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My self-summary
Welcome to that time I had an imaginary conversation with the person reading my profile. It was pretty cool. When you asked about what I'm doing with my life I explained that I am trying to be more compassionate toward others and myself and present for what's happening in the moment. You looked at me a little funny, raised an eyebrow that clearly said "is this guy for real?" and I smiled because I know it's easier to say than to do. In my head, I heard Yoda's voice echoing the words "Do or do not, there is no try..." and I echoed back "Dude, just back off, this stuff takes time!"

I realized there was a break in the conversation on account of head-Yoda getting a little pushy, so I jumped back in to talk about my appreciation for walks in the woods or around village-like urban areas (think Old Town Alexandria or actual European villages). Any opportunity to mix conversation with nature's beauty or window shopping and people watching.

Struggling a little with the small talk, I searched for other things to say about myself. I started to get into some of my other interests, like video games and board games and I could see you giving that "does this guy ever get out of the house?" look. I raised my hand reassuringly, "this is something I love," I said, "but I will always choose to spend time with my partner or friends first... unless I am gaming with my partner or friends... which I hope doesn't generate a paradox that causes the Universe to blink out of existence."

Feeling it was time to say something about culture, I describe my love for live theatre and how I grew up in and around community theatre. I manage to catch four or five shows a year, but I'd love to find a partner who would like to see more. I wink, suggestively. Appearing to remember something important, I also indicate my interest for live music, which I mostly satisfy with trips to the major small venues in the area like 9:30 Club, The Fillmore, and Jammin Java. I point to you, "what about you, anything you're looking forward to seeing?"

I'm feeling kind of loose and jokey now, so I try to sarcastically ask if you've been to any good museums, because it's so hard to find a good museum in this area, right? Actually, I probably don't take advantage of everything the DMV area has to offer and that makes me sad. *sad face* Looking sincerely curious I ask if you know any really good spots or exhibits. Maybe something that the tourists don't know about? A great hidden treasure that sounds like something you'd find in one of those travel newsletters that talks about greatest hidden destinations that no one knows about? I think I have an app for that.

You give me a smile that says "Seriously, can *I* talk now?" and realizing I've been going on for a while, I smile and invite you to tell me all about yourself... but in my head I am highfiving myself, "Nailed it!"
What I’m doing with my life
Professionally, I'm a front-end web developer, which I enjoy for both the technical and problem solving aspects as well as the creativity necessary to bring the designer's vision to life on the virtual page. Sometimes I talk like it's 1999.

For pleasure and enrichment, I do things about town that I usually consider fun. That generally breaks down to movies, theater, concerts, live comedy, food consumption in a group setting, and possibly sleeping. I'm not entirely sure about the sleeping. I mean, I'm not usually conscious for it, though the dreaming, that is fun.
I’m really good at
I enjoy highly analytical discussions on matters both real and unreal. I like discussing the ramifications of the latest Supreme Court decision right next to discussions about why Labyrinth isn't as good as you remember it.

I think I'm a pretty good chair dancer. At work I put on headphones, crank some music and rock out in my chair while getting dirty with a cascading stylesheet. Honestly, I'm shocked no one's said anything.

Since this seems to come up a lot, I'm going to drop this on you: They're playing with their dog over there. Oh that's right, I said it. Now, can you handle it?
The first things people usually notice about me
"Did you get some sun? Your face looks red..." *glare*
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Reading: Something escapist. Usually science fiction or fantasy. I don't have the patience for something that keeps me in the same world that I live in every day. Currently in process: The Sandman books and American Gods (Gaiman) and probably Saga very soon. I have also been dabbling in YA fiction. These books lack the complexities of adult novels, but they are often a lot more fun and emotional. They also typically take less time to read which fits into my schedule a little better. Current favorite YA author, Melina Marchetta. The comics I read tend to come from the Whedonverse, Buffy (and spin-offs) and Firefly.

Watching on the big screen: Nearly everything. I love movies. Drama, romance, comedy, silly high school romances, 80s movies, horror, science fiction, fantasy, thrillers, independents, and anime. Something that challenges my ideas of the world, something that I can relate to, something to make me laugh or cry or feel shame or feel elation. Something that scares me or chills me. Something that takes me away from it all. Story. Characters. Setting. List: Scott Pilgrim vs The World, Easy A, Moonrise Kingdom, TiMER, Step Up 3D, Clerks, Clerks II, The Crow, Tron, Robocop, Ginger Snaps, Almost Famous, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, A Walk to Remember, Shaun of the Dead, The Princess Bride, Empire Records, Garden State, Aliens, Ever After, Donnie Darko, Office Space, Haiku Tunnel, Serenity, Braveheart, Gladiator, Zombieland, Adventureland, High Fidelity, Great Expectations, Equilibrium, Wet Hot American Summer, Legend, Hot Fuzz, Paprika, Howl's Moving Castle. Sometimes I get together with friends to stream some terrible horrible movie from Netflix and then riff it. So. Much. Fun. Speaking of which, sometimes I go to live RiffTrax screenings or those live This American Life showings.

