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My self-summary
Andro genderqueer dyke person prone to episodes of dancing in grocery stores and getting lost (like in the supermarket, new neighborhoods, my own neighborhood, the bathroom when I accidentally turn the lights off before unlocking the door, my own head, etc).

Shamelessly dedicated to making a fool of myself and enjoying my own company/laughing at my own dad jokes/using self deprecating humor as a positive reframing tool.

Lover of words and loving with words.


Embodiment of various midtown queer clichés- ie guitar player, spoken word artist, American Spirit smoker, IPA drinker, etc.

Communication addict with alternative lifestyle and alternative lifestyle haircut to match.

[Pronouns are they/them or he/him.. every once in a while I'll get a bee in my bonnet and have a "she" moment though. It's all pretty fluid. A grey zone of fuckery, if you will.]
What I’m doing with my life
Being queer and polyamorous and artsy and kinky and folding laundry and forming opinions about important social issues.

Grad school for marriage and family therapy with the eventual goal of becoming a licensed sex therapist.

Making an intentional commitment to setting out on more bay area adventures. I have a special kind of love for Sacramento but I feel the need to mix things up a bit and broaden some horizons.

You can find me all over the Sacramento grid performing songs or poetry, participating in some community event, or just gallivanting around.
Also karaoke. You can often find me there, too :D
I’m really good at
Dog charming
Music making and lyric writing
Discussions about sexology
Last minute essay writing
Drunk cooking
Discussions about queer theory
Interpretive street dancing
Expression in word form
Discussions about kink and power exchange
Whistling really, really loudly. If I could get paid to whistle I would probably make a lot of money. I'm sure someday this will come in handy. I am hopeful.
Beer drinking
Making fun of myself
Picking up new languages and reviving the ones that have gone rusty in my mind
The first things people usually notice about me
My haircut, probably
My tattoos, even though I don't have that many of them (YET)
How fucking flamboyant I am
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: Haruki Murakami, Jonathan Safran Foer, Augusten Burroughs, Natsuo Kirino, Janet Fitch, Autostraddle ;)

Jamz: The Knife, Wild Nothing, The Radio Dept, Fever Ray, Shiina Ringo, Bonobo, Snowmine, Trailer Trash Tracys, Conor Oberst, The Mary Onettes, SOAK, a lottt of 90's and early 2000's rnb, Prefuse 73, Santogold, T&S, Daughter
The six things I could never do without
Journal + Pen + Guitar
Queerfam buddies and generally rad humans
Open communication
Hot butches and masculine of center or andro queers
My dog Simon who lives with my mom <3
... and a decent haircut

Honorable mention to autostraddle.com
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Intersectional feminism.
Cultural appropriation and how best to call out or call people in about it.
New songs and poems I am writing, and my giant backlog of unrecorded material.
Buying more gloves and dental dams
If people who work at food places resent when I order food to go but then end up eating all of it inside.
What various individuals might be like in bed.
What various individuals might be like in bed with me.
Activities in bed with various individuals.
Different vitamins and herbs and their health properties.
Cute people.
Why the heck my bearded dragon won't eat the bugs I give him but then runs around my house "hunting" for food.
On a typical Friday night I am
Getting drunk and crying about gender.

Just kidding. I don't cry about it much anymore.
I'm probably singing karaoke somewhere on the grid. Or at some specified event/fundraiser/gathering.
You should message me if
-You want to meet in person at some point.
-You like dogs.
-You are polyamorous or at least polyam-literate/friendly
-You like kink
-You are aware of a number of social justice issues and are passionate about them.
-You're really queer.
-And really visibly queer, possibly on the more masculine end of the spectrum or the middle and maybe get mistaken for a boy sometimes but still are attracted to faily androgynous people or don't have a huge preference on a partner's gender presentation but preferrably the prior goddammit ughhbjkhljlkn
-You want to discuss Conor Oberst lyrics with me.
-Or my lyrics with me!
-You want to play word games on paper with me.
-Or draw pictures.