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My self-summary
Online dating:
"For a woman, it's like being on the floor of the NYSE, with hundreds of brokers looking at you and shouting, waving frantically to get your attention. If you make the mistake of making eye contact with one, he latches on & gets even louder and more desperate.

For a man, it's more like sitting in a small rowboat on a quiet pond, with about 20 fishing lines in the water. And none of them moving. If by some miracle one does move, you clench up, moving as slowly as possible to pick it up, panicked you're going to scare it away...Then it disappears. "
- comment to a letter to Dan Savage

Here is something beautiful that I wrote.

I am a lover of wisdom, a lover of life, and a lover of people.
I am a sage -- I will answer all of your questions.
And I am an adventurer -- I will bring you to many new ones.

I am someone who speaks his thoughts vehemently, and often giddily. I reject those with simple minds, but I am a big fan of simple fun with and among complex minds. If you are riddled with self-delusion, you will probably end up hating me. Though I may fall in love with you anyway. It will be tragic and wonderful.

I believe that contrast is the most important aspect of reality. I revel in the flow between extremes, and I embrace paradoxes.

I believe that love is an endless resource; I believe that jealousy is an avoidable manifestation of insecurity. I do not believe my love for anything or anyone takes away from my love of anything else or anyone else. And I believe the same can be true of your love.

More on that:

I wield every kind of magic I can find: dance, poetry, philosophy, computer science, martial arts, humor, love. Love indeed. There is magic in every act that makes my own body or mind do something it would not do, if I were not to act. I live for the rollercoaster. Sometimes, rollercoaster is not intense enough of a metaphor.

I have trouble peacefully enduring the misguided: I speak my mind and accept the consequences.

I care about human interaction above all things. But when interaction is not available, I settle for self-played games of thought and body.

I am very funny.
What I’m doing with my life
The duty of the enlightened is the share the light. There are two ways to do that: to be the candle, or to be the mirror.

I am waiting for the technological singularity. I am slightly more excited about globalized socialism. I hate money.

I pulse in rythym to my heartbeat, and follow it.

I regularly cry over all those I have lost, and all those who fail to let me love them.

Aloha ke akua.
I’m really good at
Dancing, cooking, moving, eating, tasting,drinking, learning, analyzing, listening, loving, wanting, achieving, laughing, sensing, fencing, focusing, unfocusing, innovating, building and, sometimes, destroying.

I have a deep automatic need to optimize any situation I encounter. I have been called a "party angel". I have been a therapist to strangers, but I am usually a jerk to panhandlers. I have fallen in love with more than my share of waitresses.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am a giant. I am very tall and thick and strong. I am visibly Norwegian: blonde and pale.

Usually my smile is warm enough to make up for all the big-n-scary I carry.

The first thing I will notice about YOU is your walk. Much can be learned about the flow with which someone moves. Understanding of one's body and environment is a treasure that permeates many actions and responses; it englightens the physical realm, which eases all the burdens of the mind.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books Heroic Fantasy is my passion. some of my favorites...
Talion: Revenant, by Michael Stackpole of Starwars fame. I haven't read any of his starwars novels, but Talion is possibly my favorite single book of all-time.
The Blending Saga, by Sharon Green. You've never heard of it but is nevertheless fabuous. About a group of five beautiful people who can each do a different kind of magic, join together magically and romantically to fight the corruption of their aristrocratic nation.
The Sword of Truth saga by Terry Goodkind. A tribute to the majesty of the individual. A pretty awesome show was made from this series: Legend of the Seeker .
Harry Potter, the Drizzt saga (forgotten realms what what?), the Vlad Taltos saga by Steven Brust (oh man snarky assassin wonderfulness), everything by Orson Scott Card, Stephen King's Dark Tower, Le Petit Prince. Oh and I fucking loved Twilight All four of them rocked my shit. I even read the half-written parallax novel Midnight Sun.

Movies Limitless, Mr. Nobody, Matilda, Joe versus the Volcano, Sucker Punch, Run Lola Run, Groundhog Day, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Garden State, Original Sin, Untamed Heart, Labyrinth, Willow, The Matrix, What Dreams May Come, Wanted
Um seriously, if you haven't seen every single one of these movies, message me, and I will tell you exactly why each one kicks all the ass.

Music Nero, Gemini, Pretty Lights, Grimes, Figure, Born Gold, Flux Pavillion, Datsik, Jinja Safari, Marina and the Diamonds, Múm, Paranormal Attack, MSI, the Protomen, Crooked Stills, Apparat, Powerlifter, Cake, NIN, How to kill an Angel, Garbage, Liz Phair, Poe, Yanni, Amanda Fucking Palmer, Mirah, Sarah McLachlan, Justin Timberlake, Lamb, the Postal Service, the Cardigans, Delerium, Dune, Roxette, VAST, Cyndi Lauper, the Shins, the Magnetic Fields, Ok Go, Metric, Beck, Annie Lennox, Eminem, Imogen Heap, Sigur Ros, the Knife, St. Vincent, Gregory and the Hawk, the Knife, Royksopp, the Veils, Gazpacho, Gogol Bordello, Within Temptation, Tosca Tango Orchestra

Food Tres Leches, Kaddo Bourani, lamb in any form, burgers with cajun seasoning, penne with vodka sauce, anything curried, most forms of ice cream, custards, peppers of all kinds (black, bell, habanero, jalapeno, serrano, etc), and god I love sushi, especially accompanied by nigori sake, pretty much anything interesting!

