When it comes to social interactions, I tend to prefer quality to quantity. I would much rather have a few close friends than many casual acquaintances. I believe that growing up a shy child actually prepared me to appreciate the value of listening and being fully present to another person. I think shy people are cool.
I enjoy the excitement and aesthetic beauty of intellectual discovery. The birth of an insight. An epiphany. A shift in perspective. Observing or realizing new connections and interrelationships. Seeing something with a deeper level of clarity. The most exhilarating form of discovery is finding out something new about myself.
Creating community. Ironic. As I said before I was a very shy child. The psychologist Alfred Adler had a good explanation for this. He sided more with Jesus (the meek shall inherit the earth) than Darwin (survival of the fittest). He argued that the meek/nonfit must struggle, which gives birth to a perseverance that often allows them to overtake those who start out as the fittest.
Taking naps in my (parked) car. This is an amazingly practical and convenient skill. I feel sorry when someone tells me they are unable to take car naps.
Finding lost cats. I once spent 10 days searching for my former roommate’s lost cat. Eventually someone who had spotted him saw one of my fliers and called me. I followed the lead and spent the morning camped out by a vacant pool, and the cat finally showed up. He had been chilling by a pool this whole time!
Abstract and imaginative thinking. Many people might not think these two things go together, but with me they do.
Spinning a frisbee on the tip of my finger. I taught myself to do this as a teenager. Turned out to not be as useful of a life skill as I first thought.
Mental arithmetic. This was probably a wonderfully handy skill to have before the invention of the calculator.
Movies: I tend to like dark comedies and mind bending films. Some of my favorites are Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind, Juno, Life is Beautiful, and 12 Monkeys.
TV: Arrested Development, the Office, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Breaking Bad
I also enjoy the relaxed feeling I get after riding my bike.
- The difference between self actualization and self-image actualization.
- How to move beyond the boundaries of the world I've created for myself.
- Why okcupid thinks people who have different opinions from me are my enemy.