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My self-summary
Well, my name is Amber, and I like to speak my mind.

I really enjoy spending time with people. It's something that I thrive on actually.

But I'm also okay with being by myself too, reading or listening to music. It depends on my mood.

What I need above all else is for someone to be honest with me. If you feel uncomfortable, tell me. If I'm pissing you off, tell me. If you're over me and never want to see me again, JUST FUCKING TELL ME. Above all else I want someone that WANTS to be with me. And to not be with someone that doesn't want to be with me; there's no worse feeling.

My schooling is currently on hold. I live on Cape Cod now, and I'm working on my long term (lifetime) recovery. I'll go back and finish eventually, but for right now my focus is here.

I also really enjoy taking pictures. Not for show or anything, more like keeping memories and that.

I like to have fun, and really will try anything once (well, mostly).

I'm an ENFP, though I am on the F/T border. Some tests put me as an ENTP, but also only barely.

I really like to make funky things in the kitchen. I don't like a lot of food, but the food I do like I'm totally okay with mixing in strange ways. Like canned corn and BBQ sauce. Or ramen and eggs.

There is no rhyme or reason to this, by the way. I'm just typing to type.

I think goofy men are better than serious ones. Cause it's not like they aren't able to be serious, they just enjoy being playful more. And I'm into that.

I am super allergic to cats. Like, I don't even like being around people that own cats cause their clothing makes me sneeze. I get that people really love them...just do it far far away from me.

I'm really messy. That might be my worst flaw in fact. I'm not like a hoarder or anything, I just live a little disheveled.

I watch Discovery Channel, documentaries, and Netflix more than any human being should. It's a little ridiculous.

I'm originally from Boston (meaning I love the Sox, Celtics, Bruins, and Pats, don't mess).

The ocean is my first love. The sounds, the smells, the feeling of the sand. I will never live somewhere that doesn't have easy access to the ocean.

And now I'm ending this because I don't know what else to say.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in for a treatment center here on Cape Cod. I spend 90% of my time with people in early recovery, which is very important to me. People really showed up and helped me when I was new, and I want to do the same for others.
I’m really good at
Listening and helping people work through their problems.

Also, laughing at dumb jokes. Trust me, terrible puns will always get a laugh from me. If you're an amateur comedian, put me in the front row, I'll make you look good.
The first things people usually notice about me
How loud I am. My voice really carries, and I like to talk, so everyone tends to notice that about me.

Or maybe my hair. It's wicked curly and poofy. People like touching it, oddly enough.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Perks of Being a Wallflower, No Country for Old Men, Ham on Rye, Fight Club, The Giver, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings.

Movies: Shaun of the Dead, Hot Fuzz, Fifth Element, Phantom of the Opera, Beginners, Big Fish, Moulin Rouge, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas.

Shows: Star Trek (TNG and Voyager), The Walking Dead, Scandal, Game of Thrones, The Office (US and UK), Parks and Recreation, Hoarders, The Maury Show, Xena: Warrior Princess, 24, American Dad.

Music: Musicals (especially Sondheim), Say Anything, Beyonce, Drake, Muse, J. Cole, Amy Winehouse, Eminem, Death Cab for Cutie, Jack's Mannequin, Forgive Durden, The Hush Sound, Lupe Fiasco, Kid Cudi, Gym Class Heroes.

Food: Calamari, lobster, french fries, pancakes, fried chicken, mac and cheese, anything served during Thanksgiving.
Six things I could never do without
Family, friends, iPhone, laptop, vape, KEYS (I leave them around constantly).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Really really random things, like what lives at the bottom of the ocean and why old people sometimes just stop aging. Like, my grandpa has looked the same for the past 15 years. It's like he just froze in time. WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN!?

Also, I try to translate what I'm thinking/saying into Chinese in my head, just to work on my skill level.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually at a meeting, or just at home. My life is significantly less exciting than it used to be, and I'm happy about that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am an alcoholic in recovery.
You should message me if
You have any questions, I'm an open book.

Or if you just want to talk, I really do enjoy meeting new people.

Or if you like Star Trek, because none of my friends accept my obsession.

Or if you're in recovery and want to talk about anything.

Or if you have a cute dog (especially a corgi). I will hang out with you just to chill with your dog.
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