My masculinity doesn't involve chest pounding and drawing undue attention to myself; instead, rather, the quiet confident reserve of a gentleman balancing both swagger and sophistication. My strength as a man comes from embracing my softness. It is with unbridled exuberance to the depths of my essence that I, filled with passion, sentiment and romance, crave on a multitude of levels intimacy that encompasses body, mind, heart and soul.
Yet there also is a playful, frothy side to me, one who laughs often and brings laughter and merriment to others; whose sense of humor ranges from the lowbrow to the sophisticated, the droll to the sardonic to the slapstick; the stream of consciousness; the bawdy to the screwball; and all else, from outside to in-between.
In me you find a man of character, whose principles, integrity, morals and scruples don't change with the prevailing whims of popularity. Whose visage reflects all that's been taken in over the years; filled with gratitude to those who have had a role in that process, including the hurts and healing. All have brought me to this place and time and I give thanks, because those people and events aided me growing to know, like and most important, love the person I am and have yet to become and to be.
I know who I am and what I need: that one terrific partner who brings to the table the solid qualities I bring: I (am):
1) Know, love and respect myself.
2) Emotionally healthy with a balanced sense of self, strong and assertive, who extends that gift to others through generosity of spirit and a giving, loving heart.
3) Will neither relinquish my dreams nor demand you give up yours. Rather, encourage and support our hopes, goals and aspirations, as well as our pursuits in achieving them.
4) Intuitively recognizes true chemistry is often imperceptible at first and not a snap judgment based upon initial infatuation; rather, a faint spark that needs patience and encouragement in order for the heart to grow all-encompassing; knowing love cannot be forced, but, rather, fostered.
5) Understands a relationship is not to make one "whole" or "fulfilled," but to add color and light, depth and dimension to one another.
6) Accepts none of us are or can be 100% what the other wants/needs.
7) Celebrates that our differences neither compete, diminish nor detract, but instead compliment and complement.
8) Places a premium on trust. Who is straightforward and upfront and if and when applicable, understands the feeling of betrayal having experienced it first-hand.
9) Will safeguard a valued treasure: the unfurling of our hearts, for there is no force more destructive than deliberately betraying that which is most precious: Trust, and with it the confiding of our hurts, our fears, our hopes, our dreams.
When I meet you I will know how fortunate I am and I will always express my gratitude for the gift with which you have graced me.
Now take my hand. Join me on this exhilarating adventure. “Dance well, dance often, dance with all our heart” --- and as the title of the Leonard Cohen goes, "Dance Me Till the End of Time."
2) The arts, for good art, be in fine or performing, lifts. As it is attributed to Picasso: "Art washes from the soul the dust of everyday life."
3) Being chivalrous and courteous. My parents raised me to be respectful toward women. (It also means my eyes don't roam.)
4) A smile.
Also, but I don't spend much time thinking about the following, which is, if a lady no longer is interested why she simply doesn't communicate that? I'm not a stalker, nor do I pout and turn mean. All I ask is what I give in return: respect. If after an initial interest you don't feel "something," please tell me, gently, and I will honor and respect that and not contact you any further. I won't lead you on, so please don't do that to me.