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My self-summary
Never exactly the life of the party-- almost always a quiet and black-clad presence, but politely smiling :) And a ponderous intellectual. Once you get to know me, you may find me deeply kind, alternately inspired or pedantic, outwardly easy-going, and inwardly intense. I combine the high and the low-- a darkest, even morbid, sobriety, with childish levity.

Also worth noting: I'm as elusive as I am attentive-- to a genuine fault. I don't take my commitments lightly, and aim to elude, if not thoroughly bore, those who do. That being said, I do love to laugh.
What I’m doing with my life
phd student, shooting for an academic career.
I’m really good at
listening, reading between the lines, writing, drawing, and massively goofing off in selected, rare settings.
The first things people usually notice about me
maybe my reserve, and my smile, referred to once as a "mona lisa smile" because it can be inscrutable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
more of a poetry person. but as far as novel(la)s go, maybe death in venice, or the brothers karamazov. my favorite shakespeare play is king lear.

not a fancy cinephile. i enjoy good quality horror, sci-fi, kiddie, and anime films/cartoons. these aren't exclusive favorites, but it feels natural to mention pinky & the brain and david cronenberg in the same breath. so i did.

as for music-- anything lovely, arresting, and a bit moody or dissonant.

food-- spicy.
Six things I could never do without
sleep, night, cats, internet, black coats, cats with black coats who sleep soundly at night.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how people tick. finding the right person. things which might exist but which are beyond the realm of our experience. how to understand what is within our experience.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably at home, homebody that i am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i have a kink for dominant guys with a tender side.
You should message me if
you're looking for more of a lifelong companion than an activity partner with boobs; you like being looked up to; a bit of complexity captivates you.
The two of us