54Croydon, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
I like to think of myself as an individual - I really don't like stereotypes. I share one or two interests in common with lots of friends, but rarely more. I have too many interests to concentrate on any one interest for long. They vary from listening to most types of music to reading to doing cryptic crosswords to researching my family history to playing 5-a-side football (soccer). I have a good sense of humour and I like making people laugh, but I'm lousy at telling jokes - I'm better at the plays on words and that sort of thing. I like going to Science Fiction conventions - the type that are run by fans for fans and involve authors and intelligent discussion about books. I'm too shy to meet strangers without a good excuse. I dislike dancing and most dance music.

I am light-hearted, different, and intellectual
What I’m doing with my life
Too much time working (though not if you ask my colleagues :-) and not enough time indulging my hobbies.
I’m really good at
Being me, listening, loving and other things as well that dodn't readily spring to mind.
The first things people usually notice about me
Who knows? Perhaps the fact that I tend to look people in the eyes (being a northerner down south)?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(a) Little Big by John Crowley, Gormenghast by Mervyn Peake, Hyperion by Dan Simmons, The World According to Garp by John Irving, To Your Scattered Bodies Go by Philip Jose Farmer, The Magus by John Fowles, The Baroque Trilogy and Cryptonomicon by Neal Stephenson and Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell by Susanna Clarke. I've a soft spot for Harlan Ellison stories as well. Authors I currently buy in hardback include John Crowley, John Irving, Guy Gavriel Kay, George RR Martin, Neal Stephenson and Dan Simmons. I mostly read SF & fantasy, although I hate to be pigeonholed and I read whatever I feel like at the time, whether it be Pratchett, Silverberg or Bronte.

(b) I'm not a big film watcher, maybe Close Encounters of the 3rd Kind, Life of Brian, Excalibur, Lord of the Rings and Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. I prefer quality TV, or failing that SF, although both is best. Examples include Babylon 5, Buffy, West Wing, Reggie Perrin, Monty Python, GoT.

(c) Queen and others stretching from the Beatles to Suzanne Vega via Steely Dan, Led Zeppelin and Travis. My music player has everything from Iron Maiden and Muse via Avril Lavigne, the Fiery Furnaces and Joanna Newsom to Dvorak and Smetana and lots of odd tracks by artists (mostly 70s/80s pop) that I never liked anything else by. I tend to play stuff randomly - I love the contrast between different sorts of music - for example this morning I had Whole Lotta Rosie by AC/DC followed by Beethoven's Pastoral Symphony followed by Flash by Queen :-).

(d) I'm getting fonder of "fine dining" as I get older, but I am fond of duck, game etc. I'm also partial to really good chocolate, nicely fried bacon and quality steak, not to mention roast lamb.
Six things I could never do without
Books, music, my music player, crosswords, broadband and tablet (with an ereader application of course).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why many cyclists cycle on the pavement, endangering pedestrians and why many smokers don't seem to care if their smoke blows in someone else's face.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching TV or playing on the computer with my wife
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm married; I'm looking for a chat, friendship and nothing else!
You should message me if
You're female, you have a high match/friend rating and you fancy a chat. Or, if you're a Newcastle United fan and want someone to moan to about the latest debacle at the club, I'm your man!
The two of us