okroxoo
47 Brooklyn, United States
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My self-summary
Me? I could easily describe myself as either a "Girly-girl", "nerdy-girl", "goody-goody" or "badass" since they're all appropriate ways to describe me. I'm a blend of cultures and I consider them all, separately and together to represent who I am: (1) Upper East Side prep-school and Seven Sisters graduate; (2) ex-Fortune500 careerist; and (3) geekified Jamerican - Brooklyn blend.

I'm fun-loving, irreverent, and soulful. I have been told by some that when they are first getting to know me, they find me intimidating. I don't see myself that way at all but maybe it's because in new group situations I tend to be a quiet observer, taking everything in to process later. One-on-one is a different matter.

I've been tired of the single life for a good while now. There's something missing - that extra spark that life can have when you're sharing it with your own special someone. Unfortunately it's hard to meet relationship-minded men in my current situation (long, irregular work hours!).

I'm looking forward to meeting an honest, kind, fun-loving man here. A man with the je ne sais quoi that keeps me smiling just because he is who he is. Like most people on this site, I want to find someone to be with for the long run. As long as you're not looking for casual "hook-ups" let's get to know each other and see where we should go from there.
What I’m doing with my life
(Update) Right now I'm spending a lot more time working than is ideal. I'm also considering going to grad school. It's hard but I'm also starting to carve out some time to develop my fiction writing skills. I have quite a few stories I want to tell and I've put that aspect of myself on hold for long enough. I'm still practicing my own version of Facebook activism when I have the time but life is definitely much busier than before.

I'm also planning my next travel adventures. Hopefully, I'll be visiting Cuba and going to the Cannes Film Festival in 2016.

If you want to see an example what makes me laugh-out-loud, check this out: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/2012/05/21/joke-cat-vs-dog----war-of_n_1534447.html
I’m really good at
being a sounding-board for my friends and family, being organized (admittedly, in some ways more than others) and setting and reaching my goals. I also enjoy the occasional respectful debate. Although at heart I'm really quite shy, I can pretty much talk to anybody about almost anything and I frequently do.
The first things people usually notice about me
-People always tell me I look like someone they know, constantly - since I was a kid.
-I'm a supportive listener. Friends, colleagues and strangers frequently tell me their troubles and sometimes ask me for advice.
-People always think I'm a teacher.
-I am also very tall for a woman.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite Movies: I have a wide range of tastes in film. In general, I love artsy, foreign, action/adventure, international intrigue, etc. But I like other stuff, too. The common thread is that they are intelligent and that you have to pay attention to understand what's happening or what the director is trying to communicate. Some specific Directors - Hitchcock, Tarantino, Godard, Kubrick, Polansky (despite his ick-factor), Clint Eastwood (before Mystic River plus Gran Torino), George Clooney (Up in the Air, The Descendants). Some specific Films: Tampopo, Dr. Strangelove, A Bout de Souffle, Matrix, Frantic, Das Leben der Anderen, Au Revoir les Enfants, Goodbye Lenin, Don Juan DeMarco, A Clockwork Orange, Usual Suspects, Kick-Ass, Lola Rennt (aka Run Lola Run), Gone Baby Gone, Kill Bill v.I-II, Pulp Fiction, LA Confidential, Fifth Element, etc...and stuff like The International and Stieg Larsson's Dragon Tattoo Trilogy (Swedish version) for a little variety, I also like most Denzel, anything Marvel/comic-based (especially X-men) and Harry Potter (all). And I saw The Lovely Bones again... excellent! And Big Fish... awww!

Favorite Books: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (I've been reading it for years, in parts as I can "grok" it, One Hundred Years of Solitude, Jazz (Toni Morrison), The Great Gatsby, Another Country, Animal Farm, The God of Small Things, John Grisham and Dan Brown's novels, select romance novels, Harry Potter (the series), German: How to Speak it and Write it, Proverbs, Job and Ecclesiastes in The Bible (although I don't think of myself as especially religulous), Stranger in a Strange Land, The Tao teh Ching, Slaughterhouse 5, Born to Win by Lewis Timberlake and so much more...

