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My self-summary
Never exactly the life of the party-- almost always a quiet and black-clad presence, but politely smiling :) And a ponderous intellectual. Once you get to know me, you'll probably find me a bit eccentric, or optimally, charmingly weird. I combine the high and the low-- a darkest, even morbid, sobriety, with childish levity.

Also worth noting: I'm as elusive as I am considerate and perceptive-- to a genuine fault. I don't take my commitments lightly, and aim to elude, if not thoroughly bore, those who do. That being said, I love to laugh, and go weak in the knees for a profoundly serious man with an agile sense of humor.
What I’m doing with my life
phd student, shooting for an academic career.
I’m really good at
reading between the lines, writing, drawing, and massively goofing off in selected, rare settings.
The first things people usually notice about me
maybe my reserve, and my smile, referred to once as a "mona lisa smile" because it can be inscrutable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
more of a poetry person. but as far as novel(la)s go, maybe death in venice (thomas mann). or among things which people actually read, king lear. some formative, early favorites were the brothers karamazov (dostoyevsky), steppenwolf (hesse), and the bfg (roald dahl).

not a fancy cinephile. i enjoy good quality horror, sci-fi, kiddie, and anime films/cartoons. these aren't exclusive favorites, but it feels natural to mention pinky & the brain and david cronenberg in the same breath. so i did.

as for music-- anything lovely, arresting, and a bit moody or dissonant. just not quite shostakovich all the time.

food-- spicy.
The six things I could never do without
sleep, night, cats, internet, black coats, cats with black coats who sleep soundly at night.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how people tick. finding the right person. things which might exist but which are beyond the realm of our experience. synthesizing ideas, complicating an ever bigger and messier picture in the hope that it will somehow become simpler and more elegant... alas.
On a typical Friday night I am
yes, i am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
unless i'm not.
You should message me if
i didn't do a good job of scaring you off.