56 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I am trustworthy. I'm interested in deep connection. Long term relationships preferred.

1. I enjoy casual relationships. By this, I mean I can be in a relationship that is platonic by most cultural standards but still includes intimacy that that doesn’t fit most traditional guidelines.

2. I hope to be in a deep, healthy, loving long-term relationship. Some food for thought ---

I've had many experiences and done of lot of work. When we are in a relationship, I am more drawn to you if you take care of your emotional, psychological and physical health. I perceive your life-satisfaction and hope to share in it. I’m less likely to stay involved with a partner who has a high degree of self-dissatisfaction. I’m more likely to open myself to the vulnerability of commitment if I perceive that you truly enjoy your life. This is more important that the commonalities we share.

This is about mutual respect. My respect for you increases my respect for me. Your respect for me raises your own self-respect. It’s a beautiful and healthy cycle.

It’s important to remember that perceptions are involved. If I have feelings for you and about you, I need to express them. If I don’t, you can misinterpret my lack of expression for lack of interest. Communication is important and comes in many forms: verbal, body language, acts of kindness and thoughtfulness.
I can bend my gender a little from time to time. I identify as a cis-male. At various times I might be described as: switch, bisexual, musical, educational, open, studious, entrepreneurial, geeky, silly, serious, funny and intelligent. Intelligence is important to me! I am drawn toward people who are motivated by knowledge and I adore a good conversationalist.

I'm able to live in the present. I accept the past but don't dwell there. I look forward to the future but don't fret about it (that was a guitar joke).

I have been gainfully self-employed for decades. I bring music into people's lives through education and performance.

I am atypical. I am fun. I am not for everybody. I love long deep discussions (I know the difference between discussion and dispute). I enjoy my time on this earth. Shouldn't we all?

I'm open.
Open to new ideas.
Open to innovative thought
Open to answering any questions.
Open to a myriad of experiences.

I've had at least a half-a-myriad of experiences.

What does spirituality mean? For me it’s something beyond the physical. Sometimes the word metaphysical just doesn’t cover it, though. It’s something that I think about. It’s something that I participate in. It’s something that I experience. It’s not something that I talk about casually.

I like to dance. I'm not a trained dancer. I have an awesome sense of rhythm.
What I’m doing with my life
I teach and play music. I'm involved in the continuing effort of a new nonprofit music school in Portland. One of the most exciting projects I've ever been involved in. It's going great!

I recently opened a music education studio in NE Portland. This is an exciting new entrepreneurial project.

I'm working with various professionals. I'm not always paying them in currency. I love to work on the barter system when possible. I work and play "outside the box".

Community outreach and involvement are important in my life. Music education and social change (sex-positive issues in particular) are my passions. What is sex positivity? It might not be what you think. Sex positive is very different from "sex focused". Let's talk about this.

Urban walks are fun. Animals are fun and adorable. Concerts, art exhibits, theater and lectures are fun and enlightening. Dancing is a blast!
I’m really good at
Teaching, listening, learning, watching, participating, performing and creating.
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe the huge unicorn horn coming out of my forehead?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fav Books: Illusions (Richard Bach), Another Roadside Attraction (Tom Robbins), Just Kids (Patti Smith), This is your Brain on Music (Daniel J. Levitin), Contact (Carl Sagan), The Ethical Slut (Easton and Hardy), The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy (Douglas Adams).

Fav Movies: A Room with a View, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Generations, Dr. Caligari, Blade Runner, L.A. Story, The Meaning of Life.

Fav Food: Yes! Pdx restaurants are a never ending source of exploration and palate teasing fun.

Fav Shows:
TVish stuff: Dr. Who, Sherlock, Sens8, Soap, Trek stuff, Cosmos, Family Guy

Theater: Twelfth Night, JCS, Inviting Desire.

Fav Music: Jazz, Blues, Alt rock, Alt. country, funky-stuff-ta-boogie-to, classical, acoustic treats, thoughtful music, fun music, innovative music, classic music, etc.
Examples: Coltrane, Robben Ford, Wilco, Shakey Graves, Funkadelic, Giuliani, Indigo Girls, Stevie Wonder, Bon Iver, Tool, James Low, Nancy King, Jason Isbell, Zappa, AC/DC, B.B., Miles, Ella, Frank, Duke…

Fav clubs: Cafe Artichoke, Jimmy Mak's, White Eagle, Wilf's, The Aladdin, Heathman.
The six things I could never do without
Love, connection, fun, sex, music and peanut butter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
harmony, rhythm, dynamics, melody.

Love, genuine and authentic.

My desire for deep and meaningful relationships.

How do you tuna fish?
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I know the secret to the universe.
You should message me if
You enjoy growing.
You understand ethical non-monogamy.
You want to understand ethical non-monogamy.
You enjoy music.