jdecali
53Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I am a passionate, fun-spirited, romantic soul. I care deeply for those close to me. I tend to see the positive connections in life -- looking up and reaching out. The point is not the pursuit of happiness, but happiness in the pursuit ...

But quite honestly, how can one summarize oneself in a nice neat little paragraph? Perhaps I should add something about where I've been - top of Uluru in Australia, swimming in the azure seas of Tahiti, riding a horse in The Cotswolds countryside of England, walking cobblestone hills of Vico Morcote, wine tasting in Lecce...does where you've been describe who you are? I think the way you travel does reveal something about your personality. Wanting to explore off the beaten path, dine with the locals and not the tourists, experience the wine, food, culture as seen through friends who live there..
What I’m doing with my life
After almost 3 years of taking a bite out of the New York apple, I headed back home to California - though this time through the Golden Gates even though I'm from SoCal and will never understand why it's not THE 280 as it's THE 405. I returned to California for a new job but, more importantly, to be close to family including my two amazing (college age) daughters. I've spent most of my professional life working in media/tech/entertainment companies and love the pace, the innovation, the creativity, and the smart fun people.

I'm drawn both to outdoor natural landscapes as well as the cultural stimulation of big cities. I'm happy staring up at the stars you can only truly see away from the city, yet I've always been inspired by man-made design and architectural structures and bridges. I love Cape Cod beaches as much as the California Coast and Southern Italy, and two of my favorite outdoor spaces are still Yosemite and NY's Central Park.

I'm a bit of a news junkie - NPR born and bred. I watch MSNBC, CNN, respect the NYT and Washington Post, enjoy John Oliver, SNL, and lean left politically. I'm also fond of many podcasts including NPR's TED Radio Hour, Modern Love, The Hidden Brain, Radio Lab, Fresh Air, and many more.

When it comes to love and romance, I think there needs to be some sense of shared interests for two people to have that initial connection. But I also believe that one can learn and grow from your partner's interests and passions in life -- you don't have to be mirror images of each other to make it work, more complementary partners. It's about a shared outlook on life - a youthful exuberant positive outlook that means living in the moment and making life come to you! And of course, there needs to be chemistry...

I think you know almost immediately if there's potential with someone. "Sometimes it's just taking a person's hand and it's like .... "magic."
I’m really good at
conversation
going after what I think is important
supporting
story telling
keeping promises
kissing
The first things people usually notice about me
my smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent Reads/Authors: Thinking Fast and Slow, Humans of New York, NYT, Einstein's Dreams, The How of Happiness, The Power Paradox

Huge movie buff from classic film noir, foreign and Indie. List is long, but to name a few: LaLa Land, Hector and the Search for Happiness, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, Cinema Paradiso, Under the Tuscan sun, Chocolat, Gravity, Before Sunrise, The Artist, The Third Man, Citizen Kane, The Graduate, Two for the Road, A Man and a Woman, Sleepless in Seattle, L'auberge Espagnole, LOTR, Groundhog Day, A Room with a View, Hitchcock especially Rear Window, Nightmare Before Christmas, Best in Show, Princess Bride, When Harry Met Sally, 500 Days of Summer, Jean De Florette. Still think the best version of JE's P&P was with Colin Firth.

TV/Radio enjoy: Outlander, Sherlock, Stranger Things, Silicon Valley, Breaking Bad, House of Cards, Mad Men, Timeless, Colbert Late Show, John Oliver, Indie and foreign films, NPR, Radio Lab, All Things Considered, KCRW, TED talks, Spotify, Apple Music

Music tastes are very eclectic and include: George Ezra, Madeleine Peyroux,Vance Joy, The Lumineers, Fleet Foxes, Hozier, Passenger, Edward Sharp, Cold Play, Jack Johnson, Regina Spektor, Young the Giant, Jason Mraz, Ella, Sinatra, Brubeck, Jobim, Django Reinhardt, Miles Davis, classical, Beatles, Roxy Music, Pretenders, Carol King, The Stones, Cat Stevens

Enjoy reading about, seeing, and experiencing architecture: from the antiquities of Europe to mid-century modern (case houses) to Arts & Craft (Greene & Greene) to Frank Lloyd Wright and Olmstead landscapers (Central Park)...

Food: I've been vegetarian for many years but this doesn't mean I only eat veggies! Enjoy wide variety of ethnic cuisines - enjoy eating and cooking organic..though fall back favorite combo would be a glass of red or Prosecco, black olives, cheese and a baguette -- even better if having these in a small cafe in France or Italy . Oh and really dark chocolate : )
Six things I could never do without
My daughters
Music
Good films
Good conversation
Laughter
Dark Chocolate
Love and passion
Friendship
My 2 cats
more lists....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The realization that what John Lennon said is true: "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans."

Also, does anyone really read this far down in one's profile?
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends enjoying good conversation over dinner or just taking a deep breath and relaxing after a long work week
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Would not be admitted here
You should message me if
You're curious to learn more and think we might connect
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