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My self-summary
it's like apples to oranges and peaches to plums...
so i'm just here lookin for some lovely friends/partners in crime/muses/inspirers/inspirees and/or more to accompany me on this cruise down the path of life and enjoy the journey with.
i try to appreciate every effort that strives for greatness and call the glass half full. I have no more room for immense cynicism or close mindedness in my life. i'm a positive, fun loving lady. :)
i laugh at everything and write "haha" too much when messaging because i feel that sarcasm in writing is often miscommunicated, so, i suppose i must clarify my constant joking manner, since no one has established an effective sarcasm symbol yet.😒 ha.
i can be quite affectionate, but also a bit of a reactive/responsive type so i tend to not show that side of me unless i sense that the other person is receptive to it, but I'm super soft and snuggly, or so I'm told. :)
i say what I mean and I mean what I say. For whatever reason, people never seem to take me seriously on this. I pretty much always make sense, and try to address conflicting ideas in a calm and sensitive manner. but i also have no problems admitting when i'm wrong.
a total lady's lady in a boy's world.
i also make lemonade.
not looking for anything too serious, but if i find it, i may not say no.
..and nOt looking for a baby daddy. LoL.

not to mention; free spirited, perspectivist, protective, perceptive, loyal, honest to a fault, hopeful, grateful, dreamer, schemer, feather ruffler, sweet hearted, empathetic, authentic, eccentric, romantic, compassionate, considerate, confident, confidant, animals dig me (and vice versa), artisticky, silly, highly commitment shy(but not at all phobic), humanimal, idealist, independent, gots me sum smarts, lovin' old farts, chameleon...
What I’m doing with my life
transitioning is never ending...
..making art/music/almost anything you might think is weird, spending time with my wonderful daughter, enjoying life, working toward my future, growing, acting and waiting (im/)patiently.
if u play music, come serenade me and/or teach me something new, or perhaps i can teach u, i like messing around on the piano, guitar, and sing a little...ok i kinda sing the day away in some ways, not professionally, but i dabble. :)
a multitasker by the forces of nature, but am forgetful and sometimes distracted because of it. Just say something spectacular to spark my interest and we'll be back on track in no time. I apologize profusely for it tho, I just sometimes start to see all the butterflies, bees, and birdies buzzing by me.
i don't believe in labels, but, understand why they exist.
I also love to write but don't often use caps. i happen to think they're overrated, but do reserve them for emphasis. i was an English major at one point so dont gimme shit about that, or my lacks of punctuation either. but if u really want me to prove im a grammatical master, i will, just for you.. ;p
I’m really good at
spelling, procrastinating, thought provoking, kissing, cuddling, trying, supporting, eliminating, music making, talking, listening, laughing, shmoozing, winning, losing, wondering, worrying, developing a hole in my chin upon consuming coffee/tea/salsa, taking, giving, loving, living...
The first things people usually notice about me
i get random things, my hair, smile..phat ass and thighs would probably be the main ones. also that i look a lot younger than my age and/or whatever celebrity they're wrong about me looking like.
but upon conversing, ppl say that i am a bit cleverly silly, can be a little sassy, and have a grrreat sense of humor. just try and offend me, i dare you. ;]
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
name that flick;
-" like music?"...(<---ppl, plz stop asking me this)
-"did you just ask me if i like music? that's like asking me if i like food."

