32West Covina, United States
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My self-summary
Honest, hard-working, humorous hombre seeking smart, sassy, sweet for delightful doings devoid of drama.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently working in a pharmacy building up social skills and paying off student loans. Finagling what it takes to apply for, be admitted to, pay for, and succeed in medical school.

Recently lost a lot of weight. Gained some of it back.

Recently had a minor professional upgrade at work. Not a dream job, but dramatically more satisfying than before.

Shaved my head for Halloween Costume 2014. Haven't had a haircut since.
I’m really good at
I can be the Public Speaker, the Smart Guy, and the Responsible One. I know how to talk, how to reason, and how to make the right choices. If you want a man that can compliment you, write you poetry, sing to you, take you dancing, try new things with you, discuss movies and books, change the world by helping your community... I am good at those sorts of wonderful things BUT it comes at a cost.

I can be the Loner, the Sad Sack, and the Slow One. I am not good at: dealing with large crowds for long periods of time, lying to make someone feel better (honest to a fault), getting a good price when selling stuff, letting go of things that have hurt me, going from that point after small talk to making friends (I'm really good at small talk, though), knowing what people want without them telling me, and I truly can't ride a bike or drive stick or ice skate.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am intelligent. I look it and it just kind of floats around me. It can be intimidating, attractive, off-putting, or interesting depending on the person, but it is an unshakable persona.

The second thing people notice about me is that I have a kind and generous spirit. I'll say this is a second thing consistently because my aforementioned persona can make me appear arrogant, and my dubious size and complexion can be intimidating. After two minutes asking me a question, however, most people figure out I'm a pushover/giver.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Love science fiction (Chromosome 6, Ender's Game, Anne McCaffrey). Love movies (My Sassy Girl - Korean, Casablanca, Megamind) and have an opinion; willing to watch even bad films (almost vomited 10 minutes into Lizzie McGuire) if only to better appreciate good ones. Watch what I consider to be smart TV (Firefly, Futurama, The Simpsons, Rome, Big Bang Theory). Listen to everything, but prefer things one can groove to the rhythm of (Red Hot Chili Peppers, System of a Down, exotic/house, oldies). Love food too much (Italian, Japanese, Chinese, Korean, American, Mediterranean, Indian, Fast Food, Home Cooked, Sandwiches, Salads, Steak, Eggs, Cheese) and dabbling in cooking and more experimental kitchen chemistry than I care to admit (mixology, baking, conventional oven, stove top, grilling, stacking, slicing, seasoning, marinating, breading, chopping, dressing).
Six things I could never do without
You never know what you can do without until you are forced to do without them.

#1: My mind as it is without compromise. If I ever contracted a degenerative neurological pathology I am pretty sure my soul would lose its spark.

#2: My sense of purpose. I know it seems odd that someone seeking out their path in life even has "a sense of purpose." What I mean is that I am sustained by a drive to do. When told to "take it easy" I still search for ways to be useful and if denied that, I react VERY badly.

#3: Tools to accomplish objectives. I love getting things done and when I have more tools to make it easier or more efficient, I can accomplish more with less! Without the best tools, I make do. My hands and mind are the only requisite tools in a pinch. If I became vegetative without the ability to blink/communicate... Well, unlike the above I couldn't do anything about it, but I would certainly feel the lowest thing I'm capable of.

#4 and #5: Faith and Hope. I'm already a really quirky person. The only thing that keeps me from descending into the depths of a dark depression is the belief that things will eventually be better. Some rationalists don't believe in the value of the spirit, but I can't help but rely on it; if I were purely rational I would have little reason not to be in despair all the time.

#6: Her. (You) Yeah, totally corny because I'm out of other wonderful generalizations. Obviously humans can survive alone but surviving ain't living.

"No man is an island, entire of itself."
-John Donne.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. My mind comes up with ideas as often as it forgets them. I can literally get lost in a wiki-walk for hours and not notice the time difference while my brain is on overdrive. Sometimes people are annoyed when I go off on a tangent, but the truth is I won't disappoint if someone is looking for a profound opinion on a subject. I can play devil's advocate like nobody's business or I can come up with an absurd premise and make it at least seem plausible that a person could believe it. My own original ideas are also potentially contentious.

Also Faith. I found God by doubting Him, hating Him, losing Him, and coming back to Him. When I express that my faith is strong, I mean it is prison strong. I didn't grow up with friends or family keeping me strong in faith; I had the opposite, in fact. I tend to disagree with the more traditionally religious.
On a typical Friday night I am
I prefer to be working. When I'm not working I'm half-heartedly chilling at a kickback because I know it is the right/normal thing to do and not because I'm enthused about seeing people. Honestly, Friday nights at home are more enjoyable, but I avoid it because I want to grow as a person instead of remaining in my comfort zone.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Asperger's Syndrome. I can convincingly carry on a conversation, but I don't appreciate most people thinking that I'm snubbing them when the truth is I really don't know how to move along the social pathway without their direction. Very few of my thoughts are private and I will readily admit to all sorts of dark things if prompted (in person). I am aka "The Snitch" because my filter requires explicit notification or I consider information to be open.
You should message me if
Any of the following:
1. You're an interesting person wanting to connect with same.
2. You justify/qualify lots of your answers to okcupid match questions because you want to give a better picture of yourself.
3. You have exciting news about how I can make a million dollars with this one weird trick!
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