe Cocker, Jimmy Hendrix, Pink Floyd, Soft Sell, The Animals, Queen, Yes, Edith Piaf, Janis Joplin Charles Aznavour, and so much, so much more.

Food: Vegetarian: South Asian, Ethiopian, Southern France, Persian, Moroccan, Italian, And Peruvian, Rasta food, some French Canadian and First Nation foods. Seasonal food. Making the best of what is available fresh and local.. I love all vegetarian food when well prepared. I am mostly veg except when I visit my mom by the Chilean coast and she invites me to eat fresh fish by the rocks where the waves break. I also indulge in Peruvian food which includes ceviche and other fish items, but quite seldom. I know, ethically it may be a contradiction...and willing to live with it......I love cooking and eating with love for the people around me, my body, fellow evolving beings, and mother earth. I do not claim to get it right each time !!
Six things I could never do without
Not in any particular order, touch, laughter, the warmth of another living being at some point in time, I am a loving ethical omnivore slut in most aspects of my life, music, arts, heartwarming food, a comfortable bed and seat, hot shower, dancing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The meaning of being human, how I want to live my life to its fullest potential.
The future of mother earth and her fruits (including us).
Social justice and a way to serve it.
Music, connectedness, those whom I cherish in life.
My 19 year old daughter studding in Kingston and how much I miss her.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typical is not within my range of favorite words or ways of behaving. I am often at the MOVE Collective ecstatic dancing ( followed by contact improvization jamming. I can simply opt for parking my tired ass at home and chill in bed on a rainy, cold evening, ordering take out and watching a movie, or simply enjoy my lover or my friends in any way that unfolds. I enjoy and value human connectedness and loving in all its forms and all its diversity. Eating good food afterward (it makes you incredibly hungry), loving, relaxing and sleeping like a baby with all the expansive energy within me..Mmmh, and whatever else flows from there :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a loving ethical omnivore slut in most aspects of my life. I chose bisexual but the better term would be eco-sexual, or pan sexual. I do not like the word straight, and tend to gravitate to women 99.9 % of the times. I want to leave the door open, since I have made out with two men and truly enjoyed it. I also dance with men and enjoy that male to male energy. I feel it is important to keep that door open. I am open to possibilities, provided that there is chemistry, honesty, respect and loving kindness

I collect rare musical instruments, especially bagpipes (which I was trained to play by a wonderful recording artist) and exotic wind once per day for something that may trigger itI can get a high from Bach, Mozart, or Led Zeppelin. I have a Seinfeld reference at least daily. It may get stale, since the show is from over 20 years ago now.
You should message me if
You were able to read this full profile and it resonated with you in one way at least, you are curious or take an interest in discovering each other.
The two of us