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My self-summary
Artist weirdo who feels very at home in business casual.

I used to make space telescopes for NASA, but then I found out salespeople are way funnier so I changed careers.

I get along great with verbose introverts. A good joke--or a bad joke told well--is a quick way to my heart.

Ethically nonmonogamous. Big on communication.
What I’m doing with my life
Getting excited about negotiations of all kinds, rather than dreading them.

I also co-host Appetite Obscure, an experimental dining potluck. A prototypical dish:
Windy Sea Storm
1. Stand in two buckets of water, one warm and one cold
2. Put on goggles
3. Eat whitefish with mangos while a powerful fan blows arugula into your face
I’m really good at
Mirroring movement. Vicarious enjoyment. Eating the whole burrito.

Every few months I dive into a new pursuit really hard. I really like the steep part of a learning curve. Current obsessions are intersecting art and business culture and designing playground games.

I will notice and appreciate how your hands move and your mouth quirks.
The first things people usually notice about me
Someone once described my voice as a cross between Carl Sagan and They Might Be Giants.

I present as "culturally normal." I like the transparency.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Everything in n+1 and Paper Monument. My writing role models are Borges, Kafka, Italo Calvino, and Ian MacEwan. I love short stories, especially Chekhov and George Saunders--the sadder the better. I also like Neal Stephenson and pulpier sci-fi a la Alfred Bester.

Graphic novels: Blankets, Habibi, Bone, Zot!, and all things Chris Ware.

Movies: Her, Stranger Than Fiction, The Science of Sleep

Music: Indie longhair sad bands that tell elaborate stories (Okkerville River, Arcade Fire, Mountain Goats). Extremely into San Fermin. Also into bassy electronic a la Purity Ring or Grimes.

Visually I dig on clean lines, high contrast monochrome, and calligraphy, especially Arabic and Chinese calligraphy. Rothko and Motherwell. I love the tension between symbol, shape, and representation.

I eat all the stuff
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
That recent Invisibilia episode about how emotions are just concepts our brain slaps on physical sensations in the body. How do I redefine vulnerability? Why are certain excitements unpleasant to me (skydiving for example) while others feel great (public speaking)?
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes, I dance. I'm an okay popper but my boogaloo is a one-trick pony.

Most Friday nights are pretty quiet though. I'm pretty happy just sitting and having interesting conversations.

I also help design and produce interactive art events. I usually have more fun facilitating parties than attending them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm susceptible to peer pressure. I try to use this to my advantage through careful peer curation.
You should message me if
You're poly-compatible.

You're good with words, both the serious and the joking kind.

You're curious.
The two of us