notayuca
33 Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
Human/Composer/Muckraker/Theatermaker/Sexuality Educator

I'm fiercely open-hearted and open-heartedly fierce.

Everything I do is reaching toward: how can we be together better - as lovers, as families, as communities, as citizens of the world?

I'm a relationship anarchist. To me, this means I create my own vocabulary around every connection, and I can say to everyone in my life: I love a number of different people in a number of different ways, but that doesn't take away from how much I love you. I'm very into the idea of longterm commitment and/or longterm intentions, but I don't think that those things constitute the only valuable kind of connection. Here's a (necessarily reductive) manifesto that I love.
What I’m doing with my life
I recently did a concert of a huge score I've been working on for nine years, and I was the music director of the recent workshop of Anais Mitchell's Hadestown at NYTW.

I'm currently finishing post-production on two music videos for the album I made through a cross-country house concert/conversation tour about love, sex, and family.

Spring of 2016, I've got a show at the Bushwick Starr, a concert in a festival in Philly, an artist residency upstate, and a workshop of a new piece at NYU Abu Dhabi.

I co-host a podcast about sex, the tagline of which is "authenticity and communication are the sexiest". On it, I get to be in public conversation with a bunch of my heroes.

I'm working on a dating app specifically for kinky people, and I have a sex and relationships coaching practice.
I’m really good at
Facilitation: synthesizing/coordinating people and ideas
Playing/writing/conducting music.
The first things people usually notice about me
So I’m told - a distinct aura of joy
Also, the green streaks in my hair
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Currently Reading: "The Argonauts" by Maggie Nelson
Favorites: Nicholson Baker, Rebecca Solnit

Currently Listening To: "Futurity" by the Lisps
Favorites: Joanna Newsom, Nina Simone

Recently Re-Watched: Wall-E
Favorites: Terrence Malick, Terry Gilliam
I spend a lot of time thinking about
In any encounter: WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU? WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU CARE ABOUT? AND WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING ABOUT IT? I'm not one for small talk. :)

I ascribe not only importance, but *holiness* to human connection. Care and community are everything. In everything I do, artistically or otherwise, if the well-being of myself and others is not paramount, then probably nothing that I am doing matters.

Love as a verb. I think a lot of times concepts like “love” and “peace” are thought of as woo-woo and are thrown around lightly, but I’m talking about *LOVE*, like, with teeth.

Queer as a verb. Making the familiar strange, staying open to surprise, actively engaging with alternatives to what is normative and inviting others to do the same.

Also, recently, I've been spending a lot of time thinking about the longterm intentional community I am building (in conversation with other like-minded humans). I want to be totally unafraid to live in the way that I think is right.
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical Friday night!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Seriously, ask me anything you’d like to know.
You should message me if
...you lead with open-heartedness and compassion and curiosity, in life in general and in the OKCupid-sphere
...you are a super smart and sexy human who makes a point to subvert hegemonic/heteronormative practices in and out of the bedroom. (If you are 100% straight and have no idea what I'm talking about, we probably won't get along, at least not in a dating sense)
...you are interesting and interested and take excellent care of your body
...you want discuss life, the universe, and everything, while intermittently making out
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