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My self-summary
Hi everyone, so to start, a couple things about me...

First of all I am "post-op", and I could just put "Woman" instead of "Trans Woman" but Trans* is part of my journey so I identify thus. But, just so you know, I have what any other woman has, nothing "extra..." ;)

Second, I have very little patience for online dating. I don't get on much and my patience for a whole bunch of messages is super low.

That all being said, if you're still interested, please read on...

I am a sophisticated woman looking for a sophisticated partner. Please have something to say and be able to put at least a few words together. Also, please know who you are and what you want. I have lived and worked in Manhattan, in Budapest, and in San Francisco, and I have travelled. I know what what comes in a good martini and can make one. My favourite place in the world is Lincoln Center. I love opera and jazz and cocktail hour in little black cocktail dresses. I read and watch movies and love music. I also love to be at home, to cook wonderful things, dress nicely and please my lover.

I am a beautiful, magical, spiritual, being, living here in this physical body. And I do like luscious pleasures of the physical world. I love touch and sex and food and wine and stones and other crystals and whispey curtains and soft bedding and pretty dresses and shopping!

I was born into this world, as a male, but I am female really, a transgender female. And I love who I am, and am wonderfully comfortable with myself and my femininity and am looking for a partner who is also. As an earth child (Taurus), I love all things sensuous, cooking, eating, dressing up, drinking wine, raising energy, burning candles and incense. And I'm looking for partners, what a drag life is alone. Of all the amazing experiences I've had in my life, it has been the simple pleasures of the company I have shared that have been the most precious.

So please come and talk to me, perhaps you can be part of the next set of precious experiences.
What I’m doing with my life
.Art and music ~ I am finally able to dedicate my life to long overdue artistic work. I am studying piano and playing my guitars. And photography! I am studying photo at City College and moving from a decent amateur to, I hope, a true artist.

And, I am serving as a chaplain at my VERY open minded church, First Unitarian Universalist Society of San Francisco. FYI - I am not a Christian, just a caring human being.

Thrilled to be doing art and helping people in their times of need!
I’m really good at
Listening, and teaching (they kind of go together) touch, cooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, my dry cleaning lady said I was "so tall..." I thought that was cute.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

My big dictionary - gifted to me by the lady at the Bookmobile.
The Odyssey (The basis of all adventure stories)
The Sailor Dog :) A great children's book that has just stuck with me
The Story of Civilization - Will and Ariel Durant
Balzac and the Little Chinese Seamstress - Dai Sijie
Inferno - Dante A
Balkan Ghosts by Robert Kaplan
Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins (Oh! I love this story!)
The Things They Carried by Tim O'brien
Ursula K. LaGuin
Marion Zimmer Bradley
Divergent by Veronica Roth (Found in my room in Ko Samui Thailand)


Ken Burns: Jazz
The Hunger Games
Boys on the Side
Ma Vie en Rose
La Vie en Rose
The French Lieutenants Woman
Kissing Jessica Stein,
The Hudsucker Proxy
Joe vs The Volcano
Amour de Femme
Primary Colors
City of Angels


Evanesence, Portishead, Moby, Sheryl Crow, Mazzy Star, Amy Winehouse, Nina Simone, Billie Holiday, Thelonious Monk, Musical Theater!

And FOOD yes. Thai, Vietnamese, Mexican, Greek, Indian, Brunch!. All of it almost. And cooking it. Smelling the spices heating in the oil and wafting their aroma through my kitchen. Yummmmm.
Six things I could never do without
Friendship; without my friends I could not survive. They have saved me so many times in so many ways I can't even say.

Clothes that make me feel; mmmmmmmm, just you know, feel delicious and delightful
My Tarot Cards.
Jewelry & crystals. The kind that heals and feeds my energy.
Kindness & compassion
Books, especially books that inspire and make me feel more alive and more in love.
Food. Anything that feeds actually; the body, mind or soul. Art can be food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Touch and sex and friendship.

How to have an impact on the world, and how to have and create more community. Americans are so disconnected and New Yorkers so busy. Like everyone, I need my friends and a person in my life and it just seems so difficult to connect to anyone here. I miss Europe.

Ok and shopping. I love shopping and cooking. Hanging around the kitchen with friends and cooking whatever.
On a typical Friday night I am
Cooking up something yummy probably!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well, I'm a trans-woman, although that's getting less and less private all the time. I'm pretty open. I put the Sailor Dog in my book list, that's kind of private ;)
You should message me if
You're spiritual and sexual and comfortable with yourself and in your body. And you're not afraid to admit who you are, and what turns you on.

Or... if you just feel it!
The two of us