I am a man of principles, and while the principles themselves are simple, the depth of thought surrounding them is not.
Physically, I had let myself slip for several years. I am now working on getting back in shape. If you're looking for someone who's fit now, I am not for you. If being and becoming healthy are more important to you, I can live up to that.
The "has a kid" refers to my now adult daughter who lives with her mother in a different county. My daughter and I have a good relationship, but we don't see each other a lot, mostly just texts and calls.
I have tried to find a way to express what I am looking for in a potential partner, and my iterations have brought me to "mentally flexible" and "open hearted." (Not literally open hearted as I am not a surgeon.) Open minded has too many other implications, and I really wanted to convey a sense of low hatred, lack of judgmentalism, and sincere caring. For mental flexibility, I wanted to convey the notion of intelligence without the judgment, tempered by a fundamental lack of rigidity. The desire to "become right" or to maintain accuracy is higher than the desire to cling to "being right." And as I place negative value on hypocrisy, I do very much try to uphold these values myself.
Also, word play.
Thought – “the unexamined life is not worth living” is extreme and unnatural applied to others as many people can be happy without doing so, but to me, my life is more complete with thinking.
People to care about – alone time is fine, but life without this would be empty.
Communication – open, honest, direct, yet still tactful. Without this, relationships with the above become unnecessarily complicated.
Nature – the natural beauty of the world. To me, concrete jungles are ugly and lifeless.
Finally, this is more of an ultimate want than a “need” as I'm not going to try to push any person into this, but one of the biggest goals for my life is to have a life partner that I can share and enjoy the rest of my life with.