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My self-summary
Let's be real. Despite the common sense people so often express here, sometimes a glass is half full, sometimes half empty. It's half empty when you're half-way to drinking it all down, and it's half full when you're half-way to filling it up again. Me: I'm inclined to say "let's just fill it up!"

So, yeah, despite what I wrote below, I laugh a lot, my friends laugh a lot -- both with me and at me...!

I'm a little concerned about the tests here. My "dating personality" came up "the boy next door". No, wrong number. I took it again, changed two borderline answers, and became the brutal horn monster (or something like that). So I went back to boy next door. Also, I did some drugs (mostly pot) in my 20s, sometimes (as in rarely) take a puff when visiting an old friend who smokes (maybe once in a couple months), and somehow I'm "31% more into drugs" than the average. I'm in the 30s on violence, but I've never hit a woman or even spanked a child. I think maybe the test-makers are the "test monsters next door", probably doing way too many drugs, and probably like to sit in empty rooms together, lapsing into frequent pillow fights.

So about me: I'm a writer and sometimes (mostly former) software developer, poet and artist. I love live music, especially blues, jazz, reggae, rock, and classical. I like adventure, being outdoors, reading, writing, good wine, good conversation, cuddling, morning light on soft skin. I prefer doing sports to watching them. Intimacy in a relationship is the best. I'm kind, affectionate, sharing. I'm politically progressive. I'm especially interested in philosophy, my main influences are from Hegel to Fromm. A lot of my writing has been focused on moving science away from materialism, but without much success so far. A hundred years from now I'll be famous, but I'm accessible and unpretentious... I'm not a typical "intellectual" -- I believe it's important to balance rationality and sensuousness, thinking and doing. Balance is important in relationships too, I think...

I'm not an entirely un-fictional writer. I've written lots of poetry, a short story about an encounter between a jazz band and a pride of lions, and a screenplay based on my theory that the extraordinary freedom of ancient Spartan women was due to one of the greatest conspiracies of all time. Unfortunately there are about 200,000 screenplays written every year, and mine was one of about 198,000 never read by a player.

Okay, so what's it mean to be "philosophical"? Lots of women say they're looking for laughter. Laughter is great, it can bring people closer, but closeness isn't funny (or serious!). Laughter can be a substitute for closeness, but closeness isn't a substitute for anything. I do love to laugh, and make others laugh, but romance is better than comedy. Besides, I'm probably as funny or funnier than anyone you've met who isn't also robin-williamsie manic depressive.

Lots of women say they're looking for confidence in their mate, or for both confidence and courage. But courage often involves recognizing that there's no reason for confidence, it sometimes involves acting without pretending (to oneself or others) to have confidence in the outcome. That's kind of funny, isn't it?

I'm looking for someone bright, cheerful, affectionate, expressive, intuitive, open-minded, optimistic, honest, a seeker of adventure, wisdom, and grace. Able to be a partner, and sometimes maybe a parent or a child. But ultimately, it probably depends on mutual socio-psycho-biochemistry.

I am intelligent, sensual, and good in a crisis
What I’m doing with my life
Waking, sleeping, breathing, eating, drinking. Is that wrong?

... okay, a day later - that's stupid. But I've already said a lot in my self-summary. More flippancy follows...
I’m really good at
Sorting silverware.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've got a button in the wrong hole, my sweater is on backwards, or my zipper is down.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I usually read philosophy or physics (it's what I do)... Movies: Gravity, Avatar, Moulin Rouge, Amadeus, It's a Wonderful Life, most Coen Brothers, Shawshank Redemption, Seven Samurai, period pieces, My Fair Lady(!), Merchant of Venice (w/Pacino), Shakespeare in Love, most other Shakespeare adaptations, Sgt York (the part before the war). Music: Tom Petty, Van Morrison, Paul Simon, Dylan, old stuff like that... Joan Osborne, Lucinda Williams, live jazz, blues, reggae, Mozart, some Beethoven (6th & 9th symphonies)... some country if it's low on the corn index.
The six things I could never do without
Arms, legs, manhood, frontal lobe. That's actually more than six. (I have two manhoods.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Philosophy (sorry), politics, wine, travel & adventure, and (wistfully) a soul mate.
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends, usually acting foolish.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I screwed up my back several weeks ago, and it still hurts.
You should message me if
you think just maybe...

... or if thinking just maybe is just foreign