obytheby
28 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I feel sometimes that I would be better off in some smoky speakeasy in Manhattan ninety years ago.

Lipstick dandy.
What I’m doing with my life
Coming up with puns. buying more books than I need, laughing with friends as frequently as possible. Having dreams about giant swimming pools in seaside hotels that are full of sea monsters and shining pearls.

I work at a job that I love. I used to be in the service industry, and having a 9-5 life is a hard adjustment.

I enjoy drinking, but not getting drunk. There is a line, though; and I am often teetering on the edge of it, and it is lovely.

I would rather spend ten minutes in London than ten days at Burning Man.

Cat cuddler by night, bike straddler by day.

I can connect everything to either an attraction, restaurant, or hotel at Walt Disney World. Seriously, try me.
I’m really good at
Figuring out subway maps, being oh so charming, remembering specific scenes in films but never remembering everything that I was supposed to get at the grocery store.

Ironic and unironic misandry.

Being the big or little spoon, wherever I am needed.

Do you know what Pepper's Ghost is? I'll explain it to you at some point.
The first things people usually notice about me
I always wear glasses, so there's that. I also apparently have a decent amount of swagger. And a few tattoos. I'm probably smirking or frowning at something the first time you see me, just be patient. I can smile brightly with the best of them.

I flirt shamelessly with everyone, especially you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In no particular order: Dorothy Parker, Zelda Fitzgerald, Radiation City, Joan Didion, Kanye West, Cabaret, Roxane Gay, Solange, Missy Elliot, T.S. Eliot, All About Eve, Natalie Barney, avocados, Katherine Hepburn, Beyoncé, hummus, Kate Bush, Okkervil River, Interpol, coffee, E.E. Cummings, Beach House.

Stravinsky and Copland and Joni Mitchell and German Expressionism. Female surrealists.

Humming "Age of Consent" while either walking or bicycling home at night.

History Channel documentaries about secret societies, ancient aliens, or cryptozoology. I know it's bullshit, but I just devour it.
The six things I could never do without
Paper, pens, imagination, curiosity, open roads, books.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be a better/more disciplined writer, history, being less attached to my phone, infusions, why I find the things I love so beautiful.

Women, of course.

Coming up with new ways to express the human body and its wheres and hows, whether through some abstract metaphor, or by decoding the sound of bones, or when skin slips over skin. Give me a minute, I can come up with something better.

I don't want to be one of those people who present themselves through their social/political selves. I truly do give many shits about many things. Intersectional feminist and proud.
On a typical Friday night I am
Drinking down some conversation and laughing throatily, my fingers around a sweating glass, my arm slung over the evening like an old friend. Somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've never read anything by Kurt Vonnegut, and I think that's fine. Please, I beg, do not be the tenth person to tell me I just need to start with Cat's Cradle. Darling, I'll get through somehow.

I do not sew, I do not garden, I cannot knit, but I am so glad that you can, it is so nice that you do, please understand that craft nights scare me to death.

I want to move back to Florida in twenty years, where I will be one of the leathery women in Key West wearing a sarong and flip-flops for the rest of my days. This is not a high expectation for myself.
You should message me if
You read all that and don't think I'm a ridiculous snob.

You have an arsenal of bad puns and jokes and can't wait to use them.

You identify with any of these phrases:
"Silent cinema"
"Weimar Berlin"
"Mint Julep"

You like the idea of something casual-sexy that includes a lot of impassioned conversation.

You are 100% into public displays of affection.

Fancy dates!

You are really excited about meeting my cat. About meeting any cat, really.

You don't mind that I told you that story so I can tell you this one.

You want to go to the theater because, like me, you really need more of that in your life.

If there is a sort of growl when you smile and a sort of purr when you sigh.

If you are a time-traveling Katherine Hepburn, message me immediately! I will keep you secret and safe.
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