42Madison, United States
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My self-summary
I have been described as kind, generous, intelligent, and honest, and I am seeking someone similar in these traits that will introduce me to all sorts of new things beyond these basics.

I was faithful throughout my marriage; if you want to have an affair or cheat on your spouse, I am probably not the person you are looking for as a match. I value honesty too much. (Obviously, an open, poly relationship is different- it isn't cheating, as there is no lie involved.)

I'm very serious when I say I'm looking for friends first, and we will see what develops. I am looking for someone that wants to be a priority in my life and to make me one in his (not necessarily the first priority- with a child, I cannot promise that, and it would be hypocritical to ask for it). I love long random chats, watching old series on Netflix (or old episodes trying to catch up with a current series), cuddling, and having fun. Of various kinds...

I'm not terribly athletic, but I'm open to learning within reason. Rock climbing, sure; Ironman, probably not. I have yet to find someone that could convince me running is fun- it is what you do if someone is chasing you and you don't think you can handle them! Which isn't to say that YOUR version of teaching won't take the prize!

I'm a very left-brained person, smart in books, learning people as I go. I was a chemist for many years and still miss benchwork occasionally. I will always probably miss actually mixing chemicals to some degree, but I promise not to blow up your house!

I read. A lot. Anything from George R R Martin to Michelle Moran to Phillipa Gregory to Laurie Garrett.

8/24/13- I saw this today and loved it:
I am a handful!
I am strong willed, independent, a bit
outspoken, and I tell it like it is.
I make mistakes, I'm sometimes outta control
and at times hard to handle.
But, I love and give with all of my heart.
If you can't handle me at my worst, then
You sure don't deserve me at my best!

It is pretty true- I can be a handful, but I love the people in my life deeply, even when it isn't probably a good idea anymore. This isn't just partners, but friends as well. I don't believe people are disposable- they come into our lives for a reason, each is special in their own way and should be treated as such. As you can imagine, my heart has a few scars from this, but I don't regret loving anyone I've cared about, despite the pain at the end. When I say I'm hard to handle or out of control, it is rarely if ever directed outward in deliberately hurtful behaviors towards others. Hurtful/hateful/ derogatory comments directed at myself is my emotional weapon of choice, as I can only truly know my own plans, desires, and future action, and will do what we can ro peovide the poisoning found on his church can be purity thr anabke and gwt tho nack on trach. I'm all for child-LIKE, but child-ISH is a waste of time better spent snuggling!

September, 2014 addition-
I'm exploring nonstandard versions of relationships, including some kink and the concept of polyamory. I don't pretend either is going to be everyone's cup of tea, but I have always said the heart can hold more than a single person at a time. (Or at least mine can.) So if my snuggling with an ex is going to be an issue, we may be best off friends. I don't know if I will decide to attempt multiple, long term romantic relationships, but I won't rule it out right now, either. That will obviously depend on not just my needs and desires but those of the others involved as well.
What I’m doing with my life
Work, chasing a child, finding my way. Learning and growing, and loving it.

In "Relationship" I put mostly monogamous, as a closest option. I have current relationships and am open to additional connections (whether friendly or romantic). However, I am not sexually active with people I am not in a relationship with, and using "non-monogamous" seems to imply I'm open to casual sex. I'm not. I am open to more than one sexual relationship at a time, but each will be "serious" in itself.
I hope that makes sense to people other than me! If not, please ask- I only bite when asked to do so.
I’m really good at
Science. Talking to people about my work.
Listening. And caring for my friends.
The rest you will have to figure out on your own.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm told it is my smile. I hope my handshake is good, too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books- almost anything with words and few/no pictures (sorry, guys, it's a comic book, not a novel).
Movies- I usually don't get to movies these days (I'd love to, though) and the last 15 years they have been big budget sci-fi. I highly recommend The Decendants, book and movie, ask me why sometime!
Country music, 80's stuff. Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, anything I can dance to.
Food- I'm a WI girl through and through- meat and potatoes, not spicy stuff.
I'd love to go to plays again- haven't for years.
Six things I could never do without
My son
Books- ok, my Kindle app on my tablet
My tablet/laptop
My phone
Water- I lived in a high desert for 8 years, and learned to crave it
Did I say books yet?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, dinosaurs, lots of stuff you don't talk about at the dinner table (unless you WANT to empty the restaurant, which I have), the next book I'm going to read, where my life is going to go next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching Nick, Jr or Mythbusters, or driving to Central WI for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I deal with migraines, more than most, unfortunately. I had sirgey this spring to attempt to control them, which gives you an idea how bad they can be! Please don't assume if I cancel that I am not interested- if I say I'm not able, I'm really not kidding. I will generally try to reschedule either right away or, if I don't have calendars there, soon after, and I truly DO mean it when I do so. The nice part is I tend to trust it if you have to cancel and say you want to reschedule, too, because I have had to do it!

If you are curious, here is a post I found about how CDM (chronic daily migraine) intergrates into life:

I'm happy to answer questions, too, if you happen to have someone in your life you want to know how to support, etc. I'm an open book- and as I implied above, if it is a book, I think it's meant to be read!
You should message me if
You want a new friend
I've made you curious
You are more interested in people than screentime
We are a high match
You have a good book to recommend
The two of us