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My self-summary
I'm confused why so many women on OkCupid claim to dislike it when men have shirtless photos. Most women are more attracted to muscular, trim men. You'd think that, given limited time, women would be more likely to look at the profiles of men who looked more promising from their initial photo. I believe that men on Tinder and Grindr are much more likely to have shirtless photos; what's different here?

Recently I've been trying to practice thinking about this sort of thing. If you try to think about every question as a question about incentive structures, you'll get some questions wrong. But occasionally you'll come up with really interesting answers that you wouldn't have come up with otherwise.

I haven't dated men much before, and I'm only inconsistently attracted to them. But I'm interested in dating more men!
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a hardcore utilitarian. Utilitarianism is the most important thing in my life. Currently I'm trying to do good by earning to give--last year I donated more than my living expenses. Long term I'll probably end up doing direct work. I'm super happy to answer any questions you have about any of that.

I spend a lot of time working. I do a wide variety of different things for my job. I mostly spend my time interviewing, programming, teaching, and writing. Programming and teaching are fun. Writing is fun but I find it quite difficult—I care a lot about how my sentences scan, and my normal strategy of writing how I speak often produces sentences which would sound fine when spoken, but which look terrible when written because you have to infer where to put the emphasis.

(I only started caring about this recently, but it frustrates me intensely. You basically can’t write down the sentence "I never said she stole my money”, ever, because it’s never going to be clear where you should put the emphasis. Do authors just write in the tiny subset of English whose meaning is preserved by the transformation to the page?)

When I’m not working, I spend my time thinking about things related to effective altruism, economics, augmented 2-3-4 trees, and why Max Martin’s otherwise brilliant songs have such universally disappointing bridges.
I’m really good at
teaching, relative pitch, thinking about data structures.
The first things people usually notice about me
My Australian accent and my hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: I listen to a lot of music from a wide variety of genres. Here's a selection of stuff I've been enjoying recently: the soundtrack of Hamilton, Lemon Demon, Ball Park Music (their new album is pretty great!), Streetlight Manifesto, Sturgill Simpson, The Smith Street Band, Dear and the Headlights, Courtney Barnett, World/Inferno Friendship Society, Chromeo, Fun Machine, of Montreal, Jeff Rosenstock, Bomb The Music Industry!, Prelow.

Novels: The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Kurt Vonnegut, Tom Robbins, Jasper Fforde, unsongbook.com

TV Shows: I enjoyed Avatar: the Last Airbender and Firefly. I'm slowly working my way through Buffy at the moment. I've seen two episodes of Black Mirror and really enjoyed them.

Blogs: Slate Star Codex, hotelconcierge.tumblr.com.

Food: I'm fairly easy to please (uh, except for being vegan). My favorite Bay Area restaurant is probably Asmara Restaurant on Telegraph Ave in Oakland: it serves delicious and cheap Ethiopian food.
The six things I could never do without
I have a lot of fairly unusual beliefs. I would be very lonely if I didn't know anyone who cared about similar things to me. It would be hard to do without such people; luckily I have many of them.

I just spent a week staying in a house which didn't have any musical instruments, and I got really antsy from not being able to play music properly. So musical instruments are another thing.

I really do love programming. I would be very sad to live without the opportunity to think about computer science and all the beautiful areas of math connected to it.

Over the last year, I've become accustomed to sleeping in very dark rooms, and now I have trouble sleeping in bright rooms. So, curtains.

I spend a lot of time calling people, and whenever I don't have my headset with me someone always wants to call me. So I basically carry that around with me wherever I go now.

I could live without it, but I really do love public transport. Cars are unpleasant and scary. I grew up in Townsville, Australia, where the public transport is quite limited, so the Bay Area feels like public transport heaven to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Effective altruism, animal rights, economics, songs I'm working on, data structures.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending time with someone I'm dating, or staying up ridiculously late working on something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think polyamory is a bad idea for most people, including plausibly most poly people. Polyamory incentivizes several bad dating practices, and I think you have to consciously work quite hard to prevent it from slowly pushing you towards more mediocre relationships.

I have convinced previously monogamous people to date me polyamorously in the past, and I think that I wasn't nearly careful enough to cynically investigate my own motivations while I was telling them that polyamory is great.
You should message me if
you want to play music with me or date me.

Or if you're in the rationalist or EA scenes and want to say hi! Or if you want to talk about data structures or economics!
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