Watching on smaller screens: Buffy, Dead Like Me, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Robot Chicken, Venture Bros., Supernatural, Battlestar Galactica, Grimm, Archer, Community, New Girl, Happy Endings, Scrubs, Wonderfalls, Pushing Daisies, The Middleman, Falling Skies, Hell on Wheels. I realize most of these have been canceled and there's still a bunch I try to follow (as evidenced by my enormous DVR queue), but it's a lot tougher to find shows I love these days. It's not just me, right?

Listening to: Rock. Pop. Metal. ...And some things in between. Right now: Florence + The Machine, Lana Del Rey, Mumford & Sons, Edenbridge, Emilie Autumn, Regina Spektor, Imogen Heap/Frou Frou, Stephen Kellogg and the Sixers, The Birthday Massacre, Nightwish, Evanescence, Within Temptation, Glow, Blue October, Breaking Benjamin, Joshua Radin, Dream Theater, Jewel, Loreena McKennitt, Theatre of Tragedy.

Listening to on the radio: If the radio is on, it's tuned to NPR. It is especially difficult to run errands on Saturdays if it means getting out of the car in the middle of "Wait Wait...," "This American Life," "Studio 360," or "RadioLab."

Podcasts: Pretty much anything on the Nerdist network, like Nerdist, Indoor Kids, Sex Nerd Sandra, James Bonding, Thrilling Adventure Hour, and others like Jordan Jesse GO!.

Feeding: I like all sorts of foods, but I'll admit, I'm not the most adventurous eater. I understand that bugs are edible, but I don't know why *I* have to eat them. I am also not keen on organ meat or ocean bugs. But other than that, most Asian foods are pretty awesome, I would like to discover more European favorites. I prefer simple foods, particularly rustic, like hearty soups and stews. Dark chocolate. Period. This morning I noticed I have six containers/flavors of hot chocolate in my pantry. Since I don't usually have milk in the house, I think I just really like the idea of hot chocolate.
The six things I could never do without
My time machine. Duct tape. Nail clippers. Sprinkles (in case there's ice cream). Bleach alternative. A hefty MagLite (that's not a euphemism).

No really, is it even possible to respond to this with a straight face?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The zombie apocalypse. It's coming, are you prepared? Or, if you live in New Zealand, beware the impending sheepacalypse.

Wow...isn't spooning great... but...

I also think about "things". "Things" is in quotes because it's an especially vague term and intended to suggest something maybe not so pure. I'm fine with the pure thoughts and thoughts about the world and people and behavior and politics and religion and music and sometimes zombies, but really, people always seem to come back to the "things" so I'm going with that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Staying up late doing nothing of substance and constantly reminding myself how great it is to sleep in. Till 9am. I suck at sleeping in.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I save my ticketstubs from movies, concerts, plays, museums... whatever has a stub, I save it. Then I scan it. Then I post it to a Flickr album. It's nerdy, it's possibly a little obsessive, but mostly it allows me to quickly flip through lots and lots of memories. It's weird to me how many people "favorite" scans of ticketstubs.

And now for an embarrassing story. Back in college I went to see a band perform in the on-campus cafe. The place was pretty full, but no one was dancing or getting into it, really, so I decided "next song, I am going to dance." And I did. I danced the fuck out of it. Unfortunately, it was a slow and somewhat depressing song. I kept thinking "Someone has got to get up here with me, you just can't leave a guy to do this all on his own, right?" I think that may have been the longest six minutes of my life.
You should message me if
Looking for the sort who won't roll their eyes if I really need to discuss a recently announced scientific discovery, or similarly, someone who gets really excited about science or engineering or human behavior or theoretical physics (though I know nothing about it) or even politics. It's fun and invigorating to be around people who are excited about things, right? If any of this makes sense and you snickered or perhaps even tittered a bit while reading, maybe it would be worth it to send a quick message to see if we might have chemistry, be it e-conversational or in person.