49 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a bi guy in a 20+ year "monogam-ish" relationship with a great guy, though at times I might also have one more (usually) longer-term/on-going relationship (typically a woman) in my life as well. No set agenda, but at the moment me and my partner would be especially stoked to find a few friendly folks to socialize with...

Though I admire the local visionaries, my blue-collar background taught me to focus more on things concrete and practical. I'm endlessly curious, a big-picture thinker, and love science, empiricism and win-win solutions. My adult careers--landscaping, horticulture and farming--have centered around a love for plants, and being oudoors. I majored in History/Gov. and English once upon a time; I don't argue politics so much these days, but good writing still stirs my blood! I know my way around the Oregon wine scene, miss the Austin music scene and love working on houses (as in framing walls, not choosing paint swatches!): current project, a 1915 farmhouse. The gym keeps me sane in the rainy months.

I could say I'm honest, hard-working, laid-back, and plenty of other things, many good, some less than perfect. How bout we grab a drink, and you can draw your own conclusions?
What I’m doing with my life
Making perfect ice-cubes.

I also manage a nursery and own a farm.
I’m really good at
Growing things.
Working with my hands.
Petting dogs.
Finish carpentry.
Finishing people's drinks!
Losing myself in tasks.
Identifying plants.
Enjoying my mediocre skiing skills.
Sticking to my workouts.
Not sticking my tongue out unless I
Intend to use it...;-)
The first things people usually notice about me
A mischievous smile apparently. Also I look a bit young for my age (I know, I know, don't we all...:-) Anyway, I like to pretend it's true in my case since I had to put up with looking like Harry Potter in my 20's and getting "carded" into my 30's...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent reads: "The Goldfinch", "Woodlanders", "Jitterbug Perfume", "2312", "The Windup Girl", "Wolf Hall", "The Anubis Gates", "Sex At Dawn".

Writers: Ursula LeGuin, Thomas Hardy, George Martin, W.B.Yeats, Neil Gaiman, Sean Stewart, Gary Snyder

Music: I've never been musically "cool": Thrash, Hip Hop, ballads, Latin beats, trashy dance pop, country, blues or sea shanties--keep it coming!

TV: Seemingly unlike most Portlanders, I do own and watch a television: All the great HBO series, past and present, Masterpiece/Mystery/Brit-coms, and silly sitcoms generally.

Movies: The Lion in Winter, Blade Runner, Love and Death, Wings of Desire, Passion Fish, anything by Wes Anderson, John Sayles, or Almodovar...
The six things I could never do without
Oxygen, food, water, gravity, atmospheric pressures within the range...(I wonder what percentage of people at least begin typing the smartass response?)

Meaningful Work
Smokin sex
Good Soil
Great coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to keep a business that's been entrusted to me in good shape, and my employees happy.

Keeping the balance between obligations/long-term plans and the satisfaction that comes from being present in the moment.

How beautiful, interesting and sexy people are...
On a typical Friday night I am
...going to bed tired after working, planting, cleaning, etc.

...laughing over a few too many beers with friends old and new.

...watching a movie, tv or reading a book.

...having a nice meal/drinking good wine.

...wandering (with my partner of 25 years, and probably our dog) around some place we're visiting, or bedding down for the night under the biggest tree we can find.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Good God people, at least admit that you like Maroon 5 or eat meat once a year!

I once took pictures of my feet for a guy I chatted with online--it didn't take much effort on my behalf, and it made him very happy...
You should message me if
You have a good heart, are interesting, smart, sexy, witty, funny, & fun!

Dating and snogging a chill, good natured, reliable guy (who isn't going to be "THE ONE") sounds potentially pleasant, not like some sort of epic self-betrayal--I mean, really, who wants to be part of that..?!

You need a few headless torso selfies, photos of my manly farm truck or samples of my better douche-y pick-up lines (Oh baby! You with all those curves, and me with no brakes...Yeah?...Hey, wait! Where you going...!?)