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My self-summary
I am orangecape because orange is my favourite colour - front and centre, big and bright. Also because capes are awesome. If you haven't tried one you should fix that.

I am an intense, passionate intellectual who loves mental challenges, games, and discussions and places almost no importance on status, profession, or wealth. I don't give a crap what your salary is but if you can dazzle me with science or logic I will fall madly in love.

I am in an open, polyamorous marriage to purpleishgreen. (Her account is currently suspended, though.) We are open and honest with everyone about this; there is nothing to hide. I am not looking for any relationship type in particular because that depends very much on the person. With some people I would find a FWB thing most fitting, with others it might resemble a more classic love affair. I love falling in love, and unsurprisingly sex is a big motivator too.

The best word to describe my orientation would be heteroflexible. I am open to relationships with anyone regardless of sex or gender identity but I can't ignore the fact that my sexual attraction almost exclusively pings for female bodies. I think it would be pretty cool if I was sexually attracted to more types but it hasn't happened so far.

I lean pretty far left politically (if you vote Conservative then don't even bother talking to me) and think that 'normal' and 'tradition' are dirty words. I am also a serious atheist and will often ask you to cite your sources, provide confidence intervals, and if your study isn't properly double blinded then gtfo. Being a feminist and having progressive politics in general is also an important part of who I am.

If you know about Myers Briggs personality types I generally score as iNTj. This means I recharge with quiet time and I am organized but neither in extreme. However, I am always a rational, big picture thinker. I feel tremendous passion for so many things but I make decisions about which passion to follow in a logical, scientific way!

My life took a strange path - I got a math degree, sold beds for a few years, and now I do the homemaking gig and work on raising my 8 year old along with my numerous geeky side projects. How exactly I ended up here is a bit of a mystery to me but I like it.
What I’m doing with my life
I spend my days building and analyzing games and systems as well as blogging regularly at I love to read about politics, science, and economics and have debates with smart people who can push me to increase my understanding and smack my ass down when I am wrong.

I seem to be pulled in two directions. I live in the heart of the city and spend time writing about esoteric concepts on the internet and yet I grew up in the country and have proficiency with canoe paddles, axes, and campfires. I enjoy both arguing politics and skinny dipping in a frigid lake.
I’m really good at
Games of all sorts from Dungeons and Dragons to Settlers to poker to Civilization to Magic:TG. I love to build games as well as play them and in the past I have created a couple of board games, built mods and simulators for computer games, and I am currently focused on building a roleplaying game. You can find my games here:

I fancy myself a writer but have not yet broken the 'get paid real money for doing what I love' barrier. I enjoy debate and public speaking whether for serious purposes or comedy; sometimes the comedy I provide is even intentional.

I am bad at cracking eggs. I always seem to get guck on my hands and have to pick out shell bits.

Also I am absolute garbage at Trivial Pursuit. I fail the entire popular culture and sports sections so if you are on my team you will be very sad unless you desperately need someone for math, history, and science.
The first things people usually notice about me
Likely the bandolier full of explosive rounds, the shotgun, the can of gasoline, and the flamethrower. I take my zombie apocalypse prep seriously, and so should you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I love Ender's Game from my childhood (the author's objectionable views notwithstanding) and A Song of Ice and Fire from adulthood.

Music - I love Brunuhville. It makes me feel like I am in a some kind of epic fantasy story, a hero ready to charge down the throat of evil to save the world.

TV - I don't own a TV but I do binge watch stuff on Netflix on occasion. Archer, Daredevil, Jessica Jones, Firefly, Game of Thrones, and Downton Abbey are some of my favourite shows.
The six things I could never do without
The feeling of soft grass or beach sand beneath bare feet
Friends who push me to be more than I was before
Wikipedia (The greatest collaboration of all time)
Passionate embraces and mindblowing kisses
The thrill of intense competition
Long walks filled with contemplation or chat
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I try to understand how human emotions interact with logical systems. Games are the obvious example but thinking about how people will approach new laws, systems of government, or products is a fascinating exercise. Obviously I am wrong most of the time (everyone always is) but I can't stop wanting to know.

I think, read, and talk a lot about privilege and taboos surrounding sex, gender, and desire. I wonder how we can pry people away from conservative religious oppression and promote a society with hippy sorts of ideals.
On a typical Friday night I am
Rappelling down the side of a skyscraper while fighting half a dozen ninjas in black outfits. Worrying about what happens when I defeat them and their boss (wearing a red outfit, naturally) comes after me while cursing the incompetence of his minions. Eventually I wind up saving a busload of orphans from a nuclear powered alien from under the sea. My Saturday nights, on the other hand, get pretty wild.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I am walking or riding about I have constant daydreams about being a superhero and fighting crime with my astounding powers. I leap from car to car or building to building saving the world from evil. That world is so much simpler than the shades of grey the real one is composed of.
You should message me if
You are polyamorous and you want to test the romantic waters with a quirky guy who has things to say about nearly everything and a voracious appetite for new knowledge.


You like what you see and want to hang out with me and talk about some of the things I mentioned above or maybe play some games (possibly ones of my own devising) without any particular emphasis on relationships or romance.