I value honesty, trustworthiness, communication, and humor above most other traits in a person.
If you want someone to drive you to your tanning salon in his Mustang, while drenched in Axe and listening to Nickelback, then you've definitely visited the wrong profile. Sorry. The exit is to the left (if you can still manage to see it through your UV-blasted corneas).
But my life is about making music, and that's generally what I like to spend the majority of my time doing. I play in two bands and that takes up a fair amount of my time.
I'm a rare combination of band geek and sports fan. In high school I spent as much time in practice rooms and on stages as I did on tennis courts and soccer pitches.
I'm an avid amateur photographer; it's rare that you'll find me without my camera and I'm often out shooting live music or events around town. I also hide behind the lens at uncomfortable social functions.
I like to get out and be active, whether it's playing tennis or biking or hiking. I'm not an athlete, and I'm certainly no muscle-man, but I try to keep myself mostly healthy.
I own my house. It's wonderful. I love my garden and eagerly look forward to the spring.
32 years clean shaven. 1 year and counting with beardage. People seem to like it (as do I), so for now it stays. I'm kind of attached to it. (Did you just audibly groan? I heard that. Stop rolling your eyes.)
In regards to kids: I understand that not wanting kids immediately drains about 95% of the dating pool; it sucks, but it's my reality. It's not that I dislike kids (I'm actually pretty great with them), it's just that I have other plans for my life. I have dated a single mother and I genuinely enjoyed spending time with her toddler son - I even grew comfortable with the thought of having him in my life permanently - so it's not like my mind can't ever change.
That's what she said jokes.
Writing and performing music.
Taking things apart and then putting them back together.
Getting so deep into a band that I could tell you how soft their toilet paper is (that's what she said).
My three favorite South Park characters are: Butters, Randy Marsh, and Jimmy.
I think I've seen every episode of Food Network's Chopped. It inspires me to see the magic most of those chefs perform with random ingredients.
Movies: This is Spinal Tap (or anything by Christopher Guest), The Royal Tenenbaums (or anything by Wes Anderson), 2001: A Space Odyssey (or anything by Kubrick), The Big Lebowski (or anything by the Coen brothers), Requiem For A Dream (or anything by Aronofsky... The Fountain made me cry like a baby).
As for music... I'm pretty easy to figure out once you get to know me. I like "rock music."
Here's a good helping of musicians I actually enjoy: David Bazan, Pedro The Lion, The Cardigans, Junip, Superdrag, Weezer, Guns N Roses, Pixies, Toadies, They Might Be Giants, Silversun Pickups, Manchester Orchestra, Led Zeppelin, Focus, Nada Surf, Soundgarden, that dog., Ben Kweller, Van Halen, The Cars, The Special Goodness, CCR, Philip Glass, Steve Reich, Radiohead, Queens of the Stone Age, Pinback, Mastodon, Jucifer, Deep Purple, The Rentals, Cake, and AC/DC. In 2012 I fell for The Milk Carton Kids, which surprised me because they're awfully folky, but I can't resist incredible talent.
Food is good. I put it in my mouth and then I eat it. Then I poop, but never immediately. My only rule about food is: "if it comes from the sea, it's not for me." So... I don't eat seafood, but it's OK if you do. I'm not here to judge you. (OK fine, maybe I am. Whatever.)
I had my first taste of grape pie in October of 2010 and I'm not lying when I say I think about it daily. I drive down to Naples several times a year to stock up at Monica's.
The color green
iPhone (Don't judge me, jerk. It's 2012, not 1912.)
Also: poop jokes.
OK, fine... mostly just poop jokes.
Some of my best friends live thousands of miles away and I quite enjoy spending time with them in whichever ways I can. We often travel large distances to spend time together in the "meat-space."
I'm mostly a homebody. As a non-drinker, I can't tell you the last time I went to a bar to be social when I wasn't performing on its stage or watching someone else make music. Typically bars are just too goddamn loud.
Appealing to me: coffee/tea, movies at The Little or Dryden, live music, Amerks/Sabres games, or staying home with DVR/Netflix.
I'm not a big fan of random feet. Socks are awesome, you know?
Also: I recently had a tonsillectomy, but the anesthesia kicked in before I could ask them to keep them for me, so I'm not able to proudly display the little bastards in a jar on a shelf in my house... unfortunately.
Additionally: slow-walkers are the worst. Get out of my goddamn way. I'm on a mission.
...You can make me laugh heartily and frequently.
...You'd like to actually meet in person in a somewhat timely manner, rather than just message each other for weeks upon weeks only to finally find out that we aren't actually attracted to each other. Call me superficial, but you know it makes a difference.
...You're available to sit in my passenger's seat and help me determine what's rattling when I listen to music.
...Non-locals are welcome. I truly love Rochester and would be happy to convince you to visit and stay, but you should know that I have no plans nor desire to move away.