I believe happiness is a choice and that a person is in control of many more aspects of his life than a lot of us are willing to admit. I have high standards for those whom I bring into my life, friends and otherwise, and I strive to hold myself to those same standards. I have friends who are Christian/atheist, democrats/republicans, yogis/engineers and everything in between, and I think the good-natured core of those people is what makes them a welcome part of my life.
So many of our emotions are what set us apart from animals, and I am a proponent of self-awareness, including being able to laugh at one's self, improve one's self and love one's self. David Foster Wallace's"This Is Water" was life changing for me (check it out if you haven't heard of it! ), and I've since made a conscious effort to live my life to the maximum.
I embrace wit, sarcasm and quirkiness, and I feel I have honed my abilities in these areas.
A wise and close friend of mine recently commented that I have little concern for or awareness of normal social boundaries; that is to say, I really am comfortable speaking my mind almost to the point of confrontation, and I don't prefer e-based communication to a phone call or in-person meeting, and I'm terrified at how damaging technology has been to interpersonal communication skills and the dating world.
I love being caught off-guard and surprised in a good way. Juxtaposition is sexy as hell.
I swear like a sailor and believe in an extremely small government.
I mean what I say, and I say what I mean. I hold others to the same standard. I have no place in my value system for lying, passive-aggressiveness or avoidance of an issue when avoidance is disrespectful.
I value communication in all sectors of life. It's the foundation and cornerstone of truth and honesty, clarity and learning, teaching and self-awareness.
I have great, open relationships with my nuclear family. My "friends-family" is comprised of few people with deep, connected relationships.
I graduated from a liberal arts college near Orlando, FL, and I loathe humidity and heat like that in Orlando; I'll take the snow and cold winds to that heat any day of the week (and cuddling in temperatures below 60 degrees is amazing).
I don't see the point in wasting any moments of my life in stressful or less-than-quality situations, so I try not to surround myself with negative people or jobs or investing time at events I don't enjoy or scenes I don't love. I value smiling as often as possible, and exploring the city and new hobbies are definitely fun in my eyes.
I'm also pretty quick on my feet and can get a good laugh out of someone who's truly laid back with quips and comments.
Books - The Virtue of Selfishness, Men Women & Children, The Average American Male, Children of the Sun, The Secret History
Movies - The Heat, Olympus Has Fallen, Prime, Shortbus, Mona Lisa Smile, Alien Resurrection, Mrs. Doubtfire, Sister Act, In the Land of Women, Seven, Strangers, Crash, Weekend (the list really goes on...)
Music - I'm soaking up fun. a ton as of late. I also listen Frank Sinatra and Jay Brannan to Sugarland and Terri Clark, No Doubt to Ke$ha. I appreciate a wide range of music, particularly jazz, alternative, house music and country. I'm not big on rap.
Food - I absolutely love to cook. I'm great with Italian but love to try different foods (in my own kitchen and at new restaurants). I'm a huge fan of hole-in-the-wall places and random fare.
2. Time for myself
3. Hot showers
4. Cold pillows and blankets (I sleep in freezing temperatures and don't understand how people manage in 70+ degree temps under blankets)
5. Unplanned, late-night talks about life, the universe and everything.
6. Personal, inalienable rights
Also, take the time to check out at least some of the questions I answered (nearly all of which I've answered publicly).
If you're in a position to get to know a great, self-aware, mature guy, drop a note. Forewarning: I have the potential to be charming.