i'm a bit of a musical slut but to name a few;
Notorious B.I.G., Otis Redding, Florence and the Machine, Billie Holiday, Miss Peggy Lee, Amy Winehouse, Nicki Minaj, Chopin, Rilo Kiley, Paramore, Adele, 2pac, Rihanna, Lady Gaga, Björk, JD Natasha, Tori Amos, Karmin, Sea of Treachery, Radiohead, OutKast, Green Day, Lil Wayne, PJ Harvey, Bob Marley, Ben Harper, Sublime, Marilyn Manson, Children Of Bodom, Aaliyah, Avenged Sevenfold, BB King, Alicia Keys, Metallica, Erykah Badu, Pretty Girls Make Graves, Fugees, Against Me!, Queen, Johnny Cash, 4 Non Blondes, Maxwell, Lauryn Hill, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Ting Tings, Pierces, Cranberries, Smashing Pumpkins, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Black Eyed Peas, Doors, Beatles, Strokes, Muffs, Offspring, Bled, Dresden Dolls, Blood Brothers, Violent Femmes, Steve Miller Band, Fiona Apple, AC/DC, Matisyahu, Cradle of Filth, Joe Cocker, Gorillaz, Buju Banton, Dr. Dre, Cold War Kids, Flyleaf, Slightly Stoopid, Stone Temple Pilots, Grateful Dead, No Doubt, Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, Secondhand Serenade, Eek-a-Mouse, DJ Quik, Danzig, Elvis Prestley, Alice in Chains, Lupe Fiasco, Bunny Wailer, Between The Buried And Me, Eagles, Skrillex, Evanescence, Pink Floyd, Korn, Mary Magdalene, Patty Smith, Mystic, Justin Timberlake, Nate Dogg, Hole, Flobots, Weezer, Face to Face, Silent Civilian, Katy Perry, Billy Holiday, G&R, Ben Kweller, Beethoven, AKON, Pennywise, Run DMC, CeeLo Green, System of a Down, Damien Rice, Frédéric Chopin, Ella Fitzgerald, Mozart, Soundgarden, Nirvana, Portishead, Blu Cantrell, MIA, Ol' Dirty Bastard, Dungeon Family, EVE, Mariah Carey, Eric Clapton, t.A.T.u., Afro Man, Bob Dylan, Shania Twain, Jackson Browne, Ice Cube, Jewel, Busta Rhymes, Otis Redding, Usher, Motley Crue, Shakira, Norah Jones, Sheryl Crow, Wyclef, System of a Down, Imogen Heap, Jack Johnson, Symphony X, Tenacious D, STP, Patti Smith, Teena Marie, Fun, D12, KRS-One, Eazy-E, Too Short, Wu-Tang, Ke$ha, Dixie Chicks, Bring me the Horizon...

Cabaret, Triplets of Belleville, 8 Mile, Tank Girl, Exit Through the Gift Shop,
Eternal Sunshine, Benny & Joon, Burlesque, Napoleon Dynamite, The Devil Wears Prada, 28 Days Later, Chicago, Frida, Bridget Jones's Diary(both), A Clockwork Orange, Blades of Glory, Death Race, Terrestrial Violence, American Psycho, Spinal Tap, Anchorman, What's Eating Gilbert Grape, Sucker Punch, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Friday, the Ace Venturas, Little Miss Sunshine, Whip It, Across the Universe, So I Married an Axe Murderer, Inglorious Basterds, Fight Club, Run Lola Run, What About Bob?, Don't Be A Menace, Super Troopers, Jackie Brown, Silence Of The Lambs, God Bless America...

wish i had more time to...
1984, Animal Farm, Anything Art History related, Music books of any kind, Crime and Punishment, Alicia;My Story, Catcher In The Rye, Memoirs of a Geisha, Prozac Nation, Go Ask Alice, Webster's New World Dictionary, Chuck Pahlaniuk(entertaining, although i think sliiightly overrated), Where the Sidewalk Ends, Everyone Poops, Walter the Farting Dog, Stella Star of the Sea..

not much of a tuber but I dig a few..
Tosh.0, Bevis & Butthead, Workaholics, Parks and Rec, United States of Tara, Mad Men, The Office, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, Arrested Development, New Girl, SNL, So You Think You Can Dance, The Voice

