numberonedad214
57 Jersey City, United States
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My self-summary
I've really have never had the "gift of gab" when it comes to trying to impress women, but just because a man is shy doesn't mean he's a coward. Frankly, it's nice to have a chance to be able to communicate with someone I feel I'm attracted to which is much better than hoping for something to happen in a bar or wherever. I really think it's amazing! But how do we decide which person we will go forward with? There's apparently lots of "competition" on these popular sites and the ability to jump from one profile to the next based on someone catching your eye discourages people from taking a closer look at a person's important characteristics and qualities. Let's face it, pictures say so much more than words. Another problem is that sometimes people try to be "mysterious" and elusive. I've decided to try to avoid that mindset by providing as many pictures and as much pertinent information about myself as possible. In my opinion, finding the right person boils down to one's impression of those pictures and just two questions............... Do you consider yourself to be a "true human being"? Are you "down to earth"? To me these terms apply to someone who does not prejudge a person, or the circumstances or situation that person may be in; someone who is kind to everyone she meets, looks down on no one, and does not feel the need to impress others with her wealth, looks, measurements, intelligence.....................whatever. I really believe these qualities show character and go hand-in-hand with TRUE CLASS. It is my hope that you feel you're reading about yourself.............Now that I have that out there, let me say that you've already warmed my heart by deciding to learn some important things about me after looking at my pictures. I certainly don't expect anyone to read this whole thing now. It was written to inform not entertain (lol), and to be as open and truthful as possible. I don't date often, but when I do I put my heart into it (as I try to do with most things)..............Yes I was born on Valentines Day (I know, big deal), and yes I'm very lovable and huggable. My main objective in life is to be a loving, understanding, and compassionate parent and human being. I know most women don't want to be bothered with "baggage" but to me my kids are the most precious cargo in the universe. We all have our priorities in life and my kids are mine and I've come to learn that anyone who thinks children are "baggage" is, in fact, an idiot..........................Where was I lol? Oh...........My hair is very long but neat (for women who may not like long hair). I always (except for very "special" situations) keep it pulled back (and yes, at 57 II have more than a few grays, which I was recently told look like hi-lites lol). I'm a dedicated friend and father of two girls (and Godfather to 3 of my nieces). Yes they have me wrapped around their fingers and I just love when they respond to one of my lectures with "blah, blah, blah Dad". They live with their Mom, and she and I harbor no ill feelings towards each other (sometimes things just don't work out). That has enabled our girls to have a happy and stable life. My goal right now is to make sure they are emotionally, socially, and psychologically adjusted, as well as happy and respectful human beings (which so far,thank God, is the case). If I can share a little happiness myself with a special woman, that would be nice too. I'm Italian and French (no I don't speak Italian or French but I do love to cook, especially while sharing a great bottle of wine (either Italian or French!) and a few affectionate pecks on the lips (and don't forget the candlelight lol)........... I'd love to watch a classic movie or the Food Network together (Jaques Pepin and vintage Julia Child?!!).....On the other hand if we were out together I would never even think of looking at another woman (just out of respect for the woman I'm with). I'm somewhat educated (Jesuit Prep School/Villanova University/New York University BA), enjoy conversation on all kinds of subjects, and I'm in the IBEW (We've been working at power plants lately. Believe me there are no women in sight lol)..............I've been told (but have never believed) that I'm handsome, well-groomed (in spite of the ponytail), have nice legs, and beautiful hands. I'm a very outgoing and gregarious person and love to learn what others are interested in. I try to lead a healthy lifestyle (I like to eat organic food, enjoy nature, exercise when I can, and DO NOT SMOKE CIGARETTES). However I am still 225 lbs. lol. I'm looking for a woman who is intelligent, but more importantly, compassionate, affectionate, and sensitive to the feelings of others; a TRUE human being who realizes that life is about so much more than ourselves and that our kids must always come first; a woman who wants to make the world a better place by lifting other people's spirits because she has a positive attitude about life and is happy with herself, not because of what others have given to her, but because of what she has given to others. Are you "down to earth"?. The beautiful woman to my right is my Mom (a classy and "down to earth" woman loved by all who know her). I would also love to see your pictures (I think there should be as little MYSTERY to this process as possible and would love to see that zest for life in your eyes). Hopefully you have more than one as I think several (3 or more) pictures better show the REAL YOU. ALSO, if a woman is not willing to make the small effort of posting or eventually sending pictures, then how serious can she be about wanting to be in a relationship? I have absolutely no problem with "a few extra pounds" (I have a few extra myself). I don't like to invade someone's cyberspace unannounced with an IM. I'd rather agree ahead of time to chat online, so please don't be insulted if I'm not at my computer to chat with you. As I mentioned, I apologize in advance for being extremely shy (really!!, as I said, I'm not the aggressive type but I do have an appreciation for a woman who is politely persistent...........just kidnap me already lol)...............P.S. I am very grateful to anyone who has taken the time to read my profile. Please let me know if you did (I rarely respond to someone who hasn't). My name is Frankie :) I always read someone's profile before contacting them and really believe "friends first" is the best way to achieve romance and hopefully ...............love. What you have to say is very important to me, but you also have to realize that it really helps if we like each others' pictures. It all starts there. And please................give me a little time to respond. PS I only add the following because another site actually hi-jacked my entire profile awhile back................................. *WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies, projects, advertising, sales, or any other reason-you DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. *** It is recommended that other members post a similar notice.***
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an industrial electrician (presently working on rebuilding the electrical grid for a major power utility in NJ). I have two beautiful daughters and wonderful nieces and nephews to whom, up to now, I have given all of my free time.
I’m really good at
Being kind, considerate, and respectful to other human beings
The first things people usually notice about me
my infectious laugh, smile and upbeat disposition : )
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Social Animal, Einstein, The Road Less Traveled, Ghandi, Braveheart, Dances With Wolves, The Razor's Edge, Life Is Beautiful, Jaques Pepin cooking, Globe Trekker, Schindler's List, classic jazz (Miles Davis), Aaron Copland classical, Neil Young, Adele.........to be continued lol
The six things I could never do without
my kids, my Mom, my morning organic French pressed coffee, people who smile because they care, nature, cooking
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to be a better parent and person and where in this wonderful world am I going to visit next
On a typical Friday night I am
either out to dinner or cooking
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Politically I have to consider myself a hybrid/Independent .................... "conservative" on some issues and "liberal" on others. I don't like when people who already have, want even more (usually at the expense of those who have much less)
You should message me if
you want to meet someone who is pleasant and gregarious with nothing but love, respect, humor, adventure, and fun to share : )
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