ndrphndlphn
50 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
Attractive, creative, polyamorous, sexual adventurer, listener, world traveler, outdoorsy, enjoys walking, reading, exploring, and quality conversations.

Chris Ryan's Ted talk as well as his book are something all of us should be paying attention to:

http://www.ted.com/talks/christopher_ryan_are_we_designed_to_be_sexual_omnivores
What I’m doing with my life
Have worked for the last 20+ years in the field of sexual violence (mostly perpetrators but for last three foci has been mostly survivors). Have loved the work and my colleagues/teammates who have been just as twisted as I am.

Supporting and loving my artist, novel writing, business savvy ex-wife/partner. Launching my two adult children (read both 18+).

Planning to liveaboard a boat in the hopefully not to distant future. This dream has been going on for more than a decade now...so timelines have been made and scrapped but 'tis still the dream. Of course it could be some kind of fucked Jungian archetype for freedom which will always elude me...but fuck Uncle Carl...I'm continuing to move toward the dream.

In transitioning from married to single I'm wanting to define my relationship model clearly. Relationship Anarchy and Solo Polyamory seem to be winning the day in my mind at the moment. Here's some websites that will assist to define that further... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relationship_anarchy
and https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2013/05/07/relationship-anarchy-basics/
I’m really good at
Listening, observing, questioning, walking, thinking, reflecting.

For nearly 4 years have been rid of the 4 wheeled monster and commute daily to work...so am getting better at walking/riding bike and making personal choices to lower my carbon footprint.
The first things people usually notice about me
My beautiful long black hair...
If I'm wearing my kilt then they notice that first and then my beautiful long black hair...and then how thick the beautiful long black hair is...and if your a woman then how jealous you are of my beautiful long black hair...then, "can I feel your hair..."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Any book by:
Jo Nesbo, Clive Barker, Stephen King, Tolkien, Christopher Moore, T.Thorne Coyle, Richard Schwartz, Christopher Ryan (Sex at Dawn), Chuck P., Ripley Patton, Anne Rice, to name a few.

Currently reading:
Oliver Sacks (Hallucinations); I'm often reading research articles various aspects of the work that I do.

Any movie by:
Joss Whedon, Jim Jarmusch, Robert Eggers, Werner Herzog, David Lynch, Stanley Kubrich, Guillermo del Toro, Coen Brothers, Wachowski's (right on Lana!), Quenten T., Rain Wilson, Stephen Soderbergh, Spike Jones, Neil Blomkamp, Michael Mann...
Lately have really enjoyed Another Earth, Sound of My Voice, Contagion, Hesher (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXKRKpvv3SU).

Tool (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGa4axAX_TM), am right this moment discovering OM (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSLsCBU6DZY&list=RDxBtcejjtQkQ&index=2), Sleep,
Metallica, Megadeth, Mozart, Miles Davis, David Friesen, Faith No More, Sepultura,Soulfly, Mike Patton, Peeping Tom
NIN (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HOJUxZizOpg) Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Bach, Anthrax, Trey Gunn, Portishead, Robert Fripp, Van Halen, Living Colour, Mendelssohn, Weather Report, Rodrigo y Gabriella, System of a Down, Fantamos, Mr Bungle, did I say Mike Patton?...,Primus,
Rammstein, Black Sabbath, Pantera,...to name a few.

Pizza, tiramisu, fresh fruit, chocolate, asparagus

Buildings designed by:
Frank Gehry (just visited the Museum he designed in Minneapolis...AWESOME!), Zaha-Hadid, Santiago Calatrava, Frank Lloyd-Wright for starters...
Boats designed by:
Gardner, McNaughton, Benford, Kasten, Wharram,
"Jonques de Plaisance," Brewer, Hensaval, Welsford, Roberts...
and the Westsail 32 to 38 which is based on the Ingrid design (only boat that survived/thrived in the Perfect Storm...not the movie...that actual storm)
The six things I could never do without
Openness
Creativity
Nature
Exploring
...in process
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Boats, buildings, change, math (getting stuck), mystery (WTF moments), my own stupidity (Have been defaulting to preoccupied attachment style, less and less lately) my internal process (parts shit), that's just in the last minute or so of sitting here...
On a typical Friday night I am
Taking a walk...chilling with the family...and others I love
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In answer to the query "what's under the kilt?"
A. A catered invitation only kinkfest.
B. One of those anti-aircraft gatling guns carried on warships
C. An average sized, of alright girth when erect and potentially
teeny tiny when it's cold outside...cock (and no I've not ever sent a pic of it).
You should message me if
Curiosity killed the cat...
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