30Palo Alto, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a jack-of-all-trades and I enjoy it. I love making things (including trouble). I'm ok if other people have plans for what to do each day, but I tend to not create them myself. All of my plans are longer term. My friends come to me when they want a blunt honest opinion. For better or for worse, I'm very creative, and actualize a pretty fair number of my wacky ideas. I've got a reasonably serious career, but I don't feel that really means you need to be very serious as a person.

I'm an odd little bundle of paradoxes and idiosyncrasies that work for me. I got the nickname "Hurricane Katy" because frequently when I enter a room I bring a little whirlwind of chaos behind me: new friends, something I'm trying to fix, a party, I don't know half the time. I'm very intense about the things I do, but I'm not totally sure how I picked them. My room is a disaster area built out of countless 4-5 hour chunks of good intentions to be neat and tidy. I love beautiful clothes, but most of my jeans are torn at the knees as I almost never find time to go shopping and replace them. When I do get a little spare time, it always seems more important to spend it on people I care about or on being happy or unwinding. I downloaded a running app with the best of intentions that I look at on my phone every morning (Edit, bought a fitbit, been running every day this month, hell yeah!). I lack self-discipline, but I'm happy, I'm trying really hard, and I'm improving every day.

Computers like tag clouds so here we go: digital photography, camping, robotics, martial arts, juggling, cooking, power tools, lockpicking, hardware hacking, troublemaking
What I’m doing with my life
I was trained as a roboticist but couldn't find an ethical job so I became a software engineer. After a few years I quit my cube job to do a startup, but got sidetracked into running fundraising for a nonprofit that I love. Then I did two more startups that belonged to somebody else (educational robotics, video games to treat PTSD). Now I am working on 3rd party dormatories/hostels because I think flexible safe lower-end housing is really important for economic mobility.

I have a little sister (19 now) who lives with me and who I care for. I never planned on being a parent, but she's pretty rad.
I’m really good at
Taking life as it comes, and enjoying little moments in life very intensely. I'm generally of the belief that it is hard to be immoral if everybody impacted is a consenting adult, and as a rule tend to "live and let live" a lot. It also makes me not easily offended.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm sometimes a little high-energy and I have a definite sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love books! I have stacks of books, and I wish I had the time to read all of them. Recent fiction reads: Sex Criminals, V for Vendetta,

Nonfiction reads: Zero to One, Made to Stick

I don't watch many movies but I do like Gattaca, Contact, The Big Lebowski, Pulp Fiction, Fight Club, Boondock Saints, Hot Fuzz, Office Space, Scott Pilgrim.

I am pretty adventurous with food. I don't mind vegetarian/vegan food, but last time I tried being a vegetarian I stopped healing from bruises. Didn't mix well with the karate.
Six things I could never do without
I use to have a lot of opinions on this, but the longer I live more I am sure that if you stick to what you think is (morally) right, look for opportunities to improve things, and generally try to stay upbeat that most situations where survival isn't an issue are tolerable.

That said I might be hard-pressed to operate without a cell phone and a computer. I'm terribly absentminded, so I have set up those tools to keep me organized and on-time. Also, I would be totally wrecked if my husband was suddenly gone. I love him a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to make things: from cakes to photos to organising a group to get something done to "traditional engineering" I love problems with more than one solution.
On a typical Friday night I am
That varies hugely, but I do value a small group of close friends over a wide sprawling social network of people I'm not very close to.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think the way people change the world is to unleash big ideas and then tame them, even though from time to time that backfires. If a little chaos/uncertainty freaks you out, I might drive you a little crazy.

I'm also poly. That means lots of different things to different people, but for me it means I have deep meaningful relationships, but sometimes I have more than one at once. Yes, my boyfriends always know, no they don't have to be friends but I do hope they'd be civil to one another if they happen to see each other in passing or maybe if like I threw a birthday party and invited both or something. I don't know all the scenarios, I just know that civility is generally a good thing. I have a husband, and his name is Cliff. He's pretty epic and very easygoing.

"Nobody's going to get hurt, and this is going to be a great story," has been known to outweigh "This might be a bad idea."
You should message me if
You're ok with a girl who at this stage in her life values her autonomy and has her own interests. You don't have to like my interests, I respect that everybody finds happiness differently.

I hope there are things in your life that you are passionate about or enjoy intensely. I don't have to understand these things, it could be your job or your hobby, it could be something incredibly lame. I don't care what it is, but I have trouble empathizing with people who can't enjoy the world.

Most importantly, you should message me if I managed to make you smile.
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