I'm fiercely open-hearted and open-heartedly fierce.
Everything I do is reaching toward: how can we be together better - as lovers, as families, as communities, as citizens of the world?
I'm a relationship anarchist. To me, this means I create my own vocabulary around every connection, and I can say to everyone in my life: I love a number of different people in a number of different ways, but that doesn't take away from how much I love you. I'm very into the idea of longterm commitment and/or longterm intentions, but I don't think that those things constitute the only valuable kind of connection. Here's a (necessarily reductive) manifesto that I love.
I'm currently finishing post-production on two music videos for the album I made through a cross-country house concert/conversation tour about love, sex, and family.
Spring of 2016, I've got a show at the Bushwick Starr, a concert in a festival in Philly, an artist residency upstate, and a workshop of a new piece at NYU Abu Dhabi.
I co-host a podcast about sex, the tagline of which is "authenticity and communication are the sexiest". On it, I get to be in public conversation with a bunch of my heroes.
I'm working on a dating app specifically for kinky people, and I have a sex and relationships coaching practice.
Also, the green streaks in my hair
Favorites: Nicholson Baker, Rebecca Solnit
Currently Listening To: "Futurity" by the Lisps
Favorites: Joanna Newsom, Nina Simone
Recently Re-Watched: Wall-E
Favorites: Terrence Malick, Terry Gilliam
I ascribe not only importance, but *holiness* to human connection. Care and community are everything. In everything I do, artistically or otherwise, if the well-being of myself and others is not paramount, then probably nothing that I am doing matters.
Love as a verb. I think a lot of times concepts like “love” and “peace” are thought of as woo-woo and are thrown around lightly, but I’m talking about *LOVE*, like, with teeth.
Queer as a verb. Making the familiar strange, staying open to surprise, actively engaging with alternatives to what is normative and inviting others to do the same.
Also, recently, I've been spending a lot of time thinking about the longterm intentional community I am building (in conversation with other like-minded humans). I want to be totally unafraid to live in the way that I think is right.
...you are a super smart and sexy human who makes a point to subvert hegemonic/heteronormative practices in and out of the bedroom. (If you are 100% straight and have no idea what I'm talking about, we probably won't get along, at least not in a dating sense)
...you are interesting and interested and take excellent care of your body
...you want discuss life, the universe, and everything, while intermittently making out