Work hard play hard
Love to laugh (laugh at the world so it doesn't kill you)
Love to make people laugh
Lover of all genders and gender benders
Passionate in all senses of the word
I appreciate direct communication and emotional intelligence.
I dont like the games where people test each other or hint at what they want.
Im finally enjoying the grey areas of relationships in between the hard boxes of partner, friend, lover, etc...although I still appreciate clarity around intentions, feelings and desires.
I really like to dork out on relationship models and the variety of shapes and forms they can take.
Playing drums in an old school queer glam punk band.
Fighting for the destruction of capitalism and all of the systems of oppression that exist to keep rich white men in power.
Exploring how to slightly reduce the level of high adrenaline jobs and general life activities that I seem to have become a little addicted to...or at least being more conscious of all of this excitement Im cramming in and why Im doing it.
And trying to get back to being more present in this moment.
Staying physically active
Running the streets
Going to mama ocean
Trying to break the routine...road trips, getting into the woods, exploring and trouble making. My schedule is irregular which allows me to get out of town during the week which I need to do more of.
Maybe the eyes or missing teeth
Upon a handshake...my beat up hands
Books: Non Violence Aint What It Used To Be, Being Peace, Women Who Run With Wolves
Music: Old school punk (before the macho amoeba took over), Chvrches, A Tribe Called Red, NIN, John Prine, The Stooges, David Bowie, The Internet, ABRA, Kali Uchis, Blood Orange, Jungle
Food**- Was sick off and on for a year and then tried cutting our gluten and dairy. I really want to go back to eating pasta every day and ice cream and cheese every day...but I feel waaaay better.
Books: Mexico Unconquered, The Dispossessed, Love and Struggle, Kuwasi Balagoon (Anarchist Panther), Robert and Mabel Williams (Negroes With Guns)
Music: Buena Vista Social Club, T Rex, The Damned, Townes Van Zandt, John Prine
Food: NY Pizza cause I went back and aint shit out here that compares
Books- Homage to Catalonia, The Importance of Living, Anarchism and Other Essays by Emma Goldman
Music: Morphine, Janes Addiciton, Faith No More, Nina Simone, The Coup, Amy Winehouse, Taj Mahal, Parliament, Ry Cooder, Bad Brains, Hurray for the Riff Raff
Food: Bread and cheese and ice cream...of which I can no longer eat god damnit
-music: playing and listening
-Bourbon ...or ice cream...or bourbon ice cream! I win!
-That smell when I get into the woods after leaving the city
Friends, family and chosen family
Finding meaning in what I do
Who I prioritize time with
Being a white, working class, hetero passing, cis male
How the above shapes my reality
How that reality gives me privilege
How that privilege plays out in political spaces and relationships
Labels like queer and hetero
The assumptions that come with those labels
How rejecting labels is a privilege
Consent to be dominant or dominated in bed
Being happy getting older
Drinking good bourbon on a stoop
Driving to the woods
Im also not prone to monogamy. Theres a lot of different arrangements outside of that, but Im interested in dating people who are open to dating and/or sleeping with other people...ideally this could happen on our own and sometimes together.
Im also interested in having kids. Its not a mandate, and not something Im dead set on, but itd be cool if this conversations was on the table.
So if you have rad politics, interested in a lot of sexual exploration together, are looking for a deep connection with someone and open to talking about kids, you should definitely message me :)
Im also open to a couple options outside of finding a main boo:
a) Someone or a couple who is open minded and a bit kinky to have some fun naked time with
b) Rad, fun people to be solid friends with and maybe fall into bed with sometimes.
Other tid bit requirements:
- You dont find the idea of talking about your emotions scary
- You are in some way engaged politically (and far left)
-If you think Bisexual as a term is way too limiting and furthers the idea that gender is binary
-Im very attracted to androgyny
-If youve noticed that Ive looked at your profile and you think we'd get along but I haven't messaged you- say hello!