50Damascus, United States
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My self-summary
Feminist, fabulous, transguy. I'm pretty much "queersexual" , preferring others who identify as some stripe of LGBTQ or queer-friendly. I care a lot more about people's personalities than their plumbing; I'm flexible about gender and orientation.

I write fiction and essays, sing (just moved and looking for a new choir), and do graphic design. I also collect Japanese art, play tabletop RPGs, read comics and manga, and love science and history. I have several pet rats, an aquarium, and more than one blog. I use a wheelchair or crutches to get around, and live with my best friend in a big house and several pets.

When I was little I wanted to grow up to be a hero; I still do

I am inquisitive, intuitive, and adaptable
What I’m doing with my life
I write fiction and poetry, and I blog about disability and LGBTQ issues, which brings me great joy but not much fame (yet). My fiction is mostly action-adventure, sci-fi, and fantasy, often with a queer romance sub plot or two.

Prior to becoming disabled, I was an interaction designer in Silicon Valley. I loved my career, but I love being a writer now.

I'm trying to learn to like leafy greens. So far I've accepted spinach and mustard greens into my life. Kale... not so much.
I’m really good at
Writing, conversing, staying up late, singing, drawing, designing, problem solving, theorizing, analyzing, learning, traveling, road-tripping, and being there for my friends.

I'm not so good at: Tidying, accounting, having self-discipline, running, managing time.
The first things people usually notice about me
My broad shoulders, my bulky shape, and my big smile. Or my laugh, if they hear me before they see me. Oh, and they also tend to notice my purple wheelchair or silver forearm crutches.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books I re-read: The Phantom Tollbooth, The Lord of the Rings, A Wizard of Earthsea, Terry Pratchett's Discworld books (especially the Tiffany Aching books)

Movies I rewatch: The Lord of the Rings trilogy, O Brother Where Art Thou?, The Shawshank Redemption, My Life as a Dog, K-PAX, Yojimbo (and pretty much everything else by Kurosawa Akira)

TV I enjoy: Brooklyn 99, Cloud 9, Bob's Burgers, Elementary, Nova, TED Talks and a whole lot of...

Anime: Cowboy Bebop, Fruits Basket, Last Exile, Yowamushi Pedal, Yuri on Ice, Barakamon, Space Brothers, Silver Spoon, Spirited Away and pretty much everything else by Studio Ghibli

Music: Kanno Yoko, Mozart, Palestrina, Duke Ellington, Muse, Queen, Genesis, Hozier, Imagine Dragons, Incubus, kd lang, Keith Urban, Brad Paisley

Foood: sushi and sashimi, Tennessee pulled-pork barbecue, cheese (but not blue!), cold cereal and milk, pretzels, refried beans, really good bread and butter, lemons and limes
Six things I could never do without

My friends
My Mac
The internet
My pets
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Stories, words, writing fiction, human relationships, gender, disability, motivation, resistance, how things work, the nature of the universe
On a typical Friday night I am
Writing with my online collaborative writing group, or watching a movie or playing video games with my housemate.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Everyone who meets me thinks I'm at least ten years younger than I am, and most of my friends are younger than me. I think the ten years I was married don't really count.
You should message me if
You want someone to geek out with about fonts or ukiyo-e or anime or music or medicine or astronomy or any number of other topics. Your idea of a good time includes long meandering deep conversations, lots of laughter, stargazing, trying new restaurants, visiting museums, making it up as you go along, spending time in nature, and road tripping.

You should be:
Insatiably Curious
Spiritual (yes, Atheists can be spiritual)
Introspective but not self-absorbed
Spontaneous (or at least able to cope with someone who likes last-minute adventures)
A lover of life
Outgoing enough to meet me half-way
The two of us