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My self-summary
An am neither a peacock, nor a wolf. I am not the kind of person who goes out of my way to get people's attention and I am not a person who doggedly pursues everything that catches my eye. As a result, I am usually not on women's radar. But I do think that I'm worth getting to know. Be it as friends or possibly something more.

I find that the single most important thing that interests me in a person is the ability to have long, wide-ranging conversations. I love talking to people who are interested in just about everything, even though everything may not be an interest (if that makes sense).

I am more of a thinker thank a doer.

I am an engineer both by my nature and by profession, and I love letting my mind flow from topic to topic building fascinating webs of ideas. Not in the ADD sense but rather simply in the sense of letting thought wander like a leaf in the wind.

I am an introvert. Spending time with friends brings me joy, but quiet is how I recharge.

When it comes to developing an interest in a woman, it takes time. That interest forms as friendship and trust form. I've really never had serious interest without the other two.

I have very little dating experience, so I'm really not sure exactly what I'm looking for. I suppose at this point I'm mostly hoping to find someone who likes to talk and cuddle. :-)

Guess that's it for now. We'll see what else I add...
What I’m doing with my life
Right now my life is pretty stable. Generally, I like this. I do not do well with chaos. This is not to say I avoid all things new, but I generally am not a seeker of adventure.

For me, short term planning is the coming year. Mid-term planning is a few years out and long term planning is retirement. However, all plans are transient. They can be discarded easily (well most of them) if the mood strikes me.

I have a stable job, so my main goal at the moment is to pay off my house.
I’m really good at
I have been told (and tend to agree) that I give really good hugs. Most of the other things I consider myself to be really good at are my professional skills.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Frankly, I get the greatest enjoyment out of thought and conversation. Books, movies, shows and and music are all just passing entertainment for me; not a major source of pleasure in my life.

This past summer I read Susan Cain's Quiet about introverts. As an introvert myself, it's nice to be reading something that shows the strengths of this personality type, rather than just stigmatizing them. I'm finding that the sociology / neuroscience section of a book store has some really great stuff.

A lot of the music I like is actually older than I am. Beatles, Simon and Garfunkel, Jethro Tull. Classical when I need to focus. A couple current groups I like are Carbon Leaf, California Guitar Trio and Johnny A.

As for food, I like what generally goes in the "comfort food" category. Pasta, soups, shepherd's pie. Presentation or sophistication matters little to me.

I live alone, so I'm used to eating the same thing many days in a row.

It may be because it happens infrequently, and is often by choice, but I love to cook for friends and family. And there are some things, that I can cook really quite well.
Six things I could never do without
A project. It doesn't really matter if I'm working on it, or even if I ever finish it, but I need something that challenges me and gives me something to learn from.
Quiet a lot of the time.
Friends occasionally.
My car (I'm an hour from just about anything).
I almost always have my leatherman on my hip and a smaller one in my pocket, but I certainly can do without them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, The Universe and Everything. There are very few things that I have no interest in whatsoever. Reality TV. There's one. :-)

Other than that, I love to think. My mind is the single greatest asset I have or will ever have. My mind is a bizarre and wondrous place. But in some ways, it works very differently from those of most people. I have had to adapt to this, but I feel that it's only made my mind more powerful. This is not ego. I am smart, but certainly no super-genus. I just find it fascinating what the human brain is capable of.

As I said above, I am shy. But if you give me the impression you WANT to talk to me, I can talk for hours about almost anything. Go ahead, try me. ;-D
On a typical Friday night I am
I've recently taken up indoor rock climbing, so lately I've been going to a rock gym after work on Fridays. I'm definitely having fun with it. I love that there's always something that's just beyond what you're able to do and gives something to work toward.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The butterflies I get in my stomach from serious excitement are drunk, rowdy and generally not very pleasant. That doesn't mean they're not worth dealing with from time to time though.
You should message me if
You find any of what I have said intriguing. And don't mind someone who rejects a handful of social and dating norms. (I'm talking about male dating norms of confidence and pursuit, here. Not something like bathing regularly.)

As I've said in a couple of places, very few things in life are as fulfilling as a really good conversation. Why don't you take a chance and start one with me.
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