"The thread is spun under tears, the cloth bleached with tears, the shirt sewn with tears, but then too it is a better protection than iron and steel...The secret in life is that everyone must sew it for himself..."
And to make sure to knot the end of the thread!
You are like me (but if you are like me, do you want to date someone who is like you?):
Divorced and a kid or two. Still, you have some time on your hands.
You have a definite spiritual practice. Doesn't matter to me what it is, but it must matter to you; is it of supreme importance to you?
Not under employed. You have a car or, if you do not have a car, you live within 3–4 miles of me.
You are not more insecure than most. You have had an honest psychological breakthrough in realizing that other people’s opinions of you do not matter to you (and you practice that). Bonus points if you are heading toward, in the midst of, or just through an existential crisis. Double bonus points if you know that that's what's happening.
You treat your body with respect.
Let's not talk about our exes the first few dates, okay?
See "You should message me if" for what else matters to me.
Have my own professional practice. 90% of the time I love it, 5% I merely like it, 5% I hate it. I have health insurance. I pay taxes. I own my own home. Wear a suit to work. Drive a sharp car. Confident and still improving.
I have a 9-year-old boy who is smart and funny and I can't stop liking him!
Communicating needs and feelings.
Listening with understanding and some empathy.
Sex, when it’s with a woman who has entwined her spirit with mine.
Chivalry, politeness, and formality.
He should shave it.
Not huge on movies, prefer TV shows; something about serialization keeps my interest. I get sad when a season ends. I like shows like The Wire, Breaking Bad, The Good Wife, True Detective, Getting On, and Deadwood (RIP). We're in a Golden Age of TV production these days. Mr. Robot--if you haven't seen, see it. Game of Thrones had a stupdenous season finale this year. Still, if I don't see those dragons crispifying some white walkers, I am out. (I say that every year.)
Music: Not age appropriate stuff: The Black Angels, HEALTH, Crystal Castles, Nirvana, Zeppelin, Flower Travellin' Band, LCD Soundsystem, Russian Orthodox chants, Sonic Youth, Tame Impala, Moon Duo, Acid Kings, Wooden Shjips (and other space psychedelic rock), Franz Josef Haydn. I was once playing the Orthodox chants and a friend said, "Pete, what is that shit?"
Food: Yes. All of it. Especially avocados and almonds. Baked sweet potatoes--several per week. Where vegetable and candy meet!
Something to think about.
An iPhone. It's a tool, man. A useful one for this largely non-tooled guy.
A Mini Cooper. I can go no more than a couple miles without.
Water. I really love drinking water and I drink a fuck ton of it. It's pretty much free!
The six things I could always do without:
However . . . if you are serious about your life, but you don’t take yourself too seriously, I’d really like to meet you. Are you grounded in life without being attached to it? I know, right?!?
Finally, you must have time for this thing. Relationships live on time, after all.