I'm a pretty healthy eater overall with my occasional splurge. Sushi, lobster, strawberries and whip cream, chili covered mangoes, Filet Oscar, salad salad salad & SOUP!, Italian moms' spaghetti, veggggies & fruit, taco salad, potato salad, most Greek, Mexican, Japanese, Italian food or if it's anything new i'll probably try it. I'm pretty adventurous. But I'm not really a fast foodie unlessss we're traveling and there's nothing but that or the C rated diner for the next 200 miles.
Six things I could never do without
-my beautiful daughter, of course
-my hot pink jet that no one's bought me yet
-dishwashers, both mechanical and human
-red lipstick
-ear pleasures
-licorice(all kinds)
-patience, yes, that's a 7th thing, for said reason.
(^only 3 of these are true^)

..i almost put my iPhone, but then i decided, like for most ppl, a small amount of denial in my life is ok with me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
lately, how people are so much more worried about how the world affects them rather than the effect they have on the world...
As well As...
the power of suggestion over negation, tomorrow, tonight!, art, music, inspiration, motivation, expectations, being a better mother/lover/something or other, all forms of love in general, not making the same mistakes twice (or thrice), the attempts to control by others and/or the lack thereof within ones' self, human connection and the million ways we may communicate, heartbeats, energy, healing, what sounds and smells can do, growth, life, strife, you, me, and we.
On a typical Friday night I am
dancing in the rain while ruffling feathers, gets messy but fun nonetheless..
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
"i am nothing but a human onion!"(<--name this flick) lol
but ya, i've got a pretty semi kinda sorta not really loaded past, but also shake it off like a champ and sometimes i'm a little too good at laughing at it..but whilst also having learned from it.
You should message me if
-you have/are going to read most/all of my profile and think we have something in common.
-you don't assume, you ask.
-you aren't an alcoholic and/or don't require being babysat upon having drank more than usual.
-you're old enough to drink. Holy shit there's a lot of 18-20 yr olds writing me.
-you TRULY know or want to know anything and EVERYthing about the people in your life. i am an analytical/observational type and want to know whoever i'm with, but i've never been good at breaking down walls and don't have time for it, just be open and I'll be the same.
-you wanna share/make amazing art/music with me and talk about both, as well as life in general. I'd prefer you be interested in some form of artistic expression, or willing to become a giant sponge regarding it, because it is a significant element of my life.
-you have a GREAT sense of humor and can make me laugh at u, with u, at me, with me, at everyone, no one, alone in the bed, in my head, out loud and just most all the time :D ...and also hopefully offer some good conversation too, especially the deep kind.
-you enjoy a quality sarcastic/witty comment on relatively frequent occasions but you also don't mind terribly delivered jokes, bad puns, or dorkiness. and, hopefully, you can be sarcastic without being a smart ass as well as comprehend the difference between the two. (more smart, less ass, unless you're me ;p ..)
-you know how to be friendly and flatter me ;) both are the way to my heart, but much more so via my MIND. so entice me with your words and tell me something interesting. :)
-you don't wanna msg me 8 thousand times before u offer to take me out or at least call. sorry, but i just dont have the time to form a million long lasting shallow relationships on a dating site lol.
-you're not a know-it-all, you don't think your shit doesn't stink, you're not cocky/arrogant or speak condescendingly to those around u that u may or may not deem "inferior."
-you listen.
-you can take constructive criticism, are honest and don't tell girls what you think they wanna hear. i usually get asked out by younger guys, and that's awesome, but i've had enough of the college boy arrogance as well as the "ooo older woman, teach me something" or "let me prove I'm a man(even tho I've clearly yet to become one)"-type dynamic as well.
-you're not overly "damaged," bitter, or jaded.
-you still wanna go out after reading all this. LoL.
p.s. i'm insanely busy so it's hard for me to keep up with this site, please be patient. although i don't have a lot of free time, i am looking for someone i can really enjoy and vice versa for when i do. oh, and respect the fact that i at least kinda know what i want, and, even more so, what I don't.

..may our universes collide, coincide, contrast, conflict, never predict, conspire, admire, live to give, not require...
The two of us