MMM trail mix. Cashews, pecans, dried fruit, chunks of dark chocolate, coconut, sesame seeds, peanuts.

And I love most things that are artificially flavored green.
The six things I could never do without
Things I will never do without:
human touch
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Okay this is now a favorite quotes section! Here are a fuckton of quotes. What's up, scrollbar?!

"Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power."
-- Tao Te Ching

"People often think that it is hard to do the right thing. It is not hard to do the right thing; it is hard to know what the right thing is. Once you know what is right, then it is hard to not do the right thing."
-- The Confession

Sheriff Bourne: You were truthful back in town. These are tough times. A man can get a job, he might not look too close at what that job is. But a man learns all the details of a situation like ours, well, then he has a choice. Mal: I don't believe he does.
-- Firefly, The Train Job

"Everybody seeks happiness! Not me, though! That’s the difference between me and the rest of the world. Happiness isn’t good enough for me! I demand euphoria!"
-- Calvin (Calvin & Hobbes)

"There are chords in the hearts of the most reckless which cannot be touched without emotion."
-- Edgar Allen Poe

"The deeper sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain."
-Khalil Gibran

"Love me without fear
Trust me without questioning
Need me without demanding
Want me without restrictions
Accept me without change
Desire me without inhibitions."
-- Dick Sutphen

"The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.
Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof"
-- Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah

"Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for."
-- Bob Marley

"You see someone running incredibly fast - The first thing you gotta ask is 'Are they running towards something or away from something?' The answer is always both."
-- Topher, Dollhouse

"If you look at life one way, there is always cause for alarm."
-- Elizabeth Bowen (1899 - 1973)

"The art of dining well is no slight art, the pleasure not a slight pleasure."
-- Michel de Montaigne (1533 - 1592)

"Do not fear death so much, but rather the inadequate life."
-- Bertolt Brecht (1898 - 1956), The Mother, 1932

"Be a craftsman in speech that thou mayest be strong, for the strength of one is the tongue, and speech is mightier than all fighting."
-- Maxims of Ptahhotep, 3400 B.C.

"The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence. Fences have nothing to do with it. The grass is greenest where it is watered. When crossing over fences, carry water with you and tend the grass wherever you may be."
-- Robert Fulghum (1937 - )

"One who does good, having an infinite power to do evil, should have credit not only for the good she does but for the evil from which she refrains."
- Cholayna (City of Sorcery)

"The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender"
-- Emil Ludwig

Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. For I am the most badass mothefucker in the valley; and I don't need anything to comfort me.
-- found at reddit

Sexy as a silk shirt without any buttons
-- Jim Butcher (Storm Front (Dresden Files #1))

"You're not as cool as my drink, Mills"
"No way, I'm hot as fuck."

‎"You are the proton to fun's neutron.
Always a positive charge."
-Matt Gravens

"Though my soul may set in darkness, it will rise in perfect light; I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night. "

We are the music makers
And we are the dreamers of dreams
Wandering by lone sea-breakers
And sitting by desolate streams
World-losers and world-forsakers
On whom the pale moon gleams
Yet we are the movers and shakers
Of the world for ever, it seems

It's never enough.
On a typical Friday night I am
a sweaty mess from dancing and laughing and loving life.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I'm a god of the air.

Other times, I feel the same kind of anxiety when browing okcupid profiles that you feel when you've been checking out a beautiful person and you suddenly worry if you've been staring and if they've noticed.

I mostly use okcupid for harvesting book and television show suggestions.
You should message me if
If you saw something in my profile that made you gasp, frown, grimace, scowl, or otherwise react viscerally, please please tell me what it was. I can take an insult with grace! Even if you're dead set on not meeting me, fulfill my curiosity!

If you have something like "if you can keep up with me" in YOUR message me if section. Trust me, I can keep up.

If you think I'm interesting, or cute. I'm just about as friendly and accepting as its possible to be. If you want to go out on a date with me, I can pretty much guarantee at least one and as soon as possible. It is amazing how many connections I have lost to cautious delay.

If you expect to be either hungry or lonely tonight or any night; I will bring you nourishment.

If you are in need of a wizard, a dragonslayer, or a harlequin.

Or if something annoyed you about my grammar or syntax in anything I wrote.

Feel free to find me on facebook. OkC chatting is awkward.