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My self-summary
I have lived a fairly full life thus far, full of music, art, travel, hiking, the ocean, fulfilling relationships, education, and a career. I'm in the midst of starting a new chapter in my life, beach-combing for what to carry forward and what to leave for the tide. I'm humbly excited for this change.

I possess a master's degree in the arts and human services. My career as a psychotherapist was fulfilling at times--albeit draining--so I can't say I felt a better person or full of vitality at the end of the day with any degree of regularity. With this recognition, I left my career about a year ago to hike the Appalachian trail from Georgia to Maine--an amazing experience in terms of sheer beauty, the sense of accomplishment, people, and the new perspective it afforded me on life.

Now that I finished, I'm in a bit of protracted culture-shock. I moved to Bellingham, WA shortly after my trip to live in a somewhat urban environment with the ocean and 2 mile high mountains readily accessible. I recently returned to New England to get trained as a yoga instructor while my possessions remain in storage out west. I'm almost done, and have come to appreciate the freedom and gravity of my current life circumstance. I can go anywhere and feel free to explore interests I've neglected, though I also yearn for a sense of roots to people and a location. I'm sorting out these two seemingly contradictory notions as you read this!

I have no particular expectations from OkCupid, though I'm open to any that emerge, particularly meeting new people trying to make the most of their lives. I'm up for coffee or drinks, anything really. Please have something interesting or intelligent to say if you reach out. I like characters and people who live their own truth.
What I’m doing with my life
already covered that I think...
I’m really good at
spontaneous cooking and cocktail creation
music, (though a bit rusty at the moment)
city biking
conversation (with the right people)
The first things people usually notice about me
You should meet me and better answer this question, I don't presume to know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent Music: A healthy doses of Nick Drake and Jackson C Frank. At other times The Dirty Projectors, Modest Mouse (been listening since their first full length over 20 years ago--wow!), Regina Spektor, Wilco, Bowie, Tom Waits, Battles (not a typo for the Beatles), anything Thom Yorke, Andrew Bird, Tortoise, Fugazi, Shellac (and the overwhelming majority of Touch and Go distributions), Don Caballero, Blonde Redhead, Sigur Ros . I Love Indie, Jazz, some 20th C. Classical, though really good music is good music regardless of genre.

Authors: Herman Hess, Milan Kundera, John Irving, Don DeLillo; existential philosophy, conceptual physics

Movies: Cohen Brothers, Almodovar, and Wes Anderson. Just saw Djengo, which reminds me I like Quentin Tarantino too. Of course, these are all big deal directors. I generally prefer well done smaller budget films to blockbusters. I prefer thoughtful cinematography to senseless violence (I would not put Tarantino movies in the latter category). I generally enjoy foreign films and documentaries, though sometimes I feel the documentaries I chose simply reinforce my pre-existing beliefs.

Food: Eating and cooking--I'm a pretty darn good cook. My eating principle: If I haven't tried something before, I try it. I always try to figure out how dishes are made in restaurants and then try to replicate it from my own intuitive sense of cooking. I like both fine dining and dives. Indian. Sushi. Vietnamese. Mexican. Italian. Vegan. Vegetarian. You name it. I try to avoid processed foods as much as possible. I'm a fan of local produce and grass fed beef. You are what you eat.
The six things I could never do without
Really, after living in the woods for 5 months, I think I can get by on food, clothing, shelter, exercise, the arts, and nature.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to put my talents to use
New areas for personal growth
My parents' health as they age
The nature of thought itself
On a typical Friday night I am
My life is not so regimented or habitual.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can be a little obsessive in my thinking I suppose, a sort of idea factory. Recently I've been better at acting on these ideas; turning possibilities into realities. I catch myself doing it though (the thinking, not the acting) and when the process seems counter-productive, I shift it. It fuels my creativity, though at times, admittedly, it draws my focus inward. I also turned down an acceptance letter from Harvard for a Ph D. program in evolutionary psychology to pursue a duel master's in counseling psychology an arts therapy with a concentration in music. I couldn't hang with that kind of privilege and I'd rather subvert cultural power structures than be a part of them. This was 11 years ago. I feel I made the right choice.
You should message me if
If reading my profile both titillates and unnerves you in the best way possible. Who doesn't get at least a little nervous before an okc date? If you are looking to jump into something quickly/are chomping at the bit to start a family soon, please look elsewhere. I prefer to let things develop organically rather than in forced time frames.