openandactive
34 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
Updates are due soon- recently broken up with my main partner and possibly switching up jobs to find another physical job that requires slightly less adrenaline.

Passionate
Political
Shameless Anti-authoritarian
Work hard play hard
Love to laugh (laugh at the world so it doesn't kill you)
Love to make people laugh
Lover of all genders and gender benders
Sensitive
Passionate in all senses of the word
Vers
drummer

I appreciate direct communication and emotional intelligence
I dont like the games where people test each other or hint at what they want.
Im finally enjoying the grey areas of relationships in between the hard boxes of partner, friend, lover, etc...although I still appreciate clarity
Poly/open/non-monogamous and I really like to dork out on relationship models, sex, gender
What I’m doing with my life
Under construction...............

For fun:
Staying physically active
Drums in punk bands
Soccer
Backpacking
Running the streets

In theory:
Trying to break the routine...road trips, getting into the woods, exploring and trouble making
I’m really good at
Eating, laughing, drinking whiskey, sports on the ground (NOT the ones with skates or wheels or in water...its just embarrassing really), drums, over-thinking things, taking my time, getting lots done, smelling things...I appreciate open communication and the ability to talk about sex, relationships, and other partners (sometimes it can be quite sexy) and think Im pretty good at that.
The first things people usually notice about me
Lots of red hair- update** now people notice its gone
Maybe the eyes or missing teeth
Upon a handshake...my beat up hands
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Currently:
Books: How The Irish Became White
Music: Old school punk (before the macho amoeba took over), Chvrches, A Tribe Called Red, NIN, John Prine, The Stooges, David Bowie
Food- Thai Noodles...mmmm, kale salad, burritos with carnitas

Recently:
Books: Mexico Unconquered, The Dispossessed, Love and Struggle, Kuwasi Balagoon (Anarchist Panther), Robert and Mabel Williams (Negroes With Guns)
Music: Buena Vista Social Club, T Rex, Old Crow Medicine Show
Food: NY Pizza cause I went back and aint shit out here that compares

Classics:
Books- Homage to Catalonia, The Importance of Living, Anarchism and Other Essays by Emma Goldman
Music: Morphine, Janes Addiciton, Faith No More, Nina Simone, The Coup, Amy Winehouse, Taj Mahal, Parliament, Ry Cooder, Bad Brains, Hurray for the Riff Raff
Food: Bread and cheese and ice cream
The six things I could never do without
-athletic activity
-music: playing and listening
-Bourbon ...or ice cream...or bourbon ice cream! I win!
-That smell when I get into the woods after leaving the city
-Physical Intimacy
-Sleep- I miss sleeping in
I spend a lot of time thinking about
In general- too many things.
Finding meaning in what I do
Who I prioritize time with

Being a white, working class, hetero passing, cis male
How the above shapes my reality
How that reality give me privilege
How that privilege plays out in political spaces and relationships

Gender roles
Labels like queer and hetero
The assumptions that come with those labels
How rejecting labels is a privilege

Consent to be dominant or dominated in bed

Being happy getting older

butts :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing a show
Drinking good bourbon on a stoop
Driving to the woods
Friends
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I thought the viper security system was an electronic toy snake hidden in a car until recently.
You should message me if
a) Someone (or multiple) who is open minded and a bit kinky to have some great sex with..potentially with my partner as well
b) A friendship with love and care that may exist in the grey area
c) If you are someone interested in a more committed relationship but comfortable discussing and exploring different ideas around polyamory.

- If you dont find the idea of talking about your emotions scary

- You are in some way engaged politically (and far left)

-If you think Bisexual as a term is way too limiting and furthers the idea that gender is binary

-Im very attracted to androgyny

-If youve noticed that Ive looked at your profile and you think we'd get along but I haven't messaged you- say hello!
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