I generally believe that people are inherently good *and* that we are fairly self-absorbed assholes most of the time. I prefer one on one encounters to group settings. I'm naturally an introvert, but will play nice with others when I have to. I'll take a dive bar with some good music and interesting people over the muckety muck, trendy "see and be seen" scenes. I'm fairly non-traditional but appreciate it when someone of any gender holds the door open for me, walks with me instead of ahead of me, and says please, thank you and bless you when I sneeze.
I've spent long periods of time in isolation, dealing with my shit and taking a look at all aspects of who I am, including the dark sides of myself. I can smell bullshit a mile a way and I tend to cut anyone out of my life who is into trauma drama and games. I believe that communication is one of the most important things in life, and I don't understand why it isn't being taught in schools starting as early as preschool. I do my best to align myself with people who are authentic and who are able to say what they mean and mean what they say - even when it is inconvenient, uncomfortable, risky or makes you unpopular.
I'm a yoga teacher whose areas of interest are anatomy, Yin yoga, meditation and Yoga Nidra. I believe in the beginner's mind and subscribe to the philosophy that the more you learn, the more you realize there is only more to learn. Practice makes more practice. I'm good at holding space for others to have whatever experience they need to have, whether it be a student in a yoga class, that obnoxious person holding up the line at the grocery store, or those who are actively at end of life at the skilled nursing facility where I used to volunteer.
The most important relationship I will ever have is with myself. I've come to the realization that each relationship has its own rhythm and the less we try to define or place expectations on it, the better chance it has of evolving into its true potential, whatever that may be. Of course, I still struggle with this. For this reason, I'm open to various kinds of relationships - ones where we may never meet and just have good, interesting conversation; the casual kind (very selectively); and who knows, maybe the one that lasts. I'm not really into group experiences. I prefer to focus my attention on one person and vice versa.
In December 2013, I graduated from massage school and received my license in January 2014. I have my own private practice for yoga and massage. I also work for several studios and non-profits teaching yoga and offering massage. Life….is….good.
Movies/DVDs - Biopics like Dylan, Control (Joy Division), La Vie En Rose, The Doors; American History X, Pulp Fiction, Reservoir Dogs, Fight Club, Donnie Darko, American Beauty, Garden State, Harold and Maude, The Royal Tannenbaums, Sex Lies & Videotape, The Intouchables, Superbad, 9-1/2 weeks, Kevin Smith's works, Stanley Kubrick, The Last Word, The Red Violin, Sideways, A Clockwork Orange, Natural Born Killers, Punch Drunk Love, What Dreams May Come, Me You and Everyone We Know, Goats, Humboldt County, Singles, documentaries, foreign films, One Track Heart, Enlighten Up, Trail Guide to the Body; Paul Grilley's Anatomy for Yoga, Chakra Theory & Mediation, Yin Yoga Theory and Practices; stuff that is dark, heavy, quirky, makes you think and is generally offbeat - too many to say, really.
Shows - The Wire, Northern Exposure, Six Feet Under, Weeds, Dexter, Californication, Family Guy (Stewie's the best), South Park, British Sit-Com, Twin Peaks, House of Cards, Scandal, Orange is the New Black, Sex and the City, West Wing, The Americans, Black Orchid, Black Mirror, Frankie & Grace, Netflix and Amazon original programming. I don't really watch TV any more, but digging NetFlix and Amazon Prime. These days, I lean towards watching quite a bit of non-American programming.
Music - KEXP compilations (I own every volume), Garden State soundtrack, Portishead, Flaming Lips, Mono, Nirvana (and most grunge), Billie Holiday, Stan Getz, Nick Drake, John Coltrane, DeVotchka, Nina Simone, Air, Of Montreal, The Doors, (first) Coldplay album, David Bowie, Joy Division, Everything But the Girl, Sparklehorse, Tool, Stereolab, punk, 80's wave, old jazz, rockabilly, Moby, Brian Eno, Bob Marley, Michael Franti, KEXP DJ Larry Rose, Krishna Das, Jai Uttal, Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds, Tom Waits, Jimi, The Avett Brothers, Bittersweet, Sigur Rose, Mumford & Sons, Radiohead, Stephan Micus, Baird Hersey & Prana, Mazzy Star, The Stones, The Who, Animal Collective, Bob Dylan - again, too many to say.
Food - the spicier, the better. I love Thai, Vietnamese, Americanese (the Americanized version of Chinese food but have yet to find a place I really dig), Mexican, Indian, Ethiopian, Somalian, my own Italian dishes, and pizza. I also love salads, am fairly obsessed with Kombucha at the moment, greek yogurt. I've been experimenting lately with quinoa. I'm a sucker for a good french fry. I miss Pommes Frites. Breakfast for dinner is cool.
Drink - dark, chocolate-y Belgium beers like Trappist; whiskey (straight up or with ginger); PBR with Beer Sauce.
-the Pacific NW and being close to water
-my MacBook Pro
-at home streaming NetFlix or Amazon Prime
-out with friends or on a date
-you have something funny to say (fyi, *I* have to think it's funny)
-you don't list "sex" as one of the things you can't live without (duh, we get it; be more original)
-you have taken the time to read my profile (I've spent a fair amount of time creating my profile and answering questions - there is nothing more annoying than someone messaging you and saying "tell me about yourself. what are your dreams?" oye.... ych....)