What I wish most for my partner--is for you to have the space to always speak your inner truth, no matter what it is, and to be in communication. In other words, you never have to "be careful", "walk on eggshells", "second guess" what you're saying--no, you know that you can speak your inner truth and be heard. Two people doing that, creates a space for deep connection and love--everything is coming from authenticity.
Growth is a lifetime commitment, and that is a necessary priority for a great match, for me. Here's who I've created myself to be:
I am a courageous explorer of life,
a hero for possibility,
love and play passionately expressed in the world.
Major commitments: being present to NOW, being a great daddy to my 16 year old daughter, living a conscious life, having great relationships, making a difference in the world, leaving people empowered, respected, and loved.
Listening is more important than talking.
I think people are defined by who they be and their commitments, not what they do for a living.
Incurable romantic, relationships want feeding with tender care. And massages, and surprise flowers, and taking a moment in the day to just look in each others eyes and say "One of the things I love about you is..."
My favorite way to start the day is with coffee in the hot tub, followed by meditation by the fire.
Like to cook for other people...or with someone special.
I stay very fit from an active life and working out at home; not a gym rat. Volunteer work is an important part of my life.
The wilderness is my temple. I love to hike, bike (including touring), backpack to wild hot springs, downhill and xcountry ski, sail, climb, multi-day canoe trips, you name it.
Comfortable in black tie or Burning Man attire. One night I wore...bubble wrap.
And you? Well of course you are self-aware, gorgeous and sexy, successful and confident, leap tall 14'ers in a single hour, raised 4 kids on your own while finishing a PhD, climb 5.11, do your own dental work, cook amazing souffles, have a massage degree just for fun, have climbed Denali, and volunteer for hospice. Or maybe you're a real person with quirks and feelings and great qualities and some stuff you don't really like about yourself but don't want people to really know...just like me, only different flavors.
Excellent references available from ex-wife.
Some books that have impacted my life over the years: Stranger in a Strange Land, The Source, Illusions, Atlas Shrugged, The Four Agreements. My favorite movies: Braveheart (exemplifies taking a stand for something, plus a great love story); Bored of the Rings. Aliens was three of the scariest movies I've ever watched. Music--love that old time rock'n'roll, but appreciate jazz/dixie/bluesr. Food--Japanese is just the best, from sukiyaki to sushi. Always up for ethnic food of almost any kind. Ever been out for Mediterranean food, with the rule you can't feed yourself? (remember, you eat with your hands)
sun on the water
hot springs in the wilderness
laughing so hard with friends we can't breath
a passionate kiss that never ends
How to make a real difference in the world.
When I'm going to meet someone that is ready to connect at a truly deep level of intimacy and acceptance.
This poem that I wrote today, March 15, 2016, speaks to you.
Breath in. Breath out. Present.
Intimacy happening, only ever right now.
Warm Arms of Love holding each other,
Eyes locked in Eternal gaze drinking each other’s soul.
There is no other, no you, no I.
The Divinity of Oneness melds our souls together as our bodies merge in a timeless mounting passion of Right Now.
No I no you only one, as hearts hammer one breath quickening butterflies inside, spirit slides shared in our gaze as our body explodes and our soul soars within the within the heaven of Now!
Breath in. Breath out. Present.
We know us as loved and loving once again in the Divine Intimate Moment of Now.