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My self-summary
Disclaimer: I am married and am polyamourous (My partner as well. I'm not here looking for someone to cheat on my wife with. That's not polyamoury).

If you think we could be compatible and want to send me a message, I'd love to hear from you. :)

I'm looking for someone to talk to fairly often get into deep conversations, and cuddle, although it's okay if intimacy takes some time to develop. Bonus points if you like games and/or fantasy/science fiction.

I guess I place less value on who a person is and what they have, and more on the choices they make, on what they do. For me, it is a truly amazing and wondrous person who grows beyond their inherited gifts and limitations, and challenges the world around them in an attempt to make it a better place, and who embraces what the world gives us and lives fully.

I am very much into self improvement, but I don't always need to talk about it. Actions speak louder than words, and all that. I strive to make the world a better place by supporting others to live according to their values, by challenging systems that harm others or hold us back from being as wonderful as possible, and by creating new systems that are true to my my vision of what makes a good world. I try to live fully by creating meaningful connections with others, and by finding peace, joy and meaning in simple things like playing board games and riding my bicycle.

Must haves:
-Must be open-minded. I'm not your ordinary guy, and my brain works in unusual ways, so I need someone who can handle that.
-Must be politically "left". I know some people will judge this, but I mean I want to be with someone who thinks that people are capable of creating a better world, and that puts their money where their mouth is. If you have any of the following thoughts, you're going to drive me crazy: if you think that climate change isn't a problem, that birth control is against God, that having a lot of money means you should be able to do whatever the hell you want, or that people are nothing but selfish ***holes who need to be treated like sheep.
-Must be sex positive. When I use this expression, I mean that you think that sex is good and ultimately enriches our lives. I see sex as an act of celebration and a tool for building intimacy, when done responsibly. If you want to be sex positive but have hang-ups, that's great too; we can go from there.
- Must enjoy conversation. My wife is an introvert and I'm an extrovert, and I would like more conversation in my life. I am not against small talk, and I like connecting deeply through conversation.

P.S. People seem really hesitant to go on dates, I guess because of the expectations and pressure and whatnot. If you are interested, we can always just get together and not call it a date and just see if a relationship or friendship develops.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I'm working at the library.

I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so a fair amount of my time is spent resting and trying to catch up on house work.

I have a steady Dungeons and Dragons game that has been going on for a few years.
I’m really good at
Listening and empathising, communicating my needs, giving massages, not sweating the small stuff, sweating the big stuff, expressing and working through dark emotions, taking responsibility for my "stuff", caring about others, conversation, socialising, understanding people
The first things people usually notice about me
I think people might peg me as a hippie because of my scruffy appearance. After talking to me, I think they would notice that I am genuinely interested in them, and can easily articulate who I am and what I'm about. People would notice that I am generally fairly relaxed and don't judge, despite my own personal code of behaviour.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favourite books: Healing Through the Dark Emotions, The One Thing Holding You Back and Nonviolent Communication are very important to me. For fiction, I read a lot of graphic novels (like Fables and Ex Machina) and some urban fantasy (like Neil Gaiman, Charles DeLint and Jim Butcher)

My favourite movies: I haven't been watching a lot of movies lately, but am normally drawn to philosophical or otherwise meaningful movies, as well as fantasy and science fiction. Some movies I could watch over and over are The Matrix (and the sequels), American Beauty, Amelie, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind and Monty Python and the Holy Grail. I enjoy the Marvel Universe movies.

Music: "College radio" describes it best. Indie rock or pop, blues oriented rock, folk... I listen to a Pandora Radio station that is built around the Black Keys, Spoon and Gomez. Sadly, they don't have Son of Dave.

Food: I'm a semitarian. I eat largely vegetarian, and the only meat I eat is ethical meat, like free-range chickens and whatnot. I avoid dairy, but not strictly. Going out I enjoy Mexican, Thai and Ethiopian, and the various vegetarian restaurants. At home I tend to eat a lot of stewy things with beans. Come to think of it, Mexican, Thai and Ethiopian all have stewy things with beans or lentils! I also drink Soylent.

Board Games: Camel Up; King of Tokyo; Elder Sign; Formula De; Win, Don't Lose; Red Dragon Inn
The six things I could never do without
1. Friends
2. A sense of purpose
3. my wife
4. Board games
5. the library
6. a computer connected to the net
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't have a "typical Friday night". I might be hanging out with my wife, or have friends over for board games, or if I've been social during the week, I might just stay home and hang out with my rabbits, Levi and Bub.

On a Sunday, there's a decent chance I'll be playing Dungeons and Dragons.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think we've passed the point of being able to stop climate change, and the climate is going to continue to go downhill. Sounds gloomy, but I've come to terms with it.
You should message me if
you can come up with *any* reason to! I won't bite, and I promise to reply to your message, unless it's complete gibberish *and* there's nothing in your profile that interests me (that only happened once)

If you're at all interested but are reluctant to send the first message, just "like" me. If I think we're compatible, I'll Like you back and when I see we have mutual liking, I'll send you a message. If that happens, though, please reply. I feel very disheartened when someone "likes" me, but then doesn't reply to my message. :(