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My self-summary
Do you know about that shirt we read about in the old fable:
"The thread is spun under tears, the cloth bleached with tears, the shirt sewn with tears, but then too it is a better protection than iron and steel...The secret in life is that everyone must sew it for himself..."

And to make sure to knot the end of the thread!

You are like me (but if you are like me, do you want to date someone who is like you?):
Divorced and a kid or two. Still, you have some time on your hands.
You have a definite spiritual practice. Doesn't matter to me what it is, but it must matter to you; is it of supreme importance to you?
Not under employed. You have a car or, if you do not have a car, you live within 3–4 miles of me.
You are not more insecure than most. You have had an honest psychological breakthrough in realizing that other people’s opinions of you do not matter to you (and you practice that). Bonus points if you are heading toward, in the midst of, or just through an existential crisis. Double bonus points if you know that that's what's happening.
You treat your body with respect.
Let's not talk about our exes the first few dates, okay?
See "You should message me if" for what else matters to me.

Have my own professional practice. 90% of the time I love it, 5% I merely like it, 5% I hate it. I have health insurance. I pay taxes. I own my own home. Wear a suit to work. Drive a sharp car. Confident and still improving.

I have a 10-year-old boy who is smart and funny and I can't stop liking him!
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to solve people's problems and make a buck doing it. This year is great and next year will be even better! Still, riding the waves and the blessings as they come, knowing that both came to pass. Striving spiritually. Looking for a partner to connect with emotionally.
I’m really good at
Knowing just what to do when all others are panicking.
Communicating needs and feelings.
Sticking to the issue at hand.
Listening with understanding and some empathy.
Sex, when it’s with a woman who has entwined her spirit with mine.
Chivalry, politeness, and formality.
The first things people usually notice about me
Wow, what a mustache.
He should shave it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
David Foster Wallace, Flannery O'Connor, Cormac McCarthy. These are my go-to authors; I need some suggestions. Kierkegaard. Recent reads: "Fear and Trembling," SK; a couple volumes on the Nicene Creed. DFW's "Infinite Jest" for the third time.
Not huge on movies, prefer TV shows; something about serialization keeps my interest. I get sad when a season ends. I like shows like The Wire, Breaking Bad, The Good Wife, True Detective, Getting On, and Deadwood (RIP). We're in a Golden Age of TV production these days. Consistent HBO fan. The Night of. Mr. Robot (though could do now with a little more plot/action and less auteur). Game of Thrones had a stupedenous season finale this year. Still, if I don't see those dragons crispifying some white walkers, I am out. (I say that every year.)
Music: Not age appropriate stuff: Let's Eat Grandma, AHOHNI, M.I.A., HEALTH, Crystal Castles, Nirvana, Zeppelin, LCD Soundsystem, Russian Orthodox chants, Sonic Youth, Moon Duo, Acid Kings, Wooden Shjips (and other space psychedelic rock), Franz Josef Haydn. I was once playing the Orthodox chants and a friend said, "Pete, what is that shit?"
Food: Yes. All of it. Especially avocados and almonds. Salt. Baked sweet potatoes--several per week. Where vegetable and candy meet!
Six things I could never do without
My only child, a son--can't do without him because he has to support me in my old age ;-)
Something to think about.
An iPhone. It's a tool, man. A useful one for this largely non-tooled guy.
A Mini Cooper. I can go no more than a couple miles without.
Water. I really love drinking water and I drink a fuck ton of it. It's pretty much free!

The six things I could always do without:
Self-employment taxes
Sun-damaged skin
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My behavior. And other's behavior. I'm a bit judgy! It's because my behavior is so good ha ha.
On a typical Friday night I am
Not working!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I occasionally plagiarize others' witty and sublime sayings from others' OKC profiles!! It's a compliment to them, really. But I should add the attribution then, right?
You should message me if
You want to message me.

However . . . if you are serious about your life, but you don’t take yourself too seriously, I’d really like to meet you. Are you grounded in life without being attached to it? I know, right?!?
The two of us