okinoh
46 Columbus, United States
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My self-summary
Apologies in advance for being vague, but I work with folks who do a lot of internet and tend to pay attention to other people's social lives. I'm happy to go into more detail one-to-one.

That said, I'm told there are not a lot of people like me (usually in a good way), but I feel like people who say that maybe haven't met enough people? I try to say yes as often as possible. Life is more interesting that way. Between adventures, I spend a lot of time reading books, watching movies/shows, listening to music, playing on computers, and having conversations. Oh, and working. Now it's summer, I'm excitedly remembering that it is possible to do stuff outdoors in central Ohio.
What I’m doing with my life
Made 4 resolutions at New Year: Chill. Date. Do. Write. Along with my job (which I find meaningful and engaging), that's most of it.
I’m really good at
Words, thinking, finding meaning in stuff, conversation (generally), listening, that kind of thing. If you prize grammar and spelling, I probably won't disappoint.

I don't have particular super-powers or obsessive hobbies. I decided some years ago that I'd rather be pretty good at a lot of things than the best at one or two.

I can usually make conversation with strangers, and animals like me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I can raise each eyebrow independently, and often do so unconsciously, which people have commented on. I say y'all pretty often. (English needs a second-person plural pronoun!) I bicycle a lot, so I hope drivers notice that I exist.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(Hope this doesn't seem pretentious. I wanted to list a range of stuff mainly as a way of saying we probably have stuff in common.)

Books: Vonnegut, Dostoevsky, Pratchett, Chaucer, Miller (Henry), Chandler, Willeford, Trudeau, Larson, Moore, Morison.

Movies: Tarantino, Almodovar, Marvel Universe, Coen brothers. Dumb & Dumber, Hard Ticket to Hawaii, Ninja Death 1.

Shows: The Wire. Buffy, Angel. Bojack Horseman. Breaking Bad. Big Bang Theory. Gotham. The Simpsons since it was skits on Tracy Ulman Show. Oh, and sports.

Music: Indie is my fave (punk, country, bluegrass, jazz), but I like almost anything. Still learning to dig metal, but I realize that's my problem, not the music.

Food: Brunch. Indian. Pizza. Truck tacos. French fries. A good salad.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Stuff. Things. Ideas. Jokes. What people have said. What people I care about are up to. What they might be up to, if I haven't been in touch for a while. What to eat for my next meal. Stuff I need to do. Something I read. Lust. Why. Why not. Whether. Snippets of music. How to avoid getting run over by cars. Daydreams. The Future. Desire. The next page of my dissertation. Why things are they way they are. How they might be, if they weren't.

It's a pretty constant stream of something, really. I'm rarely bored.

(Why really and rarely are spelled so similarly when they mean such different things...)
On a typical Friday night I am
Happy to be done with a good week of work. Ideally, doing something with friends involving live entertainment and/or conversation over good food. If home, probably watching a movie while doing some kind of computer thing, or (if I've decided to make it a digital sabbath) reading a book. Also a happy answer: getting on a plane to go somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
On the open internets? Nothing beyond what I've written above, for sure. To friends? Almost anything. To the few I truly trust? Anything.
You should message me if
I like strong, intelligent, independent women. Witty, sarcastic, uppity, who-say-fuck-a-lot: choose your synonym. For real, they are most of my friends, most of the women I've dated, and who I'm interested to meet.
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