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My self-summary
America's Son, but far from its favorite. An underdog all my life focusing now having real experiences with genuine people, and in my spare time, scrawling stories made of whispers from phantasms, fugues, and reveries.

Have just returned to New York after a long hiatus. Originally from Minnesota by way of California, but lived all over and have felt really at home in New York since I arrived here eight years ago. The other places that influenced me most were Idaho, Kyoto, and Paris. I'm very independent-minded and try not to allow my thinking to be constrained by political, religious, or cultural lines.

Everyone seems to love travel and love to collect passport stamps, but I focus on elusive experiences. I so happen to have spent at least a week on all seven continents, but my goal is to be the perfect travel companion. I've taken classes in six different languages, fantasize about working on a farm in Japan, and want to buy rugs in Turkmenistan. I've hidden in the opera in Berlin, played chess in Budapest, listened to an orchestra in Vienna, had a beer in Munich, hiked mountains around Zurich, had a massage in Sweden, tangoed (albeit badly) in Paris, gone to a bathhouse in Istanbul, sailed off the coast of Barcelona, had tea in London, planted tulips in Amsterdam, had fondue in Geneva, and threatened myself with alcoholism and diabetes in Brussels.
What I’m doing with my life
I spend most of my time writing. I also have a steady full-time job that I use to hide my mutant powers.

Trying not to become Pete Campbell, since I'm pretty sure there isn't a 12-step program for that.
I’m really good at
Splittin' wood
Darren Aronofsky
Transitioning songs
Expanding my horizons
Arranging lists of items from shortest to longest
The first things people usually notice about me
I need excessive amounts of elbow room when I speak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Forrest Gump, Alamar, Fallen Angels (Wong Kar-Wai), The Motorcycle Diaries, The Illusionist (Sylvain Chomet), Requiem for a Dream, Pi, The Fountain, Donnie Darko, Metropolis, The Red Curtain Trilogy, Waking Life, Before Midnight, In the Mood for Love, To End All Wars, Y tu mamá también, Slumdog Millionaire, Toy Story, Inception, The Pianist, Princess Mononoke, Spirited Away, Rudo y Cursi, The Wedding Crashers, Batman: The Dark Knight, Boiler Room, Moon, As Good as It Gets, Fight Club, American Beauty, Ocean's Eleven (2001), The Cove, Dead Poets Society, Snatch.

I like the style of Darren Aronofsky, Wong Kar-Wai, and Baz Luhrman.

Oh, and I love horror when it's done right... I'm not a huge fan of gory slashers (except American Psycho, which is technically a satire) or torture-porn (except the first Saw, which was more of a psychological thriller). I do appreciate the scarier episodes of the Twilight Zone, Hitchcock, Silence of the Lambs, and The Exorcist.

TV: The Good Wife, Breaking Bad; The Walking Dead; More recently Black Mirror (can't believe this didn't catch on sooner), Stranger Things, West World.

Books: Old Man and the Sea, Less Than Zero, The Rules of Attraction, Brooklyn, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Catcher In The Rye, The Great Gatsby, One Hundred Years of Solitude, Tao Te Ching, The Will to Power, The Art of War, Ethan Frome, A Theory of Justice. Anything Hemingway or Classic Greek.

Music: Varied. I really do like all types. I tend to rate music based on composition rather than genre, but here are samples from my top 5 Pandora stations.

70s-80s. Def Leppard, Fleetwood Mac, Aerosmith, Van Halen, Jimi Hendrix, The Eagles, Queen, Boston, Heart, Journey.

Indie/Alt rock. Arcade Fire, The Editors, The xx, Modest Mouse, The Killers, Interpol, Friendly Fires, Hot Chip, Kings of Leon, Franz Ferdinand

Electropop/House. Miike Snow, Chromeo, Daft Punk, Passion Pit, Crystal Castles, Swedish House Mafia, Whitest Boy Alive, Deadmau5, MGMT, David Guetta, Moby

Bluegrass/Folk/Blues. Union Station, Steeldrivers, Infamous Stringdusters, Mumford and Sons, Jeff Buckley, Sufjan Stevens, Peter and the Wolf, The Decemberists, B.B. King, Junior Kimbrough, Honeyboy Edwards, Albert King, Muddy Waters.

"Classical". Rachmaninoff, Tchaikovsky, Franz Liszt, Gustav Mahler, Franz Schubert, Bach.

Food: In terms of ethnic cuisines, Italian, Thai, and Japanese. I LOVE Mexican food, but really can't seem to find anything that compares to the Southwest.

I tend to like seafood in general. Some of my favorite flavors are avocados, tomatoes, artichokes, yams, chips and salsa, peanut butter, most things spicy

...though perhaps not on seafood.
The six things I could never do without
- My siblings.
- conversations in the summertime
- media (movies and TV)
- I hate to say it, but a smartphone. Except when I'm trying to drop off the grid.
- Great food with old friends
- a good book
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Friends--keeping up with them and knowing them better
Travel and new cultures--I really want to go to Greece, the Baltics, and Croatia!
Becoming the person I set out to be, and hopefully my way
On a typical Friday night I am
Right now I'm on this kick to try to regain enough flexibility to do a gymnastics routine. I'll probably fail, injure myself, and be laughed off a number of stages, but I've never let any of that stuff stop me before.

Update: I did injure myself but it was worth it.

Out with friends
Talking on the phone
Staying in with wine, cheese, and catching up on dregs of DVR
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I refuse to see the ground, especially when most convenient.
You should message me if
you are athletic or at least take care of your body. I've been an athlete most of my life, and I have ambitions for my body beyond what it can currently do. Bonus points if you did sports in high school or college.

I just started learning how to cook better stuff. Please let me know if you can help! ... or at least appreciate the unpretentious wording.

I'd to meet a woman who can really hold a conversation and show interest, because I have a lot of them, haha ("them" = interests, not women). Bonus points if you're from outside the US and I can practice languages with you.

A great smile doesn't hurt either.

Please do NOT message me if:

you're not a happy person. I like to have fun, am a great listener and am very emotionally available, but I'm not here to fix your problems, especially if they're the first world kind (aka "snacks too crunchy!")

you're not passionate about what you do. I'm drawn to people who love their job, because I love mine.