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My self-summary
Happiness, one day at a time.

Smart, strange, kind, creative, passionate man, who somewhere along the way grew into a decent human being.
What I’m doing with my life
"And I never started to plow in my life
That some one did not stop in the road
And take me away to a dance or picnic.
I ended up with forty acres;
I ended up with a broken fiddle—
And a broken laugh, and a thousand memories,
And not a single regret."
I’m really good at
Seeing patterns. Telling tall tales. Being curious. Understanding systems. Balancing things on my chin. Co-creating scenius. Being inspired by good ideas. More.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I come alive when making/doing/organizing things; one of my dream jobs is building a camp for contact improv dancers at Burningman. Sexy self-aware people, in touch with their bodies, and into connection and play. Me building and managing and fixing and making it all work. Maybe in my next office job I'll do the same sort of thing in a Jordanian refugee camp, or in a trans rights NGO in the city, or....

I'm slightly terrible at first dates, and much prefer when we're focused on something else: a rock climbing wall, or a rope bondage workshop, or an exuberant music/art/culture thing. Let the chemistry bloom quietly, a charge almost unfelt beneath the flesh, until you find yourself making out against the wall in a midnight divebar, enraptured with wine and flesh and pleasure.

Some "social objects" that iconically define my communities: Coffee. Burritos. Mac laptops. High quality tools that come with lifetime warranties. climbing shoes. playa dust. IPA. Robert Anton Wilson. Rumi. a passport. A toybag.
Six things I could never do without


Divine, joyous, ridiculous appreciation and wonder.
(that's all one thing! I swear.)

Community. (Not in the abstract, but the concrete experiences of friends' intertwined lives.)

Also: burritos, sun, kissing, a good pocketknife, and more laughter. :D
On a typical Friday night I am
Tying someone up.

I have many stories, many interests, many passions. I love speculating about human nature, arguing about linguistics and ethics; I am endlessly curious and fascinated by the world.

And...when it comes to sex, it's all about BDSM.

I love kissing, holding hands, and long walks on the beach...but first and foremost, I'm simply, undeniably wired for kink. My ideal lover wants a spanking before, during, and after said walk on the beach, whether that's part of a brief hookup or a lifelong partnership.

Look for Chutzpah on FL, you'll find me.
You should message me if
My favorite people are intelligent, playful, quick to laugh, perceptive, and appreciative of the wonder of being alive. If that's you, come on over to this side of the table.
The two of us