openandactive
35Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
Passionate
Political
Shameless Anti-authoritarian
Work hard play hard
Love to laugh (laugh at the world so it doesn't kill you)
Love to make people laugh
Lover of all genders and gender benders
Sensitive
Passionate in all senses of the word
Vers
drummer

I appreciate direct communication and emotional intelligence.
I dont like the games where people test each other or hint at what they want.
Im finally enjoying the grey areas of relationships in between the hard boxes of partner, friend, lover, etc...although I still appreciate clarity around intentions, feelings and desires.
I really like to dork out on relationship models and the variety of shapes and forms they can take.
What I’m doing with my life
Working in a labor union.
Playing drums in an old school queer glam punk band.
Fighting for the destruction of capitalism and all of the systems of oppression that exist to keep rich white men in power.
Exploring how to slightly reduce the level of high adrenaline jobs and general life activities that I seem to have become a little addicted to...or at least being more conscious of all of this excitement Im cramming in and why Im doing it.
And trying to get back to being more present in this moment.

For fun:
Staying physically active
Drums
Soccer
Backpacking
Running the streets
Going to mama ocean

Trying to break the routine...road trips, getting into the woods, exploring and trouble making. My schedule is irregular which allows me to get out of town during the week which I need to do more of.
I’m really good at
Eating, laughing, drinking whiskey, sports on the ground (NOT the ones with skates or wheels or in water...its just embarrassing really), drums, over-thinking things, taking my time, getting lots done, smelling things...I appreciate open communication and the ability to talk about sex, relationships, and other partners (sometimes it can be quite sexy) and think Im pretty good at that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think the red hair wins out unanimously on this...
Maybe the eyes or missing teeth
Upon a handshake...my beat up hands
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Currently:
Books: Non Violence Aint What It Used To Be, Being Peace, Women Who Run With Wolves
Music: Old school punk (before the macho amoeba took over), Chvrches, A Tribe Called Red, NIN, John Prine, The Stooges, David Bowie, The Internet, ABRA, Kali Uchis, Blood Orange, Jungle
Food**- Was sick off and on for a year and then tried cutting our gluten and dairy. I really want to go back to eating pasta every day and ice cream and cheese every day...but I feel waaaay better.

Recently:
Books: Mexico Unconquered, The Dispossessed, Love and Struggle, Kuwasi Balagoon (Anarchist Panther), Robert and Mabel Williams (Negroes With Guns)
Music: Buena Vista Social Club, T Rex, The Damned, Townes Van Zandt, John Prine
Food: NY Pizza cause I went back and aint shit out here that compares

Classics:
Books- Homage to Catalonia, The Importance of Living, Anarchism and Other Essays by Emma Goldman
Music: Morphine, Janes Addiciton, Faith No More, Nina Simone, The Coup, Amy Winehouse, Taj Mahal, Parliament, Ry Cooder, Bad Brains, Hurray for the Riff Raff
Food: Bread and cheese and ice cream...of which I can no longer eat god damnit
Six things I could never do without
-athletic activity
-music: playing and listening
-Bourbon ...or ice cream...or bourbon ice cream! I win!
-That smell when I get into the woods after leaving the city
-Physical Intimacy
Friends, family and chosen family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
In general- too many things.
Finding meaning in what I do
Who I prioritize time with

Being a white, working class, hetero passing, cis male
How the above shapes my reality
How that reality gives me privilege
How that privilege plays out in political spaces and relationships

Gender roles
Labels like queer and hetero
The assumptions that come with those labels
How rejecting labels is a privilege

Consent to be dominant or dominated in bed

Being happy getting older

butts
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing a show
Drinking good bourbon on a stoop
Driving to the woods
Friends
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I thought the viper security system was an electronic toy snake hidden in a car until recently.
You should message me if
Im looking for a boo. I dont have to be your only boo, but Im looking for solid, deep connections with partners. Im not great at "taking things slowly"...I make up my mind pretty quickly about people. If I feel a good connection with someone I go deep quickly. I fall in love with people quickly. I used to think I should change this but I want to embrace it.

Im also not prone to monogamy. Theres a lot of different arrangements outside of that, but Im interested in dating people who are open to dating and/or sleeping with other people...ideally this could happen on our own and sometimes together.

Im also interested in having kids. Its not a mandate, and not something Im dead set on, but itd be cool if this conversations was on the table.

So if you have rad politics, interested in a lot of sexual exploration together, are looking for a deep connection with someone and open to talking about kids, you should definitely message me :)

Im also open to a couple options outside of finding a main boo:
a) Someone or a couple who is open minded and a bit kinky to have some fun naked time with
b) Rad, fun people to be solid friends with and maybe fall into bed with sometimes.

Other tid bit requirements:

- You dont find the idea of talking about your emotions scary

- You are in some way engaged politically (and far left)

-If you think Bisexual as a term is way too limiting and furthers the idea that gender is binary

-Im very attracted to androgyny

-If youve noticed that Ive looked at your profile and you think we'd get along but I haven't messaged you- say hello!
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