Favorite TV Shows: Grimm, The Good Wife, Scandal, MI-5, Criminal Minds, Hannibal, CSI, Dexter, the Closer, Psych, Monk, Justified, Breaking Bad, South Park, Malcolm in the Middle, The Simpsons, My Name is Earl, Globe Trekker, Rick Steves, Law & Order (original & Criminal Intent only), Star Trek, X-Files, Wendy Williams, The View, SNL, The Daily Show & Colbert Report, The Newshour, DeutscheWelle Euromaxx, 60 Minutes, Bill Moyers, Bill Maher, etc... (No I'm not perpetually glued to my TV, I watch what I can and catch-up online when it's convenient.)

Favorite Music: All - but primarily classic rock, alternative, old-school hip-hop, old-school reggae/dancehall and old-school R&B. I don't listen to the radio as much as I used to... Some of the artists on my mp3 player now: Norah Jones, Erasure, Elton John, Lenny Kravitz, Paul McCartney, Meatloaf, Queen, Bob Marley, U2, Lauryn Hill, Sade and I also love Train, Florence and the Machine, Coldplay, Adele (of course) and Maroon5. I 've also been meaning to check out more Goody Mob and Outkast.

Favorite Food: SPICY!! Jamaican/West-Indian, Italian, Tex-Mex, Indian and Chinese would top the general list. Oh, and robust, juicy red wines.
The six things I could never do without
Six things I really appreciate:
-traveling/learning new things,
-the sun/fresh air,
-my family and friends,
-books, words, the beauty in the rhyme and lyricism of language,
-self-restraint/self-discipline,
-kindness: Although I'm no saint, my default mode is kindness. People who assume that my kindness to others make me a pushover quickly learn otherwise but I am glad to be able to take a deep breath before lashing out when life's little annoyances occur. As a result I tend to have fewer regrets. I choose to be around people who share a similar appreciation for the power of kindness and self-restraint,
-dresses,
-the internet,
-honesty and integrity are also very important to me. My trust starts out as a delicate thing which grows and solidifies as I get to know people...

Woops, more than six... Oh well!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
my goals, current affairs, my family and friends, and...

The story of stuff: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gLBE5QAYXp8

The tiny house movement: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SbRvsWuWNUM and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oLwQHd0BYcc

I was really captivated by this design competition back in early 2011. I still think about it a lot: http://www.jovoto.com/projects/life-edited/landing and I also think often about living off the grid and/or how to create a lifestyle that minimizes my impact on mother earth while maintaining some degree of modernity and convenience. Here is the winner of the Jovoto competition, implemented: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYV0qATsyts

Travelling. I spent a few days exploring Iceland not too long ago. I would definitely go back. This year I finally made it to Chicago for the first time. I'd love to visit Universal's Harry Potter world at Disneyland, LA, Vegas, New Orleans, Buenos Aires and Copenhagen. Cuba or Buenos Aires is probably next and then Cannes. A tour of the African Continent is also on my bucket list.

I also really appreciate the men on this site who are straightforward about their age and height and have updated, genuine pictures... Yes, we are all putting our best foot forward and on the wwweb, a little coyness might be wise (we all do that in one way or another, for good reason) - but it's a good feeling when people are liking the real you, right? And after all, we ARE going to SEE each other when we meet. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Working. I rarely get Friday nights off. However on my version of Friday night, I'm usually home relaxing. It's restful and enjoyable but I would love to have someone to do more with. I really miss going out more regularly.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Lots!! I'm a private person about private things (especially on the internet) but with my close friends, I'm pretty much an open book on most things. Please don't expect me to be like that at first, though. It will happen with time.
You should message me if
-you're interested in me :),
-you are not married,
-your profile will give me a reasonable idea of who you are and you are interested in something that can become long-term,
-you have a generally positive outlook on life.

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