29 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
i'm just your friendly neighborhood queer / mostly-gay trans guy, Seattleite by birth, fake Canadian by temporary permanent residency, currently pretty won over by the Bay Area. a thoughtful, kinda dorky, usually cheerful, occasionally curmudgeonly, anti-consumerist, happily godless, increasingly self-confident, increasingly political creature.
What I’m doing with my life
teaching. (other) odd jobs. trying to figure out if i want to go from being a temporary grad-school dropout to a full-time one. dancing, biking, poems, board games, trashy movies, pretty trees, tasty foods, tipsy drinks, and lovely human beings. my current aspiration for the year is to learn how to drive a motorcycle. don't know if that will pan out, but in the mean time i am (re)learning spanish. duolingo's being super helpful preparing me for all the times i need to explain that those aren't my uncle's spoons.
I’m really good at
almost walking into stationary objects, baking tasty things (i try to do this a lot for people i like), communicating, helping folks out with practical shit like moving and whatnot, accumulating books, not taking things personally, consuming extremely spicy foods, finding the most literal possible meaning for everything, being crepuscular, languages, exercises involving lat muscles, critically examining and deconstructing things (books, social structures, burritos...), and procrastinating (mostly with the aforementioned baking, eating, exercising, and random acts of kindness, but also in the good ol' fashioned way, namely the internet).
The first things people usually notice about me
saddle shoes, crinkly smile, obnoxiously large glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Plato's Symposium, Euripides' Bacchae, the Iliad, the Aeneid, Catullus, Sappho, Virginia Woolf, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, Julia Serano, Gay New York and other queer histories, dystopian literature, Calvin and Hobbes, and i'm going to stop now because this list could get absurdly long...

Hedwig, Clue the Movie, Mean Girls, Caberet, Milk, Romeos, Paris is Burning, Rain Man, Vertigo, Little Miss Sunshine, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Star Wars, basically any superhero movie

FOOD. food is good. especially of the spicy and/or chocolate variety.
The six things I could never do without
sunlight, reading material, good company, a pull-up bar, "100% pain" hot sauce, corrective lenses
I spend a lot of time thinking about
gender, mostly. it's hard not to. occasionally other topics of perennial interest, such as politics, justice, life, boys, and what to make for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
quite possibly at a film screening or bar or playing board games with a bunch of friends, or maybe just recovering from a long day of work with some queer theory and a cup of tea (earl grey, hot).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i literally finally just began watching arrested development a week ago and this is definitely not the first time i've "discovered" something about a decade after the rest of the world.
You should message me if
you feel so inclined!

obviously you'd have to be comfortable with the trans thing.

also, for the record, as far as dating/hookups are concerned, i'm primarily attracted to other men (trans or otherwise) though i'm also often drawn to masculine/androgynous women and others with unconventional gender expressions, so if that feels like you, don't be shy!