38 Oxford, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
Hello, I'm John. I've done the "spending your 20s in London" thing, and have to admit I got the timing slightly off (27 to 34, oh well).

Now safely back in Oxford where I spent my late teens and early twenties, and looking for people who can help me in the belief that I'm still the person I was back then, while also holding down a serious and responsible job.

Mostly looking for people who want to do stuff in town so that I am not turning up to interesting things on my own. This week, for example, I am interested in improvised comedy, wine tasting, and student theatre. Or stuff in London, I'm still there a lot.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in the fringes of politics. As part of, and/or as well as that, I like the company of interesting people - sometimes virtual, but I'm not just after pen pals, I'm almost always happy to meet people in real life, if we get on.

I finished a part-time MSc a few years ago which stole most of my social life for two years, although I opted for the full student lifestyle, and made the most of the student bar after evening lectures.

My academic and professional specialism is the countryside. One day I intend to live there, but it's more complicated than they make it look on 'Escape to the Country'. Oxford is, perhaps, progress.
I’m really good at
Baking. Certain card games (not the profitable kind). Taming cats. Critical précis. Being on time (as long as we're not talking breakfast).

I think you learn more about people through what they're bad at, though. I will volunteer that I am bad at housework, and keeping secrets (not too bad with other people's - terrible with my own).
The first things people usually notice about me
That I am treating them like an old friend, even though we just met. I don't really do 'getting to know people gradually'. Of course, treating them like an old friend quite possibly means insulting them. If I insult you, you're in.

OKCupid confirms this - my top trait is being "more friendly to strangers". Though apparently my top negative trait is being bad mannered. I'm sure there's a logic to that somewhere. Maybe I intrude on nice polite strangers who are just trying to have a quiet evening out. I don't think so, though.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
a) I like short books about philosophy and history (alternative history is good), pratchett, mieville, collections of short SF, but give me chick lit, murder mystery, or whatever, and that will do me nicely for a holiday or lunchbreak. Sadly though I read so much for work, and online, that reading for pleasure doesn't happen as often as I would like.

b) Python, Pasolini, mostly romantic comedies though. I go to the cinema to be entertained, not to be educated.

c) Indie. Britpop. Pulp. Smiths. Manics. Suede. Philip Jeays. Jacques Brel. Almost anything with the modifier 'symphonic' (pop, folk, rock).

d) Thai. Indian. Fry-ups. Anything with artichoke hearts. Cake (home-made, see above). A decade too late I have just found out how to make good tofu of the stir-fry variety, and also just about perfected home-made sweet and sour sauce.
The six things I could never do without
I can manage well without most things - I think coping when things are otherwise that one would wish them to be is among the greatest human virtues... but let's say music, human interaction, the odd cat here and there, tasty food, antihistamines, and at least a minimum level of financial security.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where so much time went, and whether it's OK that 90% of my friends are younger than me. I like the curiosity, the ambition and the optimism.
On a typical Friday night I am
In the pub near work, out in Camden, at a gig, at a houseparty... or getting an early night ready for a big weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm downwardly mobile, I must be. I keep moving to more expensive places and downgrading where I live. I used to own a 2-bed flat, now I rent a 1-bed flat. Which I guess is still more than some people have, and it is bang in the middle of some dreaming spires and such.
You should message me if
You have something to say. If you can't think of anything, tell me your favourite joke, for now.