47Mountain View, United States
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
I'm at a cafe with a friend right now. I just asked him for three words that describe me. He said sincere, loyal, and affirming. I guess that's more objective than anything I could say about myself, but I'll give it a try.

When it comes to social interactions, I tend to prefer quality to quantity. I would much rather have a few close friends than many casual acquaintances. I believe that growing up a shy child actually prepared me to appreciate the value of listening and being fully present to another person. I think shy people are cool.

I enjoy the excitement and aesthetic beauty of intellectual discovery. The birth of an insight. An epiphany. A shift in perspective. Observing or realizing new connections and interrelationships. Seeing something with a deeper level of clarity. The most exhilarating form of discovery is finding out something new about myself.
What I’m doing with my life
I've spent most of my adult life as a teacher. I've taught in a lot of fascinating settings. I've taught improv to shy people and as well as inmates. I was an inner city elementary school teacher, and I've also taught at the graduate school level. I co-founded a Servant Leadership School, where I taught leadership skills to inner city residents. For several years I facilitated a lucid dreaming program. In lucid dreams we are aware we are dreaming, and can think and act with the same amount of clarity that we posses while awake. Lucid dreaming can change the way you see the world. Are you dreaming or awake right now? How do you know?
I’m really good at
Teaching. I love to teach.

Creating community. Ironic. As I said before I was a very shy child. The psychologist Alfred Adler had a good explanation for this. He sided more with Jesus (the meek shall inherit the earth) than Darwin (survival of the fittest). He argued that the meek/nonfit must struggle, which gives birth to a perseverance that often allows them to overtake those who start out as the fittest.

Taking naps in my (parked) car. This is an amazingly practical and convenient skill. I feel sorry when someone tells me they are unable to take car naps.

Finding lost cats. I once spent 10 days searching for my former roommate’s lost cat. Eventually someone who had spotted him saw one of my fliers and called me. I followed the lead and spent the morning camped out by a vacant pool, and the cat finally showed up. He had been chilling by a pool this whole time!

Abstract and imaginative thinking. Many people might not think these two things go together, but with me they do.

Spinning a frisbee on the tip of my finger. I taught myself to do this as a teenager. Turned out to not be as useful of a life skill as I first thought.

Mental arithmetic. This was probably a wonderfully handy skill to have before the invention of the calculator.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile. Also, I look younger than my actual age. Although I guess that's not the first thing strangers notice about me because they don't know my real age. If I wore a t-shirt that said 'I'm 43 years old' then my youthful looks would be the first thing people noticed about me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Time Traveler's Wife, Lying on the Couch, The Discovery of the Unconscious, Flow:The Psychology of Optimal Experience

Movies: I tend to like dark comedies and mind bending films. Some of my favorites are Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind, Juno, Life is Beautiful, and 12 Monkeys.

TV: Arrested Development, the Office, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Breaking Bad
Six things I could never do without
My dreams, books, friends and loved ones, alone time, together time, figuring out the meaning of my life.

I also enjoy the relaxed feeling I get after riding my bike.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- Why certain song lyrics pop into my head at certain times. My hunch is these song lyrics are much like dreams, potentially giving me information about my self and surroundings that are not completely within my conscious awareness.
- The difference between self actualization and self-image actualization.
- How to move beyond the boundaries of the world I've created for myself.
- Why okcupid thinks people who have different opinions from me are my enemy.
On a typical Friday night I am
It varies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
On the Internet? Is this a zen koan?
The two of us